My boyfriend and I have different level of education, is it going to work between us?

Question

Sometimes I belive that the level of education makes a difference in peoples character and also my familly wants me to have a boyfriend of the same level of education. I have a master degree, he has only high school, he runs a bar and this makes me crazy too, sometimes I would prefere smb who has an intellectual job and comes home at 6 p.m, not staying all day till midnight in the bar.But I love him too. I am so embarrassed in telling his job to my parents HELP

Answer 1

hard question, I think you should ask yourself a lot of questions, like:
* is he going to work at the bar all his life and do I want a husband who is never at home at night, at the weekends and holidays?
*does the fact that he sees a lot of pretty women at his bar make me feel insecure?? is he the flirty type?
*is he just uneducated or just not very smart?? can I have intelligent conversations with him?
*would he be able to feel at ease with high educated people like my family and friends?? and do I feel at ease with his family and friends??
*does he have any other ambitions in life?? do I think having a bar is being ambitious or would I like to be with a man who has more/other ambitions??

good-luck with your decision, eventually you´ll know what to do and only you know the answer!!!

Answer 2

Are you sure it's his level of education that bothers you or is it his job description. Look at in a different way. What if he owned that bar and it was a very successful place or maybe he was an owner of some other business which is possible without a master's degree. How would you feel about him then. I don't think the problem is with his work or education. I think the problem is with your own feelings about self worth. You need to deal with how you feel and stop putting labels on other people. No one can make you feel any certain way. Only you can determine how you feel and you alone control this. Of course though you should already know this having received a Master's Degree and all.

Answer 3

It will probably never work. Eventually you will want to get married, and buy a house. He will not be able to qualify for the mortgage. Eventually the newness of the relationship will wear off, and he will have all of those women tempting him, while you are at home sleeping. Eventually you will be moving up in your job, and you will be embarrassed to say that your husband has not accomplished very much in life. Most bars don't offer benefits, so you will have to provide them, and I could go on and on.....

I wish you luck with your decision, but if you stay you will have plenty of huge hurdles to jump in order to make it work, and last!

Answer 4

Educational different don't matter much at all. My wife is a diploma holder and I am a PhD. No problems at all. What really matters is how smart they are...i don't mean education. How 'street smart' and how they deal with things. I mean if you are both on the same level or wavelength and can share your feelings, discuss things, and feel similar about the world around you,..then who cares about the job. But, if he feels and thinks so differently then you...then no matter about education...it wont work for long!

Answer 5

Im really dumb and my boyfriends really smart. Doesnt stop us from having fun. Who cares what they think about yours? He just hasn't had a chance to prove himself.Why should he feel bad about not living up to their expectations? Hes employed, he's doing something....What was Einstein again? Dyslexic or something? lifes to short to be stuck up. My stepmum once told me 'you would'nt be so worried about what people thought of you, if you knew how little they did! Shes right, how vain am I? To think the rest of the world gives a shiit? My half grandfather was shunned by my grandmother when my dad remarried as he was a mere station master.....while she was the first woman to ever graduate (as a vet) in Australia. Her mum or granma was responsible for womens lib..... My station master granpa is now 83 and still happily married to the same woman (80), while my stuck up grandparents passed away 10 & 20 years ago.......thats gotta say something! The way Im going i'll live till 109...Every single adult and cousin in my family has a degree in medicine. (my brothers and I are the black sheep. They both have their own thriving electrical businesses, and we have all own our own homes. Ages 34, 28 & 26) & I can guarantee we have had more fun in a year than they have in a lifetime.....stuffy, arrogant, pretentious, boring and PAINFUL. My uncle is the head of surgeons (transplants pancreas) and my aunt is head of the veterinary dept of a top university. When they come over its like someone has died. They are so boring. All they do is 'drop names' and talk about their latest yacht trip round the world...and the latest thesis on so and so...........aarghhhhh ...Im usually in the kitchen with my stepmum at this stage talking about farts and bottoms...dreaming about spiking their meals with laxettes......bring on the humble and meek I say! they're far more interesting to be around than poncy stuck up know it alls....Please dont become like them.....

Answer 6

Get over yourself. Why are you embarrassed about his job? It's not illegal...is it? As long as he's earning enough for himself, his parents/family. If you wanna talk future, then consider if he'll earn enough for you to start a family together. You've a masters, so you probably earn more than enough for the two of you, provided his ego is okay with it.

Difference in background/education can make challenging relationships but as long as there's love, respect and understanding with each other, I think things will work out.

It's one thing for your family to be concerned, but for you to be embarrassed about your boyfriend is not a good sign.

Answer 7

I think any relationship can work, however, it is almost impossible to have a lasting relationship when you are embarrassed about telling people what type of work your boyfriend does. And by the way, the problems isn't your differing levels of education, it's your own attitude toward it.

Answer 8

If you and just you two can talk compatilibily then who care if your parents like him. If you can talk about your job to him, and he understands.......well you get the picture. If you need him home at a certain time, you just said he runs a bar, see if he can change it.

Answer 9

Education level is smt. really important for a real-communication...Opposite things attract each other...Maybe that's why u think u love him..He has a diffrent life from u... If u love so. ,it would be really hard for u to find his mistakes or to judge him or embarassed of him...I think u should think about it for one more time:Is it love or interest? If u're sure about your love then u should venture everything for your love ..it's your life, not your parents' or other people'!

Answer 10

It might not matter in the begining but after a while it will end the relationship now if he is not going to improve himself to your standard. He is not in your league and if he is not heading their it will only cause trouble I know this from experience.