Have any of you women had such abusive relationships with men in general that you have decided to steer clear?

Question

With Dad, Bosses, Husband, Neighbors, Just men in general?

It seems all my life men have been almost abusive to me, my dad, I have worked with an abusive male boss, my neighbor (male) is nasty and conceited, my husband doesnt care unless the $$$ is coming in and is non affectionate and acts like he couldn't give a damn.

I am wondering if any of you feel the way I do about men. Not I am not gay because I do not like women in a sexual way, but I certainly am getting to where men are really disgusting and I have no use for their abusive traits any longer, much less them.

I'm 33, is this too young to be giving up on their b.s.? And I know I will get some criticism, however, are some of you women finding the usefulness of a man obsolete, and do you continue to put up with their crap, and for what?

Answer 1

Sweetheart, have you ever had therapy to help you get over your abusive dad? That's where you need to start. It's true that there are a lot of bad men, (women, too) but there are also a lot of really good ones, and the reason you're attracting the bad ones is because that's what you expect of men. When your father abused you, he taught you that you are worthless, and that's what you expect of men now ,so you are attracted to men who treat you badly. You can fix this. You just need a professional to help you work through your feelings and help you get your self-esteem back. Please make an appointment with a therapist ASAP. All the best to you!

Answer 2

You are right, i know what your talking about and how you feel. My Dad is abusing My Mom emotionally and since i was born i only knew him when i was 17 yrs old and now he has came back i don't understand because the same thing is happening to me too, i have this Father of my child He Loves Me that i know but that feeling of a person not being there for you when you need him sometimes he does but most of the time he is quiet and impatient and shouting at me it is so painfull i wish there was a land where there will be only people who really love each other inspite of their emotions or circumstances. Just be Patient and give Love Back that is the best you can do for yourself and God will reward you for that. You will meet someone who will Love you unconditionally one Day.

Answer 3

Don't tar all men with the same brush. Yes I admit some men are ****-holes, and they give the rest of us a bad name.

Sue your boss if you can, (that'll teach him),

a nice scratch on your neighbor's car might appear over night?

Your husband sounds like a selfish useless man (the word man used loosely).

Why are you with him if he doesn't care for you?

Women rule the earth, and us blokes (sorry I have to admit it!)

So I think you may have had a run of bad luck.

See here-
http://www.ihatemen.com/jokes.cfm?catid=12&status=1

I think that may cheer you up!

Answer 4

yes I find most men are abusive in one way or another. I have been in three abusive relationships, and it seems after you have been with them a year they start in. I'm 45 and wright now I give up on the male speeches.

Answer 5

Don't give up, just move on. There are plenty of nice sensitive men out there. You are just choosing the wrong ones. Be patient, and take your time before allowing yourself to fall in love. Have enough self respect to stand up for your right to be treated with respect and kindness. When you expect it, you will receive it! Don't settle for less.

Answer 6

I was not abused, but I do watch many shows and I stay clear of abusive guys, any guys that drink and smoke.
You are young and should seek a counselor so that you can be helped to get over your hate of men. If you don't get over it, then if you have a future baby boy, you may get to hate him.
-Don't hate all men just because of a few sobs

Answer 7

why are you married?

try living apart from a man in the most general sense and see how you handle the day to day living.
can be most challenging but more fulfilling for a peaceful existence.
your spirit needs some healing and time.
do yourself a favor.....

Answer 8

men in general are not crual you have met only these ones unfortunately but life is beautiful you are still young and you will meet the one that will take care of you .

Answer 9

No... thank God.