have you talked to your teenage daughter about pregnancy?

Question

My daughter and I seen oprah today with a teenage girl who hid her pregnancy with her boyfriends help, had the baby, stabbed him, placed him in a gym bag. They placed rocks in the bag with the baby and through it is the lake or river (body of water) in the town where she lived. She is now in jail for 6 years.
My daughter and I sat down and talked about what would happen if she ever became pregnant. I let her know I didn't ever want her to run. We will work through it together. We actually talked about her finishing school and making choices. That i would probably be shocked, a little angy, scared with her but we would work through it together and never to run or hurt herself. I told her I want her to come talk to me before pregnancy happens so I can help her protect herself. Anyways, my question is have you talked to your teenager and what is your game plan?

Answer 1

I have an 18 year old daughter who had sex for the first time at age 14 at homecoming. She was scared to tell my wife and I at first as we have always been very involved in all three of our children's lifes.
However, once I found out she was sexually active with her boyfriend, I made it very clear I did not approve however I was not prepared to become a grandpa, so my wife took her to the doctors to have birth control given to her. We also purchased her some condoms, we told her us doing this was not a license to have sex it was our way to prevent pregnancy. She became very open with us, we were aware of activties and when she would for some reason have unprotected sex we would take to the drs for all the appropriate testing. She knows she is able to come to us and be honest with us.
We may not like or approve of her choices, but we need to be aware to help educated not only her but her boyfriend about responsibilites.
Glad to know you sat with your daughter and talk over reality with your daughter. She may be emberressed now, but she will learn to confide in you and appreciate your support.
Good Job, and Good Luck

Answer 2

I have 4 daughter ages 4, 7, 10, and 12. I speak with them open and honestly, sometimes scary, honest, I have for as long as they had questions. My biggest fear is that they will learn inaccurate information from the wrong people. We have had friends that have had children have babies while they are teenagers, and we discuss everything, from the effects of pregnancy on the body and the raising of the baby, to the need of sacrificing your own dreams.
I happen to be home today when they were interviewing that girl from jail, I had my older 2 daughters watch it with me, and we discussed it and they were horrified that not only could she not talk to her parents, but that she must have been really scared to have stabbed the little boy. My 12 year old thanked me for being such a good mom, and always making them feel like no questions and conversations are unimportant or wrong.

Answer 3

DEFINITELY -- especially since my daughter also is Autistic (Asperger's Syndrome -- High Functioning Autistic). I made sure that her therapist and her doctors/teachers all were on the same 'page' (so to speak) in talking about teenage sexual contact with my daughter -- if only to make sure that she would not be in danger or easily manipulated for sure.

I did this because ... at my age (and I was already at least (and I will only admit to this) a decade OLDER than the parents of her peers -- so I knew that if something like this happened ... I would have difficulty raising YET Another generation into my elder years ... and wanted to make sure that she was NOT going to get into trouble. We watched, we talked and emphasized that she does NOT have to be touched, and gave her an 'action plan' that she followed.

She is now living independently as an adult and (thank goodness) no child! I am so thrilled (and relieved) that words can not describe it at this time.

Plan ahead -- it is NEVER too early to talk about things like this with your children. Give them the opportunity to say NO!!!!! and they will be safe.

Answer 4

I have been talking to my daughter since she was about 9 about pregnancy . at her school they get pregnant very young, and we used to raise animals so they understnd a bit more ata younger age then someother kids would.
i am trying to instill in her and my son good enough values that i hope they won't make that mistake but i also wantthem to be able to talk to me so if a situation comes up theyr will both know how to handle it..and that i will help them through ...

Answer 5

Well.. I'm not exactly a mother- I'm the teenager. I'm 15, and, no, my mother has never talked about pregnancy with me, nor has she even talked about sex. I have no idea why. I have strong morals and I don't intend to have sex before marriage, but I think it would be a good thing for her to talk to me, simply for the sake of my knowing that she cares. But, she hasn't spoken of it at all... I'm kinda confused why not.

Answer 6

Well I only have a 2 year old son and one on the way...So I havent talked to my children...But I think there should be more moms like u! Moms that r understanding and that the child can talk to!