im 15 n ive got this great bf...but is it ok to talk about kidz and a future family with him?

Answer 1

uhh how about no there dear

Answer 2

Talk about 'em? Absolutely! Assuming he's willing, that is. It's a worthwhile subject that will help you get to know each other on a serious level. And (as every adult here will be thinking), such discussions should discourage both of you from having premature sex.

You're probably a freshman in high school or a 9th-grader leaving middle school. I wouldn't be surprised if you had parenting classes available, if not this past year, then soon. With any luck, they'll "marry" you to your BF, give you a paper sack of flour to pretend is your kid, and accuse you of child abuse if it springs a leak under your care! ;->

But to *decide* about kids and a future family--which seems to be the question everybody else is answering so far, even though it was NOT the one you asked? Don't be silly! As the 16yo guy says, he isn't sure what he'll do after HS yet.

Answer 3

The fast solution to your problem: A slower solution to the problem, but instant, is to PRIVATELY show this question to his wife. Just lead her to a computer and pull this question up. Tell her it's been troubling you, and you need her help before somebody gets hurt. Here are some things to understand. You cannot keep your feelings secret. Have you ever seen a 5 or ten year old try to keep a secret? They can't fool you, because you have so much more experience than they do, you are picking up on clues they don't even know exist. Your family, and neighbor's family is going to pickup on your secret too. There are things you can't hide: Your pupils dialate (which is why it's dark when you go to a romantic restraunt) your lips flush red (why lipstick sells) lips get fatter (collagen injections, and angelina Joile's popularity) Nipples get harder and breasts swell, harden, and poke out (wonderbra) face and upper chest flush (makeup called rouge, or red) body language also gives you away, as well as other subconscious things you don't even realize you do, which are designed to get him to like you in return. This will end in tears. This is how murders happen (really, ask any homicide cop). You won't be able to keep this a secret, and most likely, it's already known by both sets of parents. There is no way on this planet that his wife isn't going to know something's going on the first minute she sees the two of you in the same room. By the way, if you have sex with your neighbor, it will be found out, and he will at minimum have his life wrecked, and be on a sex offender registry for the rest of his life. It will also wreck whatever career he has, and he won't be able to get another one. So, if you really, really hate him and want to make him want to hate, and contemplate murdering you, just continue. If you don't believe me about the murdering part, walk into any police department and ask to speak privately to a female murder detective. When you are alone, tell her that no crime has been committed, but you want to know what is likely to happen when a 32 year old married with kids man has a relationship with a 15 year old girl, and is there any danger of things getting ugly after it's discovered. Ask her if there's any hope in hell that it won't be discovered eventually. Remember, she doesn't know your name, and won't want to (more work for her). Good luck.

Answer 4

In my opinion you have not experienced enough of life to truly know if you would want to settle down ,never mind talking about children.It is normal to wonder about what your future holds but in order to realize some of your dreams and plans you need to complete your education.You do not want to be sending out any mixed messages to your boyfriend that you are interested in a long term relationship at this point in your life.It may sound sexist but I would reserve these conversations for when you are with your girl friends.Just ask yourself can I imagine myself with this boy 10 years from now, does he have plans for his future,what has your boyfriend said about mature issues ,what career do you want, do you want to travel, do you want material possessions, is financial independence important, do you want freedom or commitment etc.These are just a few of the important questions you must ask yourself .A baby is a life altering commitment and should not be entered into on a whim. Think this through and try not to have emotion be your only consideration.Take care.

Answer 5

The chances of the two of you remaining together long enough to make it through high school is very minimal. Not to be rude, but young people rarely end up with the ones they are dating at the age of fifteen.

Most young guys will run screaming into the distance with any mention of kids and a family. Slow down you have years and years to meet the man of your future, not the boy of your present.

Good luck.

Answer 6

No 15 is way too young to talk about kidz. You will understand when you reach21.

Answer 7

If you or him plan to go to college, then it is too soon for serious conversation about this.
You can find out some of his opinions in a sort of sneaky way by commenting on other people with kids or together and see what his reaction is.
Even if you think he is the one, so much can happen between now and when you are ready to settle down.

Answer 8

No. What is it with young girls wanting to grow up so fast, there is plenty of time to talk babies and married life. Chances are you will have many more BF after this one, even if you think you won't. He probably wants to have fun, go out with friends and be a kid, and your wanting to talk about the "Furture" he's gonna run a mile and I don't blame him. You should be thinking obout going to the mall, having sleep overs and concentrating on your school work.

Answer 9

Of corse it is alright. A know a few people who have been together since they were 16 and they are married with children. Just aslong as you are aware things change and you may not always feel this way.

I'm 17 and i've been with my bf for over 2years now and we talk about it but we both realise that anything could happen.

Answer 10

well its way to early to be thinking about these things. just worry about your studies and what career you will have to maintain those children you will have is the future. I suggest you get a puppy and see how much of a responsibility it is. because a child is a million times harder than a child. Youll scare the boy away. just have fun and enjoy your childhood while you have it

Answer 11

maybe as future plans... not implying that you're gonna have kids and a family with him specifically. Don't say "we" and "us" say "I" and "me"

at 15... you should be thinking on what color uggs you're gonna wear to school tomorrow to fit in with the popular kids. Don't worry about all that stuff yet, go enjoy your teenage years cause before you know it... they're gone. I'm 19 going on 20 and I havn't even thought about that kinda stuff yet.