ok i have a 17 month olkd little gurl and one on the way.
my emtions tell me i can do it i can take care of 2 kids just fine i am a great mutha. BUT my mind says ok u have no job the state will be taking care of them for a while. i have one year of tech schooling. i am really having second thoughts abotu everything i am onyl 14 weeks. i am so scared people.
dont be mean please just help me figure out what i am gunna do?
i live ata maturnity home right now. in colorado. i was running from an abusive relatinship sold my car and everything to get out here i have no support system no family out her nuthing i am all alne and feel alone. anyway please help.......
2007-06-21 02:54:00 · 4 answers · asked by Nicole 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Take a deep breath. You will be fine. My mother left her husband (not my father) with 5 children under 7 when it wasn't done. My point is that anything is possible.
You are in a safe place and this is the time to take advantage of all the services offered to you to better your life. You will be able to take care of your children, you will be tired but you can do it. If you need the help of the state right now then take it. It is temporary and when you are in a better financial position you will be able to give back. Maybe mentor someone who will be in the same position that you are in now.
Open your mouth to the director of the home you are in now and tell her you need a little guidance and support and you will be surprised at what can be offered to you. If she can't help then you can ask her to direct you to the appropriate people.
Good luck and you will be fine and you have done the right thing.
2007-06-21 03:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are. Put your second child up for adoption!!! Why bring a child into this world that you already feel is a burden. You are in a sad situation, for you and your children. There are too many couples out there who would love to give your baby a home AND a future. I know it would be a difficult decision ( I am a mom) but wouldn't you 18 years from now like to know your child had a home, food, schooling etc. all the things you are currently unable to provide.
Give yourself and your little girl a fighting chance. While you are pregnant get yourself some education. Trade babysitting with someone else at the home so you can take some classes. There should be a counselor available to you at the home. See what your options are... you do have them!!!!
Good luck
2007-06-21 10:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by cakb1119 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can realate to you running, I ran once, and called the cops once. It's really tough to get out up and over. I'm still trying.
I'm sorry you have gone through so much already.
My mother ran having two children. I think the second child was the final influence for her to make that leap. You can do it. But your gonna need to get help. (friends, family, or professionals, please stay away from relationships for a long long time. Your best to build a solid foundation first.
2007-06-21 10:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't your spell check work?
2007-06-21 11:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Queen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋