My Husband's friend since childhood makes me feel.. Horrible.
At a glance, he is nice. But every single time I see him, he talks about how he hates everything I am.. " I could never be with a really feminine girl, I'd feel like I would break her... I don't like blounde people.. I hate big boobs... I don't like people from the south.. I could never be with someone who made dinner every night..." Stupid reasons! But, I let it go- he is my hubby's friend , not mine.. Last weekend, We where at a baptism and when my hubby's friend have me a hug goodbye... HE GRABBED MY BUTT!
not a wondering hand, he grabbed my whole butt! I was in shock and I didn't know what to do! after we got home, I told my hubby. He said he would talk to him, but- I still feel so uncomfortable. We have a graduation and a wedding to go to this weekend- He's going to be there. I've never been in a situation like this.
I know it's going to be tense after my hubby talks to this guy.
2007-06-21 06:54:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay away from him. Avoid him like the plague. His words and actions are totally uncalled for. Don't get in between him and your hubby. But, let your husband know that he creeps you out and you won't be around him again.
2007-06-21 07:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by son_of_glen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously...either the guy has the hots for you and is hiding behind immaturity or he's just an a** who thinks he's funny. Either way..next time he does something stupid...confront him in a reasonably (calm, not yelling, but loud enough others can hear) loud voice. Stand up to him and make him see that you refuse to be intimidated by his bullying. If he EVER touches you inappropriately again, step back and either slap his face and say (or just say) "I do not appreciate being groped by someone who is not my husband." Your hubby should take this very seriously then. I know I sure would.
2007-06-21 07:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an @$$!!! Sounds to me like he thinks your hot and keeps saying those things because he knows he can't have you. If he goes for another hug RUN!!!!! I'm sure you know he's probably going to deny it or tell your husband it was an accident and that you misunderstood the WHOLE THING. You know how us women tend to blow things out of proportion (yeah right). Stay away from him at all times!!! Don't let him within 5 feet of you because he's a trouble maker who's stepped WAY over the line!!
Good luck with it!
2007-06-21 07:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost wondering if your hubby isn't a bit like this guy alot of friends have similar qualities that is why they are friends you just haven't seen them yet in your husband. I think it is time to tell your hubby it's you or his friend as in ultimatum. Tell your hubby that his long-time friend makes you uncomfortable and he disgusts you all the time. That the remarks he makes hurt your feelings and he is just disrespectful to you and women in general.
Tell your man he needs to tell his friend good-bye forever or he can say goodbye to you!. If this was any friend of mine and he did this to my wife he would first off get his a ss kicked and then told to go to hell.
Really your husband is disrespecting you just having this jerk in your lives.
God Bless and Good Luck
2007-06-21 07:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband needs some training in how to pick a friend---PLUS--he needs to get his prioritys straight. If someone had done my wife that way, we wouldnt even be in the same room with him. My answer---if your not within 30 feet of him at ANY time he cant do anything---Make it a point, if it is too obvious, thats good, maybe he will take a hint.
Husband should (no MUST) step up to the plate and let him know that HUGGING someone elses wife is not kosher.
2007-06-21 06:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by glenn t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try your best to avoid him, if you can't and if he is married, tell him to keep his hands off of you; in front of his wife, if not you might need to do it in front of your husband only. Do not say anything to hubby's friends, could be used against you behind your back. Sounds like you are a good wife & he is jealous. No more hugs, just a hand shake, and the other hand ready to push him away,,,
2007-06-21 07:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried following him around while he mingles and using his introductions as a way to start conversation with others? I understand being a quiet person but maybe you just need to be more assertive. In my relationship Im the social one and she is the quiet one. I always try to make sure that I include her and help start conversations for her. By this I mean that after I start talking to someone with her present I excuse myself from the dialog and let her pick up where I left off. Maybe you could suggest this.
2016-05-17 04:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband you will attend no further events if your husband's friend is there. Your husband is seriously marginalizing you by failing to take immediate action about this guy. Don't let him do it, even if it comes to the point of saying, "choose your friend or choose me." Just as you have felt uncomfortable, make your husband feel uncomfortable. He is the one I see at fault here, not his jerk of a friend.
2007-06-21 07:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by telling your husband. If this moron grabs your butt again, slap him really, really hard. That will send the correct message. If I was your husband, I would not "just talk to him" I would be irate!!
2007-06-21 07:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that was MY husband's best friend and he knew what was going on, I know for a fact that his friend would not come around us again! If you're husband isn't so worried about what his friend did to you, you might want to watch it with your husband as well. That's kind of weird for him to react like it was nothing.
2007-06-21 07:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋