I have been dating a guy for 8 months and I am 18. He seemed ok for me, but then I met this other guy and I have never felt that way about anyone the way I felt when I first met him. I've known him for a week and he just told me he is dying and has 4-8 years left to live. He told me he fell for me at first sight and that's never happened to him before and all he wants is me for the rest of his life. I know this could be a total scam, but what if it's not? What if there really are fairy tales that happen to real people, sad tragic fairy tales. I don't know what to do. He made me realize I may not truely love my boyfriend. What do I do?
2007-06-20 17:51:59 · 14 answers · asked by LOLA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just for the record he did tell me what he has but i cant recall right now what it is. i know that this could be a scam and it very well might be, but if it's not...im not sure what to do. he told me he would wait for me for as long as it took and i have NEVER felt a connectino like this with ANYONE. and just for the record...i dont care how long i am with a person (4-8 years). if you truely love someone, then you do that for them and live the rest of your life knowing that you would have never been happier spending the rest of your life with someone less than them
2007-06-20 18:07:14 · update #1
If you have to ask us on yahoo if you should leave your bf for another man then you are not mentally and emotionally committed to him anymore and obviously not in love with your bf.
That being said, I personally don't believe in leaving one relationship, one person for another. I've never done it and wouldn't want it done to me.
Not to say you shouldn't break up with your bf if you aren't in love with him and not happy. You are young, only 18 and have alot yet to experience. Not that I am old, just 32, but I know how you are feeling.
As far as the man you met who is dying. What is he dying from? Do you know what is wrong with him? If not, I hope you asked or plan to... Are you ready to put yourself in that type of position emotionally, not really knowing much about him.
In the end, as I've said to my friends, co-workers and even on yahoo, trust your instinct, your gut feeling and instinct, don't ignore it. If you listen to your heart only, then you may make a mistake this time or in the future.
I hope you make the right choice for yourself and a safe one. I do believe that you can feel lust and what appears to be love at first sight, but you need more than that to make a relationship work and last, alot more.
Take your time, think carefully, trust your gut and make sure you know the facts about the potential new guy.
stay safe sweetie, good luck and be happy, life is too short...you'll see when you get up in years like me...lol 32...oh to be 18 again and know then what I know now.
:-)
2007-06-20 18:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it alot of thought, was it lust, or an instinct to take care of someone, to be important to someone. Whats he have that he has that long to live. It honestly sounds like a line to get you in bed, then once you give him what he wants he will say that he just cant hold you back from living and he cannot be with you....
PS Break up with your boyfriend, because obviously your not that into him or commited, or Im not sure but you wouldnt be looking and having these feelings if he was really the one for you. So do him a favor and break up with him, before he finds out and gets his heart broken in a cruel way.
2007-06-21 00:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the man that u have been dating for 8 months. Dont take people that u even think are lying its a very bad idea to take them... so if u take the guy that (so he says) will die in 4 years.. u may lose the guy u may spend ur life with (and obviously u wont spend ur life with a guy that will die in 4 years...) so i hope this helped
2007-06-21 00:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by huddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're about to get played Lola. If it sounds too good to be true, then you'll probably end up on Forensic Files on Court TV. Don't fall for a man's b.s. They'll say anything to get the girl they want. Stick with your solid relationship.
P.S. When I saw the question you posted, I knew that we needed to meet. I've never seen such an interesting and beautiful question on yahoo answers before.
See what I mean?
2007-06-21 00:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Rex B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really all depends on how much you care for your boyfriend. Is losing the relationship really worth it to you to be with the new guy? Weigh your pros and cons and make your decision, but know that if you do leave him, you probably will not get a second chance.
2007-06-21 00:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok if u found out that u dun luv ur current bf anymore. People do change. But try thinking of long term. Wat do you do down 4 - 8 yrs when this guy has passed on? Engage in another relationship? As u mature, u will have different perception of everything.
On a lighter note, this new guy might be taking u for a ride. And pls dun surrender urself to him so easily. He mite juz move on when he already gets wat he wants. eg. ur body.
2007-06-21 01:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Starfighters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this guy at his word. Guys make up a lot of things to get into a woman's pants. Take your time to get to know this guy. If I were a guy with his problem, I would not be telling someone I barely know about it. This sounds awfully suspicious. Be careful. You need to know this guy better before moving on.
2007-06-21 00:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Well not the dying part, hopefully thats for attention. But If he is really serious about falling for you and your serious about him, leave your boyfriend. It's what I did and so far between me and the guys[zak] who i fell in love with its going great we have been together for 2 years.
good luck=]
2007-06-21 00:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take this slow and see exactly where young man head
is , if he truly is dying im sorry for that.but it could be just
for attention. but i would not just break up with your boyfriend
on something that might be serious, you might not have
the same feeling for your man, but after a week with this
other person, i would just take a step back and be honest
with everyone.
2007-06-21 00:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your time with this one--if this guy is for real he can give you proof of his problem--dont just jump and run.
2007-06-21 00:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by dove2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋