i was dating this guy and i told him i need to stop. he said he understood and he agreed to be friends. he has a lot of issues that i feel as a woman that i cant put up with. well he basically manipulated me and had sex with me. he was acting like he really cared and i do deep down inside wish things would work but i dont think he will change. well he didnt come to my house tonight as always cuz he has gotten all he wanted from me which seems to be sex. well i feel very bad and used up. i made a bad choice. he played me gain and i feel so stupid. why did i let this happen to me if i know ghe is no good. im constantly thinking about it and i feel like crying. im so dumb. i need to stay away from him cuz he will just play me again. i need help really bad. this guy smokes weed all the time. he spends alot of money on the stuff but wont even give me a dollar. he never introduced me to his kids. we've dated for 4 months. i never see him on weekends. i kind of hate him. plz help me.
2007-06-20 20:01:16 · 12 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you know what he wants, and you know what you are willing to put up with, and its apparently not him. He obviously doesn't care about you, and only want one thing, so distance yourself from him. and please, don't cry! Everyone does things they are not proud of, or that they regret later, but now that you know they you regretted this, and that it hurts you, don't do it again. Remember that feeling, and remember what he doesn't do for you, and steer clear of him. Find a new hobby, or lean on one of your friends to help you through this. This too shall pass, and trust me, you will be a better person for it. Just don't repeat the same mistakes. Learn from it, and let it go!
2007-06-20 20:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you are not stupid you are trusting. If he is lying and manipulating to get you in bed that is going to affect your ability to trust yourself and other people.
Cut contact with this mixed up individual immediately. Sex obviously means something to you, and your precious heart is trying to be loyal but you simply cannot have a one way relationship. As soon as he's OUT you can let someone better in. Dating is about finding a companion and discarding the rest. You need to find some happiness sweetie!
2007-06-20 20:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by CookiesnCream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel stupid. Guys will tell a girl anything he thinks she wants to hear, including I love you, just to get in their pants. You are not the first one to fall for that, nor will you be the last. Just chalk it up to experience, and don't let that jerk even mention your name, much less sleep with you again. Tell him to get lost, and find a nice guy that will love and respect you. You deserve better!! Take care. Don't be so hard on yourself, we all make mistakes!!
2007-06-20 20:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're doing
you know the right choice, you just want some reassuranace because you want him to change and you have a glimmer of hope that he will, you don't know if you should let him go or keep going with this unfair relationship with someone who treats you badly.
you seem to be a smart girl, and you understand what is happening and you KNOW that you deserve better, you know that you WANT better.
let him go, you will find someone who treats you with the respect you deserve.
2007-06-20 20:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you allowed him to do this dispite what you may have said as you were allowing it to happen. Desires were the same on both parts but you just don't understand a males desires. Most males don't understad a womens desires but do it instinctively. You made a bad choice but you don't need to hate him for it. Just don't go out with him again if you can't control yourself.
2007-06-20 20:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by duwbryd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry that this has happened to you but all the same it not toally bad for you. I will advise that you try as much as possible to avoid him and look for another guy that will make up for what the idiot has done to you.
2007-06-20 20:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your attracted to him because you hate him. If you want him to stop using you, look at him for what he is, and the next time he seeks to use you, humiliate him privately one on one with the qualities you see in him that you just simply cant respect (it can be as simple as pointing them out at the right time).
If you face him with that as your weapon to metaphorically take his balls, you will see that you yourself as an individual deserve the company of someone who will meet your standards and it will reaffirm you of that.
2007-06-20 20:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quit being so naive, build up your confidence, don't settle for anything, and find yourself a someone else.
2007-06-20 20:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by gforce_929 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you wrote over and over again...I think you've already told yourself what you need to hear from us.
2007-06-20 20:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need just stay away from him!!!! if this keeps up he is going to hurt you even more!!!!
2007-06-20 20:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by isabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋