Me and my husband have been separated for almost a month. He hasn't filed for the divorce yet and he created a myspace profile and put the he's single. I created a fake one n he accepted me as a friend... to make story short he has been saying bad things about me to the gurl i created on myspace. He sed that he came out of a terrible relationship and that he's really happy, that I had problems n dat he also did but that I was just out of control!! I'm so hurt by what he wrote I know I should move on but I don't understand why he's writing bad things of me after we agreed to let the marriage go in peace. Could it be that he's just sayin it to feel better or could it really be true?? I never cheated on him, the reason why we're separated is cuz he sed I nagged n b*tched alot but dats about it.. I always cooked n cleaned. I jus don't get it.
2007-06-21 07:10:22 · 33 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's a jerk. My friend is going through a divorce and her husband is doing the same thing. He keeps telling everyone how awful she is and that she cheated on him and stuff. Trust me, it was the other way around. She was a perfect wife and he treated her like garbage. Anyway, he's really just saying these things to make himself feel better, and to make people feel sorry for him. Just be glad that he is no longer your problem. I'm sure that you were a good wife. Just enjoy the fact that now you are free to find a man who deserves you and will treat you right. Good luck.
2007-06-21 07:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's typical for a person who is going thru a breakup to blame the other person for what was wrong in the relationship. He probably also enjoys pity parties from the ladies. Sympathy is the best way to get to the ladies. We are always like poor baby, she did him so wrong. Never asking questions as to why this woman was acting this way towards the man.
Anyways....let it go, let him vent....I'm sure that your perspective on what happened in the relationship is not the same as his. There are 3 sides to every story, what she said, what he said....and what really happened. A month isn't that long to be separated actually, maybe both of you will find error in your ways and end up back together before it's all over with. Nagging seems like such an immature reason to end a marriage. Both of you have some growing up to do.
2007-06-21 07:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Erica D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is just a selfish prick and you need to carry on any guy who would start saying this crap about someone they once loved is pathetic and sad. I think you need to come to the realization that he may just be saying this stuff because he knows divorce is going to screw him over.
Really though stop lying to yourself and to him he is using this myspace to vent probably to save money on a shrink. I think you need to just either tell him the truth or tell him that you do not feel comfortable being a myspace friend with him.
Life is too short to play these games find a new guy and get a new life going.
God Bless and Best Wishes.
2007-06-21 07:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. They usually do it when they want to make themselves look better to other people. It is hurtful, but it can not be used in your divorce (like others suggested). It is deception without knowledge. Just start talking about your (the Myspace you) ex and then AFTER the divorce and stuff is over, tell him it's you. You will get a good laugh and he'll feel like a total *ss.
2007-06-21 07:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is simple. He seems to be working his way back into the dating scene, if he makes you sound like an ogre then other women will feel sorry for him and be willing to date this "poor man". He's just trying to get laid. Ignore him, it's hard but you can do it. Why wait for him to file? You can file for divorce too, obviously you don't want him back knowing how he feels about you. You could also possibly bring this up to your lawyer, he may have some interesting advice for you. Right now tho You are free, enjoy it. Why not? he obviously is.
Remember the lies he tells to these women are a simple ruse to get pity sex. Most importantly, you know these are lies. So continue being the wonderful secure lady you are. He's the one being slimey. Like most slime, you rid yourself of it, not listen to it.
2007-06-21 07:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by maev 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the reality is that society still looks at divorce as a great stigma despite it's popularity so it's not uncommon for someone to "bad mouth" a spouse in order to make themselves look better. like saying " the divorce was because my spouse was a let down not me". but really, it takes two to divorce and when a guy bad mouths his spouse it means:
he's still hurt
he's trying to make himself look desirable, like he wasn't the reason it ended.
he's immature.
either way, anytime a guy bad mouths his exes, i immediately lose interest in them. there are two sides to a story and it makes me wonder how they will bash me if it doesn't work out.
move on and forget about him. don't call him out on myspace. don't even tell him in person about it. just let it go. playing this game with him is only hindering you from moving forward.
2007-06-21 07:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
People who peep into places they shouldn't often hear nothing good. At least you know what a lying scumbag he really is, and I think you are better off without him. Only you and he know what really went on in your marriage, so don't be hurt by what he is saying on his profile, etc. Get divorced from him as soon as you can, and I really hope you find one of the good guys out there next time.
2007-06-21 07:17:14 · answer #7 · answered by Normsgirll 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity killed the cat...Hello Kitty. Leave his myspace page and him alone. Sounds like you didn't need to be with him in the first place if you have to pretend to be someone else in order to know how he feels or what he thinks. You both are in unique places right now...no one ever wins in a divorce. Let bygones be bygones; live your life and let him live his. You know the truth and what other people think doesn't pay your bills. To hell with it and all who believes his lies. Just don't you stoop to his level.
2007-06-21 07:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by gmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be mean, but you basically proved a bit of something when you deceived him online. You basically lied to him to get him to confide in you, and then you didn't like what you heard. Unfortunately, if you go looking for trouble most times you'll find it.
What did you expect to hear him say about you? You two just have split. You are both still hurting from it.
Though you are right, he shouldn't have listed himself as single just yet. It sounds like he's already moved on. Maybe it's time to make it official to keep him a bit more honest.
2007-06-21 07:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by Dino 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's angry and this is his way of lashing out. Your separated and getting a divorce....just let it go. Don't deal with him, or think about him. Move on and have a better life without him in it.
2007-06-21 07:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by son_of_glen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋