could he be here for another reason other than for love?

Question

i 've been with my husband for 9 yrs,married for 6 with 2 boys still unsure of his feelings for me. the beginning was quite shaky, he moved in with me. sometimes i feel as though i shld never have married him because we are so different as far as education & economic status. i'm a college grad, & a pharmacist. he just has a hs diploma. i'm also 7 yrs older than him. i have good genes though, people think i am much younger than i am. he's a immigrant & not yet a citizen, he recently got his greencard & just finished flight school and is a pilot now. in order to get a good job in his career he has to accumulate flying hrs. we are both excited he further his career so as to become a better provider for his fam. we both feel it is important for him to become the breadwinner,( the man shld be. i feel frustrated that i am now. NO MORE!)it wld make me more confident of his feelings for me, but wld it be enough? y am i not sure of him?he is faithful, good dad, dependable affectionate

Answer 1

If you can not discuss this problem with him after 9 years, there is definitely a problem. Communication is the only way to keep a relationship working properly. Start talking, and making him talk to you.