Like if someone asks you if you're a virgin or another personal question that you don't feel comfortable answering, how do you tell them without sounding rude?
2007-06-20 21:24:46 · 45 answers · asked by Halley 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
"I would like to keep it to myself"
"why you want to know that?"
"what do you think..?"
and say it firmly and look direct to asker eyes. Asker will understand that you don't want to answer the Q. Immediately change the subject or continue what you are doing.
2007-06-20 21:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by miya 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone asked me if I am a virgin, I'm not going to worry about being rude. Those are intrusive questions. People ought to know better than to ask, unless they're very close to you. If you really don't want to sound rude, just say, 'That's not something I talk about with others' or 'I don't feel comfortable answering that'. Sure, it sounds cheesy, but oh well. If they persist, just say, 'Gosh, how did you get that big pimple on your face?' or something. I love doing that.
2007-06-28 09:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by I really hate my job... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely rude to ask people personal questions like that. I think you should respond to it with equal rudeness and don't allow yourself to feel guilty about it. I would firmly say: "That is none of your business and do not ever ask me a personal question like that again." If that is too assertive for you, try saying: "I don't answer those kinds of questions. If I want to share my personal life with you, I will let you know." This is an exercise in creating boundaries that others must respect. You aren't comfortable talking about your personal life and you have a right not to talk about it. That is your personal boundary. When we allow others to walk all over us, we eventually lose respect for ourselves. You control your environment, don't let others do it. This is how we teach others how to treat us. You call the shots when it comes to setting up your personal boundaries.
2007-06-25 13:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone is asking you a really personal question like that and it is someone you are not comfortable sharing that info with, they are already being rude, no need to worry about offending. Simply tell them you are not comfortable sharing that personal of info with them.
2007-06-27 13:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell them you feel this is a very personal question and wonder why on earth they feel compelled to ask such a question. No need to feel like you are being rude. Anybody that asks such things are overstepping the boundries of ettiquette. If you don't feel comfortable saying that, just explain that you feel that is a very personal question and do not feel comfortable discussing it.
2007-06-21 02:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by pj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say ina polite manner "Why do you want to know?"
Then, whatever they reply, simply say, "I would rather talk about something else, tahnks".
You are well within your rights to refuse to answer a question you feel is too personal or which makes you uncomfortable. No-one has the right to make others feel uncomfortable or to push them to talk about things they don't want to discuss. To continue pushing for an answer is a type of bullying.
If they insist, simply excuse yourself and do not talk with them any more.
Good luck! :-)
2007-06-20 21:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by thing55000 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say the truth. I don't want to answer this. That's not rude. If you can't tell that to the person, then that person has no business asking you that.
2007-06-20 21:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by Senel A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly. . if their gonna ask a rude question like that, they're going to keep egging you on if you're polite about it. If they are that blunt to ask you that, you really need to be blunt back. I usually say. . ."That's none of your damn buisness,". . yeah, it's rude, but it gets the point across, sets a tone saying "hey, don't ask that again", and makes them realize that you are not a girl to mess with. Sometimes blunt and rude is the way to go. . .you don't want these guys stalking you do you?? It happened to me!! Good luck hun.
2007-06-20 21:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that it really isn't any of their business and you want to change the subject. It isn't rude to stand up for yourself....rude is asking an inappropriate question in the first place.
2007-06-25 02:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by deerogre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a frank person; if I am asked all these questions, I will be telling them to mind their own business. Sorry, but it's what I am. I don't try to be considerate of the other person's feelings if I feel he/she is likewise inconsiderate of my feelings or how awkward I'd be with all those personal questions thrown at me.
2007-06-25 18:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by annabelle p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without being rude? I think that's just about the rudest question they could possibly ask you. They started it--they were rude--feel free to be as nasty as you like, all in good conscience.
2007-06-28 15:45:17 · answer #11 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋