Most of the year before my boyfriend of 5 months met me he liked another girl. They never dated because she shot him down, but after an initial mourning period they started to hang out a little again. Once he met me they didn't hang out until once this summer, which was with another person too. But he still posts on her facebook and talks about her occasionally. I know he loves me and cares about me and wants me, but he still mentions her and has pictures of her in his bedroom which he says he'll cover up once I give him some of me. Should I tell him that it bothers me or should I let it go? She was the only girl romantically in his life before me, and I worry that he'll start to like her again or that maybe he hasn't gotten over her.
2007-06-20 18:09:28 · 15 answers · asked by turns_you_around 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't have the pictures framed on his wall, they are on his bulliten board with pictures of many of his other friends from highschool. He also has one picture of me and a card I made him up on his board.
2007-06-20 18:36:50 · update #1
I don't think you are in COMPETITION with the ex. If your boyfriend is not the type to "roam" then you have no problem. If you have a history with someone, would you want to dismiss YOUR past?
If you have an honest relationship, then I would treasure it. If you are questioning his feelings of his ex, you should DISCUSS it with HIM.
Otherwise... Be Happy and enjoy your lives together.
2007-06-20 18:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by dustytymes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, if he is talking about her and has pictures of this girl on his wall, then that is definately a problem... the way i see it is since he can't get her, he has to settle for the next best thing, and thats you! Now, he is probably waiting for her to say that she wants to be with him and you are basically gonna be his rebound girl until then. I would be careful with him if I were you. Test him by giving him some pictures of yourself and see if he takes her pictures of the wall and replaces them with yours. If he doesn't take her pictures down, then you basically have the answer to your question.
2007-06-20 18:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a uncommon case whilst the ex's nevertheless get alongside, nevertheless it can be a good element for all babies in contact. i could advise to him that his conversations approximately such at the instant are not suitable and that they hassle you. Ask that he shrink his conversations to easily the babies to guarantee you that there is no longer something going on or thoughts do no longer exist. If that type of communique nevertheless exists then i could say they nevertheless have thoughts for another and you're absolute to be harm, if he's actual to easily talk along with her concerning the youngsters then you certainly could mean some thing to him and her no longer.
2016-10-08 22:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by jeremie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him upfront what you are comfortable with and what makes you feel "second fiddle". There is friendly and there is "friendly".
Of course you need to allow him his space. You need to let him have his world away from you. It has only been 5 months. But make sure his world away from you is not populated by another girl.
Be honest with him. If it makes you feel uncomfortable talking about the girl, seeing her face on his walls, tell him so.
Do not be a placeholder.
2007-06-20 18:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by Stanley W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl, You have every right to speak your mind and if he cared he would respect your wishes. He has chosen to be with you and there shouldn't be another woman in his life that he has those feelings for. He should put the pics in a shoe box and put them away. And if that doesn't work, then take a bunch of pics with other guys and put them up in your room and see how he likes it. Good luck
2007-06-20 18:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Hey-man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well gurl if i were you show what you feel... u are just a women and have feelings too.. if really love him u will do ur best to make him stay at ur side... as i read your story i think u try to give him a picture of you so you can see if he really meant it that if you will give him a picture of you he will cover up the picture of that girl.. nothings wrong when u try.
2007-06-20 18:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he still has feelings for her. tht does not mean that he does not care about you. I would tell him that it is time to get rid of the pictures, and start focusing on the relationship with you or it is over.
2007-06-20 18:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that it bothers u a little and if he gets made he has feels for her. But if he doesnt mind putting them up or having only one or 2 of them then he doesnt have feelings for her.
2007-06-20 18:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by L.J. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't let the friendship bother you because yall are together and he cares about you. but the pictures are kind of strange. i would ask him to take them down.
2007-06-20 18:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell to him what you feel especially with that kind of situation. because if i were you also i have the same feeling. it really hurts to see your bf act that way. God bless you dear
2007-06-20 18:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by nej24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋