Why is it so hard for me to let go and move on? Part of me wants to break up but I keep running back to him esp when the loneliness creeps in. Its like a personal battle with my own self.
2007-06-20 21:28:33 · 12 answers · asked by swlml 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its hard to fight that feeling to go back but you should. You broke up for a reason, whatever it was, and its hard but keep your dignity and move on! It is lonely and rough but lean on your friends and family. Running back to him will start making you look desparate and like a joke. Be strong!!
2007-06-20 21:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear...i totally understand how you feel. i was in a similar dilemma last year. i've even posted my problems here and regardless of all well-meaning answers i got, i still hung on to that jerk for 6 whole months. like you, i thought i was in love with him. i couldn't let go. i couldn't tear myself away from the relationship tho' i knew then that man was bad news. yes, it was a personal dilemma. but finally, i gained the courage to let go. i stopped contacting him and keep telling myself i would be happier without him. i keep reminding myself the hurt he keeps putting me thru and i finally admitted to myself that this man never loved me. i didn't meet anyone at that time. so, i wasn't on a rebound or anything.
its hard , i know. but you can do it. just keep telling yourself you're better off without him, think of all those hurt he keeps putting you through and finally, learn to...
love yourself more. that is most important.
when you've learnt to do that...you will be able to let go.
trust me. i did. and i know you will too. =)
2007-06-20 22:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by BunnyBunz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible, I have been there. I was in a bad relationship for years--I felt like I could never leave him. Then when I finally got up the courage I met my new man 6 months later and he treats me like a queen!!
Good luck!!!
2007-06-20 21:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle My Bell 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to remind yourself why you want to break up with him. What did he do that made you end the relationship? Did he cheat on you? Was he abusive? Was he a flat-out jerk? Think about that and find a different guy who will treat you right.
2007-06-20 21:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is possible because you are letting him break your heart. i know it is difficult to let go of someone you have loved so much. its like you dream of someone and your entire life goes around this person's wishes, and then one day he betrays you!but you cannot forget the sweet memories. but you have to forget him. snap out of the spell and be strong. love yourself. dont put yourself through that humilation again. i know sometimes you wil feel that you just have to see him just once. bite your lips and resists that feeling. the feeling will come to you like a wave and sweep you to him. fight the wave. do something else to get your mind off him. cooking, walking, painting, anything.just move on . you owe it to yourself to forget him. he doesnot deserve you.
2007-06-20 22:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible, stupid on your part, but possible.
time to get into BA....boyfriend anonymous...it's kinda like AA...
first you call your best girl friend and just spill your guts, tell her how you are addicted to this jerk and you need help in getting on and getting over him...
next you write down any crappy thing you can think of that he has saidordone that has hurt you - and made you feel so badly...and makeseveral copies of it - one you put by the phone, one you leave in the car, one you put on the fridge, one in the bathroom and one on the coffee table...
next you enlist your friend as your sponsor...anytime you want to call him, you call her, want to see him go out with her, e-mail - e-mail her...etc...when she isn't available...you read the list of crappy things until you get pissed again...
follow this plan...and you will find your need for him will fade...
2007-06-20 21:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember there is always a reason he is your ex.
you don't need him to make you happy. and you surly need some friends to hang out and have fun with. if you are very busy, i am sure you don't have time to worry too much about him. just call some guys friends to hang out, and ask them to find you someone single and good to go on a blind date. easy and quick. ;)
when i break up, i always call my best friends and tell them that i just break up, and i really need to have a good time to have fun. can we have dinner and go to club afterward?
ther are so many fishes in the sea, and you don't need to kill yoruself for 1 fish. just move on quick, and meet Mr. right, at least having some fun and relax time.
2007-06-20 21:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy But 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me, I've gone back to this one guy at least once a year, and i still like this guy but now i don't see him, i don't like him so much.
i did love this one guy but the only way i got over him, is a LOT of CHOCOLATE, ICE CREAM, COOKIES and a rebound guy and not seeing him any more during school!!!
2007-06-20 21:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for soeone with no self esteem. Is he really worth that much to keep going back?
Is the sex that good that you keep going back? if so you ..."us him and lose him"
2007-06-20 22:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by ramdawn98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,if you like that person and that person hate`s you.
2007-06-20 21:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by Fernando90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋