I am deaf, and teenager, when I meet my mother's boyfriend's family, in two years, they alway walk around and said "Hi" to me, that all, I meet hearing teenagers, they know that I can read-lip, but still hang out with others, alway talking others, and not to me. Plus I remember last week, when I was walking and saw there old lady who was struck with key in mail, I was tried to explain her that I can help her to open mail, she know I am deaf, that she answer me "No thank" then I replay ok then walk away and look behind that other hearing guy was help her to open, that way I am treated like an outcast...
2007-06-21 02:38:20 · 7 answers · asked by y_nox2002 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry I have bad english :/
2007-06-21 02:43:06 · update #1
Don't worry. You are not an outcast. Maybe the old lady didn't want to bother you.And just ignore people if they treat you differently. I used to be deaf and I know what you mean so just ignore it and you will meet some friends who accept you and like you, trust me. So don't worry. Meanwhile, talk to different people at school or at functions etc, talk about something that interests you and you will make lots of friends. And if someone is mean to you, ignore them and don't be friends with them. This happened to me too and now I have lots of friends. Good luck :)
2007-06-21 02:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people sometimes assume if you are deaf that you are also stupid? A hearing impairment does not affect your intelligence.
Maybe some people are intimidated by the fact that they can't communicate with you. You can read lips, but they can't speak sign language, so they figure that it's too difficult to befriend you?
I am wondering if there is some resource in your community that can help you with this? Try looking under deaf services, or deaf adult services, or service for the deaf in your phone book.
You may be able to link with other deaf teenagers, or, people who can hear but can befriend you. I think the first option would be more beneficial at first, then you and your new friends could go out and make friends with other deaf/hearing people.
Hope this helped.
2007-06-21 09:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Alien Brain 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the way I see things are, people don't treat deaf people like an outcast intentionaly, but simply because they didn't know what to do or say around them.
My case :
There's a half deaf boy in my class, and since i have problems communicating with him; I choose not to talk much with him except for saying hi and stuff.
So I think communication problems is the biggest barrier for people with hearing impairment.
I guess i would be able to talk better with the kid in class if i understand abit of sign language. I dont know where to get books about it tho (well in my country anyway).
2007-06-21 10:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bunny-Octy-Squid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That must be awful. Most deaf or blind people I have known were treated with more respect.
Even some of those who are not deaf or blind have been ostracized from receiving the acceptance they want or need.
Do not take it personally. Sounds to me like you were searching for that acceptance when you tried to help that woman out at the mailbox. She did say no thank you. She was polite.
As for the mother's boyfriend's family, the teenagers may not know what to say to you. My friend's mother was deaf when I was a teenager, and I used to try to mouth-my-words to her, thinking she could read my lips better. She would laugh at me, and tell me to just talk normally. --- Is it possible you can ask your mother or her boyfriend, to explain to them how you feel? Two years is a long time for them not to be able to warm up to you. They may feel intimidated.
I know how you feel, and completely understand. But one question for you: How do you communicate back to them? Is it possible they do not understand what you are saying? Find out from someone who loves you, like your mom. ---
God bless you, and good luck with your problem.
2007-06-21 09:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by C Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No please don't think you are an outcast, I guess some people don't know the proper way to act around someone who has a disability, but that is their fault, not yours. It is hard but try and be outgoing and make friends with people so that you can provide examples to them of how you cope with this problem and the more you show them the more they will understand. Best of luck to you.
2007-06-21 09:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this one deaf kid i know that used to like me, he was an outcast too, like he had no friends, i dont know why , maybe its cause people couldnt talk to him or relate to him. That made him different i guess
2007-06-21 10:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by broz215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.meetup.com and Stripclubs ; I can talk and hear just fine and I don't have any friends,alot of people don't....
2007-06-21 09:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋