2007-06-20 15:58:04 · 14 answers · asked by Kelly K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um deviating from the normal routine? That is kind of vague. Depends on what it is. Of course i won't distrust someone because they behave differently but you do have to draw the line somewhere right?
2007-06-20 16:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone seems to be saying no, however it depends on who this person is to you, a boyfriend, girlfriend or husband or wife. Since you posted the question, I assume you have been in a "normal" routine with them and extrapolate that they are not where they should be at times based upon that.
If you suspect you have reason to not trust someone, these are the legal terms for this (only as examples). First is reasonable doubt; the second is by the preponderance of evidence.
I would have to know what relationship you are to the other person to be more specific. A deviation of the normal behavior of a person can be due to many things. Interests or unexplained absences should be discussed, but as in your case, it appears that something is different. What about that is different and what the explanations are would be for you to decide important or "reasonable".
Deviation in routine in itself is not necessarily a reason for not trusting someone, but it does depend on the severity or amount of such. Does the person act differently, or is it just their not conforming to prior routines? Many people change routines, but typically not if they are in a relationship.
Unfortunately, you have not disclosed the relationship you have with this person, therefore it is difficult to speak about trust. If you ask them about the change and it is not acceptable to you, then perhaps it is a trust issue. On the other hand, it appears that you do not know why they have changed their routine and I would invoke that by the "preponderance of the evidence", that there is no merit to your case as you did not disclose facts that would be relevant to make a decision upon.
I would suggest that you post more information so that I would know what your relationship is, how long you have been in the relationship and what routines have changed. You may write me directly if you wish to have more advice.
2007-06-20 23:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's no reason to mistrust anyone. People often deviate from their own routines.
2007-06-20 23:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Cake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should still trust them because mabey they just want to try something new and still be the same just without their normal routine
or they just feel the need for a change in their lives
2007-06-20 23:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Noelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe THEY deviate from their routine because they DONT TRUST YOU. or perhaps they are just paranoid.
2007-06-20 23:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by griffyn10941 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. If bf, you could be paranoid. Check things out and if a history of cheating in the past, there may be something to be concerned with. Good luck
2007-06-21 00:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not unless they have in the past given you reason to distrust them...sometimes change in routine is good
2007-06-20 23:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by poorboykenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope not at all what would the routine be?
-Matt
2007-06-20 22:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sometimes it just means their breaking their routine and trying something new.
2007-06-20 23:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. They could easily just be changing things up.
2007-06-20 22:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Caesar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋