me and my friends were wondering if people do have sex on their wedding night! wouldn't it be weird 2 hve sex to a stranger??
isn't it awkward?
is there anyone out there who has been in this situation?
2007-06-20 22:14:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm from India..and this is a very common situation hereabouts. Ppl do have sex on their wedding night ahd have for centuries. It works out fine. Nowadays, couples get close during their engagement period, so its not as awkward either.
2007-06-20 22:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by rayofmoonlite 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From what I hear, even in the most conservative societies, the couples nowadays get to see and talk to each other before the wedding, although they are usually never left alone until they have got married.
Anyway, even in farther off times, apparently arranged marriages weren't always consumated with "much coldness"...
I remember once reading an interesting Arab "love story" based on the real life of a Saudi Princess.
At age 17, her father (or parents) thought it was time for her to get married, and arranged a fiance for her.
She was only supposed to meet her fiance or husband-to-be on her wedding day, but given to her insistence her father agreed that they met before the wedding.
So, she flew to Paris (with some relatives) to buy a special outfit for that moment (and probably some other accessories to combine with it).
I remember reading she mentioned proudly at the Parisian shop that she was going to meet her fiance, but the assistants were unimpressed. Then, she thought to herself: "Western women don't know how to appreciate the small victories of some other women"
When she and her fiance met, they were lucky to be fond of each other from the first moment. After all, that didn't always happen with all couples.
After this, they still spoke on the phone a couple of times, which was also considered unusual by those times.
Finally, the wedding day arrived.
I remember reading she was very calm, but he was a bit nervous.
Usually, it was the bride who was supposed to be nervous and afraid, and the groom calm... Because it was natural for a pure and virginal bride to be apprehensive, for being about to start a new life... (with a man she didn't even know, or had just met...)
After the reception, they left for their honeymoon...
But her now husband told her from the beginning he didn't agree with the way how marriages were carried out in their country, and so they would just have sex when she felt ready.
Anyway, he didn't have to wait too long... On the third day, she gave herself to him...
(I have to read that book again...)
2007-06-21 06:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are billions of people who have gone through it,are going through and shall continue to do so.your question is valid and also interesting.The cultural gap may not enable you to understand and grasp the simplicity of the situation so easily.Once declared as man and wife through various rituals,blessed by the elders,accepted by the society and covered by customs and traditions,they are joined and bound by their 'DHARMA'.How can they remain strangers to each other?SO,a little conversation is all that is required to break and melt the ice between them. Having accepted that they belong to each other,and are one united soul in two bodies, their union of body and mind is a natural consequence.This is a most simple and rough explanation to your question and applies to countries like India and manifests with quite a number of variations in different regions..DHARMA?No exact word for it in English but can be taken to mean a way of life based on respective culture,religion, faith,traditions and scriptures etc. hope.it would give you some idea about arranged marriages and also their durability over a period of time.
2007-06-21 05:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read a ton of books about old asian culture where the marraiges were arranged and yes they did have sex on their wedding night. It's an interesting situation. Most of the couples grow to love each other over time. Parent's wisdom is usually better than our own :)
2007-06-21 05:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Frankly, being married to your spouse (even if he / she is a stranger) and then having sex on their wedding night is still better than having sex with a person that you met at the bar and decided to go back home with! I think arranged marriages are much better than the one night stands that are prevalent nowadays!
2007-06-21 06:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by DrSH 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
well if your willing to go along with the tradition of arranged marriages, then I would think you would go along with the tradition of having sex the wedding night whether you knew them well or not as that is what is "proper" for the honeymoon.
2007-06-21 05:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by jaycee99999999 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents had an arranged marriage. they got to know one another before they were actually married, as most arranged marriage couples do, contrary to popular belief. also...not all couples feel the necessity to have sex on their first night...
2007-06-21 05:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by LoveMeHateMe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To have sex to a stranger. This is weird question. They are married and you call them strangers. If they are strangers then why did they marry. If one does not have sex on the wedding night or a night after, then when will they have sex.
2007-06-21 05:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Never thought about it like that. They are a stranger aren't they. Ha, you were doing some thinking. I dunno but if you find out let me know.
2007-06-21 05:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Fabulous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do, but usually in that case it's called "rape" and not "sex." Arranged marriages are meant to subjugate women.
2007-06-21 10:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by Natty 5 · 1⤊ 6⤋