It was my daughters 2nd Birthday last Saturday & we were suppose to have a BBQ at the house but because the weather was so crap we had to make other arrangements, apart from family there was only our friends Scott and Ciaras' daughter coming, I phoned Ciara the day before & told her where the party was going to be & to be there at 1pm that was ok
On Saturday morning the car was playing up so my partner had to take it to a mechanic & he phoned Scott at 9.30am to tell him the party would be at 2pm instead of 1pm but he didn't answer so he text him the details. At 1.30 I got a message from Ciara asking where we were & I told her that Jonathan had txt Scott to tell him the new time, she went mental & txt me back that they were away to McDonalds as her child was starving, I havn't heard from them since
Scott is our Best Man in October & they seem to have taken the hump with us, we did nothing wrong so i dont see why we should do the running
What do you think we should do
2007-06-21 05:47:44 · 18 answers · asked by ✿Regina Felangie✿ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been a brilliant friend to Ciara, I have minded her 3 children at the drop of a hat so many times, i helped her plan her wedding, I did her wedding make-up, I helped her when she was starting up her own business, i also called into her shop last wk with a birthday card and £20 in it for her birthday, I have been so good to her and she seems to have forgotten all of that
I am not one to hold grudges but I cant forgive her for what she did on my daughters birthday, I always knew she had a selfish streak in her but I didn't think she would begrudge her child going to a birthday party all because things weren't going her way
2007-06-21 05:56:56 · update #1
Scott and Jonathan have been best friends for 24 years, they were at nursery together
2007-06-21 05:59:14 · update #2
Nothing, just wait for them to apologise. They probably feel like idiots because they probably saw the message after throwing a strop.
2007-06-21 05:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by powder 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow they go really mad over something really small. I mean if they were already there and their daughter was hungry get her a snack right? Things happen that are out of your control it wasn't your idea for the car to act up I'm sure you have better things to do with your money than pay a mechanic to fix it right? I would call Ciara and ask her why she's so mad and if things were no better I would back off for a while. If in a few weeks you heard nothing I would ask myself if Scott is the right person to be our Best Man I mean that's supposed to be your best friend and a best friend would have said no problem I understand and certainly didn't do that. Good Luck.
2007-06-21 05:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breakdown in communications causes so many problems. Scott should have told Ciara, but maybe Jonathan should have texted Scott and Ciara both so everyone stayed in the loop.
Fault for everyone in this kind of instance, feel sorriest for the kids who didn't et to play together, and haven't since. Step up and apologise for the mistake, the bigger person always makes the first move.
2007-06-21 05:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by lordmoldishorts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that your friendship is in jeopardy, but true friendships will weather this sort of storm.
You don't think that you did anything wrong, but nor do they! You must know how trying it would be to be sitting outside somewhere for half an hour with a young child.
You should apologise for the breakdown in communication, and hopefully you will have learnt never to rely on a text message to make contact with or get information to someone.
Edit: That answer may not get me 10 points, but you asked us what we thought!
2007-06-24 23:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by nige_but_dim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right that you didn't anything wrong but as you said that Scott is your Best Man then atleast you could go to their place when both of them are available,explain them everything about that day.If they don't change their mind then let them be like that and after that don't do the running.From my point of view if they are the Best Man then going to them for once isn't a bad thing,it won't give you an embarresment type feeling.Rest is up to you to decide.
2007-06-21 05:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mystery Man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try calling her or talking to her face 2 face and tell her how you feel and ask her why is she mad at you because its not like it was her party. Give her time to relax and then see what happens. If she doesnt want to talk to you then all I can say is let her go.True friends will always be true friends no matter what. Yes there will be arguements and friends will not always agree with each other but they will always come back. *I hope I helped* :-)
2007-06-21 07:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they will come round eventually. It is nobodies fault that this happened. Have you contacted them? Maybe best if you make the first step to break the ice. You dont have to apologise, just call and have a chat. Good luck!
2007-06-21 05:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i will put bets on her an scott had a barny that morning an she was trying to play boss infront of him in a sideways effect to put him in his place and she will think since the whole world revolves round her that you will be her best mate again ab the weekend do yourself a favour and keep her sweating
2007-06-28 11:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by licelegs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's 2 sides to a story, she obviously felt you had wronged her in someway but if you feel you haven't I'd ignore her for a bit and be a bit standoffish with her. She won't like that and start wondering what she's done, questioning herself. Sorry but it sounds to me like your a people pleaser and as long as you've got your family i really wouldn't give 2 hoots about her and her petty behavour.
2007-06-29 00:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur rite. ur friend shud understand if things were delayed. it wasnt ur fault. she shudnt have made abig deal bout it and not shown up. thats just wrong and selfish. u can apologize but shes the one that owes an apology.
2007-06-29 05:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by iloveskaterz_duh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋