I try talking to my mom and she's always rude to me; and then I just get a job and she's all bratty and says "You're gonna' quit", etc. I think that it's completely rude and I hate coming home sometimes. But whenever I wanna talk I forget and then I walk away upset. How can I stop myself from becoming upset if she doesn't give two-sh!ts what I say?
2007-06-20 17:30:10 · 8 answers · asked by Baah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can't tell this women how I feel; don't you think that I've already tried that? I just did that and she started yelling at me
2007-06-20 17:36:55 · update #1
Mother and daughter relationships are sooo HARD. Your mother, I bet, doesn't even realize how you feel. I bet she thinks its going in one ear and out the other, which is why she's so hard pressed putting you down. I think, without knowing her, she thinks this is how to get through to you and doesn't realize its not and she's pushing you away. It would be nice if you could talk to her and let her know these things. I can't. I have the same relationship with mine. Its gotten alot better over the years, I'm 41. It didn't just take me getting older, it also took big blowups that I wish never happened. Good luck to you. Just try to bear with it and don't do or say anything you will wish you hadn't later.
2007-06-20 17:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by cindy h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom is a negative person. Sorry for that.
You need to establish guildelines and boudries. So the next time there is a negative comment, say very clearly. That is a very negative comment and I really do not appreciate it. Then end the discussion, when I say end it I mean end it. Don't be mad or run off, and don't go off on some tangent. Circle back to the exact comment....ie That is a crappy job and you will just quit. Mom that is a negative comment, no more no less.
2007-06-20 17:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Gatsby216 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kill her with kindness. People like her don't know how to act when someone doesn't REACT to their rudeness. When she says something you don't like, instead of arguing with her, just be sickening sweet and say something like, "You know, you are so right about that" (even if she isn't) then walk away, without an argument. Then prove her wrong. After awhile, she won't be getting the response she expects from you, and she will quit. Try it! Good luck.
2007-06-20 18:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by che_rae_gra53 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you sit her down and seriously have a conversation with her about how you feel about her being rude to you, I'm almost completely sure that she will listen to what you have to say.
if you can't talk to her about it then just be as nice as you can she'll realize eventually how nasty she's being to you
2007-06-20 17:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by hey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are her reasons for saying the things she does? im not taking sides, but listening has to be mutual. as far as keeping your temper, remember what is at stake, here. being listened to, being granted permission to work, and not least of all, your relationship with your mom. take a stress ball or a smooth stone with you to use as a focus for your anger and anxiety during those difficult conversations.
2007-06-20 17:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by bodyworkbymabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
convey your feelings to your mother,tell her how you feel about this and how much it is bothering you. Untill you do this she will not stop. I can only say good luck. As well tell he ryou need support in things like this and saying your just going to quit only makes not quiting harder. Good luck!!!
2007-06-20 17:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by pikemasta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and find out why she is rude,
2007-06-20 17:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by louise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove her wrong by keeping your job and well support yourself.
2007-06-20 17:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by bmanwarren1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋