What does relationship mean to you?

Question

It seems like our relationships consist of a a set of tools and means to control the other person. Most of the times we do this unconsciously and we refuse to look at this fact. Although we have families, friends, colleagues etc, most of us are very isolated.

Once a wise man said, to be is to be related. What do you think about this?

Answer 1

Good Relationship

Obligation
Teamwork
Self-Sacrifice
Commitment
A true caring.

Is it better to be related---Not necessarily--I don't care for some of my relatives. Some Relatives I don't necessary have to have a relationship with- it hasn't affected my life.

I have had good relationship with some family and friends and special loves. If your talking about Special loves-it takes the above to make it work. It is work -not for the lazy. The only way in those cases I would want to feel related is in the heart not in linage.

Isolated you say--reach out-often people will touch your heart and lift your spirits and those feelings will help and some have long lasting affects..

Answer 2

Relationships can consist of friends, family, or even life partners. You need to put your tools away and find the reason why you love each other. You need to stop being so isolated and stop thinking that controlling another person is love because it is not. Look deep with in the other person and if you see another way to communicate. If you don't, well it was never meant to be. And if you do then well you have a long road of possible happiness.

Answer 3

Relationship is like a rope between you and other people. Because when you tie a rope to an object, that object will remain close to the thing its tied to to. However when you release the object it will go. Relationships are exactly the same when someone goes away its like the stars have gone away from the night sky, the hotness from the sun, and the smile from someones face. When relationships are broken, it hurts because people go away, your life has a turn and people take advantage of you. Also, being in a relationship with a friend is most of the time being isolated as you said, because you are being put under pressure and they expect you to be like them, where you feel uncomfortable but you still force yourself. You should fight through this and go have friends with people who actually appreciate you, who actually think you are a great person not people who treat you like rubbish. Seriously, when you have had enough turn around and walk to people who you actually think are your true friends. Peace out.x

Answer 4

Relationships to me are simply how I interact with other people and how they interact with me.

We have a "relationship" of sorts with every person we come in contact with. It's not necessarily about control (in either direction) but how we relate to one another, interact, and what we are giving and taking from each other and the relationship itself.

I don't feel isolated at all except for rare moments. I have friends and family and am around people much of the time...to be isolated is to be alone ("to set or place apart; detach or separate so as to be alone") but then sometimes, I desire to be isolated. ☺

Answer 5

A romantic relationship is a committment, compromise, acceptance, and love. You must committ yourself to work on improving the relationship, you must often compromise to come to an agreement on many issues, and you must accept the other person for who they are and not try to change them, as change can only come from within. You must love yourself before you can love someone else, and you must love the other person enough to put their needs before your own.

A relationship otherwise with family is different in nature because you do not choose your family, so you must learn to get along or live apart. You must show gratitude and respect for your parents and grandparents because they are the reason you are alive, and you must be a role model to your younger siblings so they can learn from you and hopefully not make the same mistakes you do.

A relationship with a friend is one that you do choose, and you must base it on trust and mutual respect. This relationship must be cultivated and nourished because it can grow year after year and last a lifetime. He who has one true friend is richer than the richest sultan, because one true friendship is greater than all the riches of this world.

Answer 6

No man is an island. It is not good that man should be alone. Being in a relationship is where one learns how to cultivate the good in oneself and in the other, or how to bring out the best in the other person. Unfortunately, many people are selfish and look toward relationships for selfish reasons, which end up bringing out the worst.

Answer 7

Pure relationship: a social relation which is internally referential, that is, depends fundamentally on satisfactions or rewards generic to that relation itself. Pure relationships, like many other aspects of high modernity, are double-edged. They offer the opportunity for the development of trust based on voluntary commitments and an intensified intimacy. Where achieved and relatively secure, such trust is psychologically stabilising, because of the strong connections between basic trust and the reliability of caretaking figures. Given that these connections embrace feelings of security in the object-world, as well as in the sphere of personal relations as such, their importance is very considerable. The pure relationship is a key environment for building the reflexive project of the self, since it both allows for and demands organised and continuous self-understanding -- the means of securing a durable tie to the other. Of course, many actual relationships exist and endure where little symmetry is found, and where each person is held in thrall by traits in the other which on the surface repel them (co-dependency). But the tendencies towards symmetry in the pure relationship are more than just an ideal: they are in large degree inherent in its nature. To be in an authentic relation with another can be a major source of moral support, again largely because of its potential integration with basic trust. But shorn of external moral criteria, the pure relationship is vulnerable as a source of security at fateful moments and at other major life transitions.

Answer 8

To relate is to put two separate things into comparison.

I don't see that there exists two separate things or entities here but only imagined 'selves' acting as separate things.

The only relationship possible under these conditions is the one you describe. Two separate 'selves' coming into proximity in order to get what they think they want from each other.
If one 'self' is not getting what it thinks it wantx then it will invent problems and find another separate 'self' to get it.

If the idea of an imagined entity called 'self' is dropped then only one side attempts to enter 'relationship' as the 'one' lacking a 'self' needs nothing and isn't motivated to look outside to get this imagined need.

Answer 9

I don't much care about it; but it's a comfort to have someone around who has similar interests as me and enjoys doing the same types of things. Outside close friendship I find nothing but people who succeed in life by being abusive so to me this is not relationship

Answer 10

Always putting the other person first! I do this with my husband, my son ,my sisters, my parents and my friends. To always be there for them if they need me, to love them all unconditionally as long as it does not cause harm to me or my son. A relationship should go both ways, bringing repsect to all involved from both ends of the table so to speak. You shouldn't do great things for others to have great things returned you do it out of the kindness of your heart but you have to be true to yourself and don't let someone take advantage of you.