I've known this girl for 11-12 years and I’ve only found out when I was 10 that I had feelings for her, not just any feelings, feelings that make me feel so different inside when I think about her. Me at first I thought these feelings would go away, I was definitely wrong about that. As the years past the feelings I had for her begun to become stronger and stronger, now I can’t stop thinking about her and it hearts inside. I recently told one of my friends who is a close friend to her to ask her if she would even think about going out with me and she said that she can only like me as a friend. Me I don’t know if I can accept that because the feelings I have for her are making me crazy and to know that I can’t tell her how I feel also hearts inside me, and I don’t know what to do anymore I’ve tried to forget about her but I can’t help but think about her it makes me feel happy and sad at the same time.
2007-06-21 05:43:06 · 10 answers · asked by The EsO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can’t tell her how I really feel because I have this feeling that it will break up our friendship a friendship I don’t want to end, I have a feeling if I tell her how I really feel it may force to do
things even I don’t want her to do, like force her self into liking me or breaking up the friendship because she cant live a life with me bugging her asking her to become my girl. Me I don’t want any of this to happen but I don’t know what to do.
I’ve been thinking lately if I should end the friendship myself because I like her so much that I think I have to let her go and I don’t want to do this, but I have no choice I cant tell her how I feel because I know what might happen, if I do end the friendship I don’t think ill be able to live my life like that anymore, knowing that she doesn’t know how I feel I have to tell her someday but when will that day be. If anyone has another choice for me to take please let me know, a man can only endure so much
2007-06-21 05:50:20 · update #1
People keep telling my to get to know her more but I say how, how am I when I haven’t even got a penny to my name, how am I when I’ve had no experience on any of this, I’m 15 years old and the only boy who doesn’t bring money to school because I don’t have any and its been that way since year 7(for 5 years). So how is a person meant to get to know a person better if they don’t even have 5p in their pocket to even at least buy the person a sweet, so please tell me how?
2007-06-21 05:59:41 · update #2
you people keep telling me to stay as her friend, but the thing is how am i meant to stay her friend and not tell her how i feel, i carn't live a life without telling the person i love how i feel.
2007-06-29 04:40:53 · update #3
first tell her how you feel, youll never have a relationship if you cant even share how you feel. tell her how you feel.
if she says yes, congrats!
if she says no, as much as it may seem like the end of the world, its not.You've spent years just thinking about one person, and youve prolly missed a lot of opportunities. dont limit yourself by thinking that theres only one person you could ever have anything in common with.you dont want lust for one person to blind you from other amazing people
2007-06-29 05:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Natty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more to showing love than just money. Why not make a few cards and leave them randomly about for her to find them? I mean put some thought into what you want to say and gather some construction paper and put it all together. Then you can pick some flowers from the neighborhood, after asking of course, if they're in someone's yard and give them as well. Above all, honesty is the best policy. My husband and I went on a date 24 years ago and that was the end of it. I couldn't see being his girlfriend at the time. 3 years ago, we ran back into each other and hit it off. We were married approx. 9 mos. ago. So, what I'm saying is that, let nature take its course. Right now may not be the time for you but who knows what the future holds. Just being a good friend has its rewards.
2007-06-29 04:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by ronni-m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal: she likes you as a friend, leave it at that. You are 15, your hormones are putting thoughts into your head that your head can't handle at this point in your life, so listen to reason: she doesn't want to lose you as a friend, both you and she don't need to take this to any higher level, and you are being far to obsessed with the idea of having her. Don't you see? You already can talk to her, be with her, etc. The only thing you can't do with her is the sexy stuff...so get over it. If you push you'll lose it all, and for what? Trust me, wanting it is usually better than getting it. Be happy that she trusts you enough and likes you enough to be with you as a friend and if you really do like her, respect her, and want to please her, back off and be a good friend, not a stalker.
2007-06-28 17:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel, if she's your friend she will accept this and still like you. I had the same feelings for a friend of mine and like you I agonized over telling him but, I did it anyway and he accepted that, even though he didn't return those feelings, we're still friends because being friends is better than not having him in my life. Hope this helps.
2007-06-29 05:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Julia M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her. If she doesnt like u then ask if yall can still be friends and she will say yes. and continue wit ur friendship AND FIND ANOTHER BABE. THAT WILL**** U All night long!!!!! UH UH UH OH YEA. RIDE THE HORSE UGH.STICK MY **** INSIDE YO **** IT FEEL GOOD/!!!!! OH YEA!!!
2007-06-29 03:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Helper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, thats so cute!!
Tell her how you feel yourself.. tell her it all.. thats what i went through, but it was the boy who was saying what your saying, and now we love eachother so much, and at first, i didnt really like him.
if that doesnt work, then move on. you can do it. you know you can. everybody has it in them.
2007-06-21 05:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by samanther 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to fight your fear and be honest and open to her. Speak to her in person and let her know how you feel and how you've always felt.
2007-06-21 05:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell her how you feel. if she still says no then you'll kno inside its not ment to be. but she still wants to be friends so she likes you enough to still be friends and thats a start...
2007-06-29 05:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey...stop thinkin like dat...c there's no point in thinkin abt her coz u hv got her answer...its only u who can save urself from dis pain...its not easy but u gotta do it ...for urself...n for d ppl who love u...someone somewhere is made for u...believe in god n he'll make things fine...talk to other gals ...make urself really busy dat u don get time to thk...help urself...plz! one sided attraction is not love...don spoil ur life...life's b'ful...make it worth livin...all da best!
2007-06-21 05:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the girl, and tell her how u feel.
2007-06-21 05:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by vw chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋