Ladies, Why do you stay even though it's obvious you should leave?

Question

are you scared of being alone?
do you think no one else will love you?
is he the best you can do?
because you owe him?
because he's familiar?
I don't understand why women stay in bad situations, will you please enlighten me?

Answer 1

All of the above. And we don't wanna be alone. Usually when a girl doesn't want to leave a man even when he hurts her so much is because she's probably had her life revolving around him. Meaning, she's been arranging her life to fit a schedule to be able to be with him. It's just not the same without that person. And sometimes the woman truly loves the man and doesn't think she can make it without him.

Answer 2

I was with this guy that would physically abuse me every time he got drunk and I stayed with him for 3 years. I left him quite a few times but I would fall for his "I'm sorry's" and go right back to him. Still to this day I don't know what I was thinking. All I know is that I had a bad relationship with my dad, and I was rebellious and wanted to get away from both my parents. I also did not have much self confidence back then and I was so desperate for male companionship. I also remember thinking that he did love me deep down and one of these days he will stop treating me like this. I also felt that I was stuck with no where to go. But now I am with a wonderful man and am much more self confident.

Answer 3

I used to be like this. In my two first relationships, I help on too tight. I felt as if I needed someone to love me, or I could never love myself. Yet, I was wrong. The best love you can ever have, is love from yourself. I finally saw the light when an ex of mine hit me. It made me angry, and I could not stand to let a guy walk over me again. For once, I was the one to leave, because I cared enough to care about myself for once. Sometimes, all a girl needs is a wake up call to know guys are not worth that much pain.

Answer 4

women stay in bad relationships because some are afraid of being alone.
like me, i dated a guy for almost 3 years and we just recently broke up.
but we were always on and off.
but i always said i didnt want him anymore when i would go right back and let him come back into my life.
he would always say how sorry he was
then i found he had cheated on me, he had sex with another girl down there and came back home kissing me with the same lips he kissed the other girl with.
he had sex with me later before we broke up.
which is what pisses me off the most, he lied to me. i asked him if he did..
and he lied.
well i stayed in this relationship even after the fights the rude remarks and it realized it was breaking me down, i stood up for myself and we broke up.
i stayed in my relationship because i knew him like the back of my hand, or at least i thought i did. and i did not want to take the time to get to know someone else like i knew him.
it takes to long
and so now i am iffy on who i trust and i will for for a while.
but my best answer to this is because i didnt see how bad everything was getting.
i loved him
and my love for him blinded me from the horrible things that were happening.
i thought he was the best i could do also.
so you are right, you practically hit the nail right on the head.
good job.
but that is my answer, i am sorry i had to relay it to my situation.
but does it make any sence now?

i hope so.

Debb

Answer 5

I dont think even the girls in the situations realize why they stay. I didnt. I was emotionally abused daily and controlled in many aspects. I never even thought about leaving until it got really bad. It might of been alittle bit of everything you said, idk why honestly. By the time I realized what he was doing I was already so hurt and I didnt really think any other guy would want me after what he did. Very good question though

Answer 6

I think women stay because they have Low Self Esteem
and it's sad to say some women are just happy to have a man

Answer 7

I stayed in a very bad relationship for 8 years. For the first three, it was because of two things...thinking I couldn't do any better, and feeling sorry for him. After that, it was for the sake of the children.
Bad idea.

Answer 8

Some because the guy threatens them, saying "If I cant have you, no one can" or "if you leave me I will hunt you down and kill you." One of my friends was in a situation like that, however, and she stayed with him because she tried to break up with him but she was so afraid of him hurting her she didn't know how. In the end she had her (now boyfriend) go with her.. the guy is now threatening her boyfriend. ^^;;

Answer 9

Fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, fear that all men are the same so just stick it out with the one you got.....

Answer 10

i will!!!

we stay cuz we think we can change the bastards mind.
and if that doesnt work then we leave.