with mine, occasionally i'll playfully swat 'em on the arm (and they know i'm playing), or if they are being rude, or say something they aren't supposed to and mom/dad is not around to yell at them, i'll wack them on the head (not hard, just to get their attention), and they do the same to me, but we don't hit each other when we get into arguments, we usually just fight with words (which sometimes hurts more), but when it comes to hitting sibs, what's ok, and what's not? and don't say "absolutely no hitting", yeah, 'cause that's not gonna happen, and you know it.
2007-06-21 07:01:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
When I was little my brother and I would get so mad at each other that we'd get into fist fights, and we both turned out fine. I think as long as no one gets hurt it doesn't matter. We used to smack each other around all the time, but we never tried to hurt each other, and no one every really got hurt... it was just a way to clear the air and get rid of bad feelings.
2007-06-21 07:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Leonor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be really unpopular for this answer, but all siblings, male or female, need a good smack once in a while. Sometimes that's is what it takes. My brother and I got into one--ONE--fight when we were probably 10 and 12 and that was the last time we ever hit each other. Haven't always been nice to each other, but never any more hitting.
Unless there is a huge size/strength difference, then let 'em rip. At least once. One of them is going to learn that the other is going to win. It won't be pretty and you might have to step in to break it up, but it needs to happen. Siblings have fought since Biblical times and they will until all life dies. It's nature.
2007-06-21 16:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by redwalnut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair Fighting Rules - applies to couples, siblings, friends, and parent/child;
1] no physical violence
2] no calling names
3] no teasing about something they can't change overnight
[ you're so fat/short/ugly ]
4] no threatening of violence, verbally or through body language
5] one person talks at a time - if things get heated, go in the kitchen and set the timer for two minute turns - this allows you and partner to fully express problem,and offer a solution
6] no use of ; 'you always' or 'you never'
7] no cursing
8] no histories of every argument ever
9] express thru 'I feel like... when you...' phrases or sentences
These rules work very well for my family - we tease each other with swats, tickles, and wrestling moves!
2007-06-21 14:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with playfighting and playful wacks on the arm, but I'd draw the line and hitting kids on the head, even in jest. Brains are pretty delicate and kids skulls and necks aren't that strong; it would be too easy to cause damage without meaning to.
2007-06-21 14:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there's anything wrong with that. I have 6 brothers and sisters, and we sit back and laugh about how we use to tease each other, and hit each other all the time. To tell you the truth, we still (playfully) hit each other all the time. I don't think it'll ever stop! That's part of being brothers and sisters.
2007-06-21 14:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kendra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in the way you describe it i see no issues. I was the same with my sibs. i agree fighting with words can hurt alot more. as long as you never hit in anger, i dont see way not. If your parents have an issue with it then try and listen to them. Otherwise i dont see any problem.
2007-06-21 14:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as me and my sister when we are mad, we just cuss each other out and we are OK in about 10 minutes. But we never like hit each other like me and my brother hit each other. Its all just foolish play and rough housing but me and my brother just punch the hell out of each other at random times. Not in the face but every where else. As far as my family goes, its no hitting below the belt (which we do anyway) and no face shots. As far as actual fights go, we all just aim for the face anyway.
2007-06-21 21:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♫♪2 kids+1 wife=magical♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
playfully swat arm is fine, head be careful, they might turn around when you are doing it and get hit in the face by mistake. I always would pin my brother down and start tickling him - that always got his attention. :-)
2007-06-21 14:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by Summer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My general rule growing up was as long as no blood was present the parent's didn't get involved. There is always going to be some sort of sibling rivalry to take care of.
2007-06-21 14:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no hitting sister... thats a absolute
but you can playfully swat them on the butt
and all the pretend kicksand all, but dont punch them so they are bruised
2007-06-21 14:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by Blaker Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋