I need help.
normally I would have no problem dropping 200 dollars for a wedding gift, esspecially for my sister in law.
I spent over 100 just on the shower.
plus my husband just picked up his tux (he is in the wedding)
and that was 140.00
we just had a major UNEXPECTED home repair and are seriously not able to afford a gift at this time.
would it be terribly rude to wait untill they returned from thier 2 week honeymoon to give them thier gift??
I feel like such a shmuck but we just don't have it to give it this saturday.
2007-06-20 21:30:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm pretty sure that the etiquette guides give you up to a year after the wedding to send a gift...you should be fine giving it to them when they get back from their honeymoon...or even later if money is still tight. Family especially should understand.
2007-06-20 22:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Susan P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Any good friend would understand your situation. Weddings, even without the gifts are expensive - you have to travel to get there, pay for accommodation, buy new outfits, drinks when you are there etc etc. By the sounds of it you have already spent well over what most people would have. If you can afford it, there is no point in getting into debt over this wedding! Just write a nice card wishing them well and write an IOU in the card! You could even say that you will pay for their first anniversary meal back at the wedding venue? Think of something or somewhere they could do/go in the future and say you will arrange it for them. You could put welcome home banners outside their home for when they return from their honeymoon -such things show you care - not money. If they are the kind of "friends" to give you the cold shoulder over this - you are better off finding nicer friends! Hope your finances improve soon xx
2007-06-20 22:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting till they get back is not at all terribly rude. I think they will be happy to just get a gift. Between what you have already forked over for the wedding (tux and shower gift-which i think is more than enough), and what you paid on the home repair, and i think you have a pass to wait until they get back. You are not a schmuck, and alot can happen between now and Saturday!
2007-06-20 21:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's absolutely not rude, especially if the bridal couple knows your situation. I think you have up to two months to get a present, but I'd go to Google and look up wedding ettiquette just to be sure. The most important present you can give them is to be present at their wedding. Some people feel it's very tacky to bring a present to the wedding anyway. I know because my mother was one of them, :) Don't worry.
2007-06-20 21:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Maybe leave a note with the card, that a gift should be waiting for them upon their return from their honeymoon. You don't want them to think they lost your gift.
A gift should never put you in debt, do not feel bad.
2007-06-21 01:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be terribly rude either! Acutally not at all. Most couples I know of don't even have time to open all of their gifts until after the wedding anyway!
2007-06-20 21:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is okay to wait to give them their gift I think they will understand your situation just explain to them that you just don't have the money at this time
2007-06-20 21:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by starblazer_2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine to give it after the wedding. (You spent way too much on the shower gift, girl!)
2007-06-21 01:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Explain to them in person, they will understand. They know you care about them.
2007-06-20 21:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well explain to them the situation and im sure the'll understand.
2007-06-20 21:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by PsychoxBunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋