Okay, really complicated and personally devastating situation here.. please only constructive feedback, I just want to know what kind of person I'm dealing with here.. (My ex boyf. is the subject)
Recently, I found out through friends that his very manipulative ex girlfriend is pregnant with his child. We had been together for three years when she conceived. He cheated on me with her and didn't tell me she was pregnant for 5 months. He acknowledges that they despise each other and it was "drunk lust" and they will not be together or have a relationship whatsoever, although he demands to have a 50/50 part of the child, even though he won't even talk to her during the pregnancy or until the paternity test.(F****ed up, I know.)
He also puts words into my mouth, tells me how much he loves himself, refuses to believe he is mentally unhealthy, gets mad if I tell him I love him, hid our relationship from his friends and family for a year, tells me I make him feel guilty, the list goes on...
2007-06-20 17:54:04 · 9 answers · asked by Lia 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm not qualified to attach a label - but he is a liar, afraid of love and is probably going to be involved in ongoing anger /control / custody issues which will cause angst for you if you stay with him. Anybody who hides a relationship is not being straight with you and therefore you should ask yourself "Does he deserve your attention or love"
If I were you I'd run as far and as fast as I could and find someone who wants the same kind of relationship as you and who you can respect.
Run Run Run take care of you
2007-06-20 18:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by flip 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not for sure what you are asking but if I was in your shoes I would run as fast as I could. He sounds like my ex-bf who was bipolar and had a couple of other diagnoses. Things only got worse and worse. I finally said enough was enough and told him I wanted nothing to do with him. That's when the stalking started and continued for 2 years until his death. I moved 4 times to get away, the first move being over 1000 miles away. I changed my number countless times. Towards the end the only way he could reach me was through emails that I would just delete. Emails are way easier to deal with then someone trying to brake your door down. It is hard to deal with someone like this. I would leave the situation and get legal help if needed. This is not healthy for you.
2007-06-20 20:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Christina J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 05:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay girl whether this is your boyfriend or not, (in my opinion) you stop end your relationship/friendship asap. i mean, if he gets mad when you tell him that you love him . . . if i were you, i would stop being friends with him because you sound miserable. you obviously care about him, so i know that ending a friendship cold turkey would be rude, but you shouldnt ever be in a relationship/friendship with someone that brings you down. in your question you said that you were devastated. i once had a friend who brought me down and made me feel bad about myself. i calmly told him how i felt and that we couldnt be friends anymore. he was mad, but getting out of that friendship made me feel a lot better about myself. now you can do whatever you want to do, but if you ever feel unsafe around him, then that is NOT a good thing. hope this helps :)
2007-06-20 18:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm scratching my head, wondering what on earth you saw in this guy, if he really is an "ex". Sounds like you're still involved with him. I don't think he's either bipolar or narcissistic. To me, he just sounds like a controlling jerk. Do yourself a big favor and ditch him. I'm sure you can find someone who will treat you much better.
2007-06-20 18:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he has a controlling issue and needs to get help. I agree with the others. This is not a healthy relationship for you and you need to get out of it while you are still able to. Good Luck
2007-06-20 18:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by jenx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what he is or not. What matters is how he treats you. Do you think you deserve to be treated this way? I doubt it. He was unfaithful. You have a good reason to end it now. I suggest you do that before you end up babysitting while he is out cheating with the next one, while making you feel like you deserve it.
2007-06-20 18:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by peaches 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to feel good enough about yourself in order to let this guy go. He has trouble written all over him. He will only get worse as he gets older.
2007-06-20 21:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, i think this guy is mentally insane, or just a very stupid human.
2007-06-20 18:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by zak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋