If you had a friend that...........?

Question

had recently become disabled and seemed to be having great difficulty accepting it, suicidal even, how would you help them without becoming or sounding patronising.? He's very fragile at the moment

Answer 1

Just listen and tell him you care- suicidal people don't usually really want to die, they just don't know how to go on living anymore.

I had a friend who killed himself and I blame myself still to this day because I wasn't there for him- I didn't cause the problem or the depression but he asked a simple request of me and I said no- He asked me to go to counseling with him..he was afraid to go alone and I said no because I didn't think it was appropriate for me to go with him.

So just be there for him, help him get through it.

Answer 2

The best thing you can do is let him know you're there for him, any time of the day, and if he ever needs help, you're the person to ask. Listen to him if he wants to talk or express his feelings to you, and be patient and caring. Also be honest, but try not to hurt him. Just being there for someone is the best thing you can do. if he needs a confidence boost, maybe you could get creative and make a book of photos of you and him, and your friends having fun, showing that you care. Tell him everything you love about him!!! Crack jokes and make him smile :) Or if all else fails, bring him to a counsellor, and if he needs your guidance and support, go with him. good luck and hope this helped :)

Answer 3

People are harder on themselves than anyone else. Ask him what he would do if you were in his position? Would he try to lift your spirits by pointing out what you could still do? Would he learn checkers so that you two could play together? Would he just listen as you talked through your frustration? Show him that you are on his side, however he wants you to be, and that he needs to give himself permission to be angry and frustrated. It's okay to hate the situation-- the situation sucks! Then ask him what he wants from you. Continue to be there, and encourage him when he's in a decent mood, and forgive him when he snaps at you. He's dealing with more than you can imagine. It's like a death in his mind, so allow him his grief.

Answer 4

Be there for him , suport him take the time to try to understand even if it's hard to be around him cause of his disablity stay around take the time just to hang out with him ask him what he wants to do before you guys do something and most of all just treat him as if nothing has changed and don't bug him about it

Answer 5

i would tell him that being disabled is not the end of the world there are disabled people in sprorts and doing lots of diffent things life dont end it is just a new begining of leaning to do things diffent and there are alot of people out there willihg to help

Answer 6

Don't let his disability become the elephant in the parlor.
Mutually recognize that it sucks and go from there. Treat him like yer mate which he is.

Answer 7

Let you and all ur friends xpress explicit love and emotions for him.
Express the love.
I repeat
Express the love.
Get work for him which he can do. Make him do the work. get the remuneration for the work done to him. Let him feel independant. and again
Express the love.
May god bless you and your friends to help your friend out of this depression
Love Ajay

Answer 8

i would be there for him,whether it was talking,helping him with things that needed doing,
i would also point out to him his good quality's ,and it sounds harsh but being disabled is not the end of the world,but he has lots to live for

Answer 9

see if you can get him to hang out with other people who are going through the same kind of thing . It is always easier to share with people who really know what you are going through.

Answer 10

i would get them out of the house and back to doing what we always did