ok here's the deal, i just turned 18 in march. and the guy i like is 40... i know its a big difference but we have so much in common we can talk about anything and everything and never get bored of each other (we talk on the phone for like 2 - 3 hours a day and we see each other every weekend almost)... i've known him for 2 years and he has helped me through some really tough times with my family. and i have started to develope feelings for him, im pretty sure he has some for me too cuz he is always telling me how sweet and caring i am and that he has never known anyone as good as me and just all these really flattering things he even told me one time that if he could be with me it would make his life "perfect". but the thing is all my friends think its creepy and my family hates him... should i try to make it work or listen to them? after all isnt age just a number anyway???
2007-06-20 18:26:33 · 9 answers · asked by american_princess8907 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have posted this question before but would like some more opinions, he has actually asked me out now and i dont know what to say i told him i had to think about it....
2007-06-20 18:27:42 · update #1
I think you should do what your HEART feels not what your mind tells you ! yes age is just a number you can find love any where....doesn't matter the age difference
2007-06-20 18:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of what ANYONE will tell you, this is the truth... ANY man 40 years old looking to date an 18 year old female has a few problems. Or at least has a sexual fantasy that he's trying to work through. Should you decide to follow through with this, don't be surprised when he wants to "teach" you a few things. You are right that age is just a number (within reason) however 22 years should be thought long and hard about before jumping into the fire. Especially for an 18 year old. As far as the things that he is telling you? What would you expect him to be telling a female that he is wishing for? Face the facts sweat heart, you are only 18 and although you are a legal adult, you are also very inexperienced as far as these things go. Or you wouldn't be asking this question. My advice? keep this guy as a friend if you would like, but stay completely away from the dating or sexual side of it. Just my opinion. If my daughter were 18 and I knew something like this was going on... I'd be in jail. Between school and your parents, you were taught how to think for yourself. Please do it in this case and I'm sure that you will come to the same conclusion. Best of luck.
2007-06-21 01:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An 18 yr. old and a 40 yr. old should not be together sorry. Ten years older maybe, but anyone old enough to be your dad is just overboard. I actually had a male friend in this situation. He was in his 40's and she was 20. What could you possibly talk about? That was their main problem. Heck, he had a son older than her. They lasted a few month's, but then she realized that it wasn't going to work. you are 18, you should be going to clubs and having fun, not worried about a man old enough to be your dad. This is an ego boost for him. Don't let this guy use you. If he is 40 and has been single for the last 2 yrs., then there is most likely a reason. Either he don't want a relationship, or has gone through a divorce for a good reason. I think he is manipulating you and telling you what you want to hear. Maybe you are compensating since you said he helped you through some family issues. Take all the lust and his finances away and look what you have. That is what it is lust not love.
2007-06-21 01:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by bayoubelle24 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon, don't go out with him until you are 21 or older
He could get arrested for having a relationship with you.
He might be wonderful to you...but I am thinking what the heck is a man that age doing....giving so much attention to a teenager. If he can't hang with people his age there is something wrong. Also, when you grow up you will see that the age difference right now isn't good.
I gotta tell you that the age difference isn't right. I have a feeling your friends and family are right about this being creepy.
The two or three hours a day that you talk to him, is time you should be spending time with school work or work or be with people your age. This man just might steal your youth.
Cool it off and get back to your life.
2007-06-21 01:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you're reposting this because you havent gotten the ok you wanna hear... but im so sorry. i dont mean to be rude. but i totally agree with everyone that says: NO.
please dont do it. everyone who has said no is right because honestly-- that is a BIG age difference. and maybe if you were 30 and he was 50 it wouldnt be as bad.
but 18 and 40 is for SURE bad. why? because obviously there's something wrong with him. there is no reason for him to give so much attention to a teenager. even if you're technically an "adult".
he may care for you but this care is actually really wrong. if he had children of his own-- he would understand why it is disgusting for a man his age to focus attention on a young girl. he honestly may not realize it... but he's doing something very very wrong.
it's not just that you would be dating someone old enough to be your dad.... but HE would be dating someone that would be like one of his children's friends.
do you understand? imagine your dad dating one of your friends.
2007-06-21 02:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by sarahthetran 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
22 years is a big difference. If you go for it,expect to get alienated by your family and friends. If you can handle the stares and whispers, then go for it.
2007-06-21 01:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
40 & 18? nothing technically wrong with it but you will deal with stares and questions all the time, and stuff like "oh, i'm sorry - i thought he was your father all this time."
2007-06-21 01:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no age dont matter as long as u like each other 4 da right resons
just look a hugh heffner and holy, bridgette and kendra
2007-06-21 01:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by star s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you dumb ???? dont do that dont go out with him he old enough to be your uncle find some one who is way close to your age gurl he could hurt you the wrong way on purpose and he could turn on you
2007-06-21 01:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by sweetncuteladi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋