I have been with this guy for a while now and i would never doubt that he loves me but when i had to go to my sisters in tennesee for a month he broke it off and said that when i get back we can get back together he let me keep the ring and told me it was going to be okay. When i talked to him after that he never said i love you anymore and when i asked him about it he said that he begged me not to go and i explained to him that if i could have stayed i would have and he was a little upset that i didn't stay for him but he told me not to worry anymore that he doesn't love me because he does i just don't know if i should stay because if he really loved me and didn't plan on cheating on me wouldn't he have stayed together with me when i left
2007-06-21 02:05:54 · 13 answers · asked by Tobi M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There's something really fishy about this situation. On the down side, I think he might have considered cheating. On the bright side, he might have thought that you considered it yourself and wanted to give you the space to enjoy your life before the two of you get married.
2007-06-21 02:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's playing you.... He broke up with you or asked for the split whilst you were away, so that if he did want to play he wouldnt feel so guilty about it. And if you came back on him about it he would use the excuse that he begged you not to go and you were on a break. Only you can make the final decision on whether or not its worth splitting over this, but be sure that if you go away again, he will play, and use you absence as an excuse to do so. Guys often find way to cover up what they really want to get up to and women love to hear the words, i love you, as they think that its enough to make everything ok. If he loved you he wouldnt want you to have a break, bottom line. Be honest with yourself and dont let the sugar coated words fool you. Good luck!!
2007-06-21 09:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he would have stayed with you when you had to leave. Don't you deserve better than an on again off again relationship. You mentioned cheating so there seems to be a lack of trust on your part. Believe me, no relationship can survive without trust. Which by the way, not trusting him is totally understandable. You don't deserve nor do you have to put up with that. Cheating is betrayal and lies. Personally, I wouldn't stay, he has shown you how he feels by his words and actions. No one is ever so desperate in a relationship that they have to tolerate deception, lies and betrayal. You are worth so much more than that, you deserve and should expect honesty, respect and love for yourself in all your relationships.
2007-06-29 07:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by wherehaveallthehippiesgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the two possible scenarios:
1. He cheated or planned on cheating while you were gone
2. He wanted to hurt you while you were gone so you wouldn't leave him next time.
If 1 is true, he's a loser and you should dump him
If 2 is true, he's a person who plays with your head to get what he wants, so he's a loser and you should dump him
Do you see a pattern here? Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering if you're being manipulated or cheated on every time you do what "you" want to do and it doesn't coincide with what "he" wants you to do? You sound better and smarter than that. Dump him before you get more involved.
2007-06-29 00:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear, if he really loved u, he would never have cheated on u even if u came to africa.
U are too good for him and he is smaller than an ant for ever cheating on u.
Move on, PLS
2007-06-21 10:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by ENI B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetheart, he cheated on you. He may still be cheating on you. Any man who cannot handle a month without their partner is a player, and a confirmed one at that.
Run away screaming.
2007-06-28 21:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he doesn't respect you at all...if he acted like this just because you went to visit your SISTER...your own blood...damn..he should of been happy for you and wishing you a good trip. he is shifty...i doubt that he really loves you. if a man doesn't repsect your family..then he is not worth it.
best of luck.
Peace.
2007-06-28 23:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta leave this guy chicken. he is having his cake and eating it. he broke it off with you so he could sleep around without feeling guilty about it. he sound like a waster and you seem to me that you deserve better than him.
Good Luck
2007-06-21 09:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sound a little strange to me! its not like you going away with the girls or anything you were going to your sisters he sounds abit jealous maybe just see how it goes
2007-06-21 09:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by kate robo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmmm sounds really odd to me! i think he's seeing someone else but i think you better just ask him what is going on!
2007-06-21 10:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋