How should I react to my daddy?

Question

My daddy says he is going to be traveling for work this fall, but the problem is it is to the Middle East because he works for an oil company. My daddy has made it EXTREMELY clear that I will not be allowed to stay at home alone, and my brother is going off to college. So he says I can stay with another family or we can find a boarding school. We don't have any relatives around here that I can stay with. Now when I stayed with best friend's family last Fall, things did not go well, and I am putting that MILDLY, with the crux of the problem being that there was a perception amongst this family that I was acting like I was EXTREMELY spoiled, with the end result being that my friend's mother banned her from associating with me for a few months. Her mother is willing to give me a second chance, but they are a little too strict for my taste. Daddy has told me to choose...stay with them, find another friend's family which may be HARD or go to boarding school. What should I do?

I am 16 years old, single parent home, my mother is no longer with us.

My boyfriend said I could stay with them, but my daddy is UNWILLING to accept that suggestion.

Thank you and good day.

My daddy cancelled all the trips this past Spring due to the recurring and severe nature of some of the disciplinary problems I had at school this past Winter and Fall. However, my daddy now believes that through a combination of sending me to charm school and RATHER STRICT parenting, that he he feels he can start traveling again.

My daddy says he will not let me go with him because where he is going "they treat dogs better than women." Thank you and good day.

Thank you Emawee, I like your answer.

Answer 1

DONT go to a Boarding skool or that family u were wit last time. damn they were so mean to u and ****. umm go stay wit some other friend. idk who find one. just not the one u already stayed wit. dont stay wit ur bf hes gross anyway and would probaly wannt sex all day everyday.

Answer 2

Well Lori since your dad has entrusted you to have a say in this decision you must be behaving more maturely than in the past.Since your dad must travel to the middle east for business he will need you to behave appropriately so he can conduct his business.Your dad should not have to worry about you while he is away.I would agree that you should not stay at your boyfriends home.No matter if you stay at a friends home or at a boarding school you will be expected to follow rules.You didn't say how long your dad will be away so that might help you decide where you should stay.If you find a friend's home to stay at ,at least you can have continuity at school with your friends.If you choose boarding school would you have to complete your school year there. If you stay with friends you can socialize with your friends.If you go to boarding school you will have the opportunity to make new friends.Think through the pros and cons just like in a debate and make an informed decision.Take care.

Answer 3

Go with your dad! As long as it is safe and everything I would do that. It sounds like it could be a very interesting way to live in another culture. If no maternal figure is in your life right now as a young teenage girl it is absolutely important to stay close to your father. If safety is issue in that country than choose the boarding school. At least they will provide some guidance, consistency and routine in your life that seems to be lacking. You may find some really good friends and it can prepare you for college too.

Living with a friend's family is a highly difficult and volatile situation to be in. Your friends parents have no authority over you and they can not tell you what to do as they can their own children. This will eventually cause serious conflict. Every household has so many differing rules and ways of living. Very few people adults or teenagers can stand living with friends for very long. It just ruins a friendship that may have lasted a lifetime. Good luck and learn to like reading lots of good long books they can be such a comfort and a great way to get "lost" in another world in your mind when things in your real world seem overwhelming for you.

Answer 4

**** Lori, give boarding school a try, if you hate it, it won't be forever, you'll have many more years on earth, ya know. You'll have the whole boarding school experience under your belt, and when you get back to a normal school, you'll have interesting stories to tell. All the girls would be jealous and if you exaggerate the story a bit, they wouldn't know, cause they weren't there. Pick a really posh one with the best teachers for you. Go and check them out, and then make a decision. Find that girl that's popular on the visitation day and ask her the pointers. The troublemakers should be well known there, and you'd probably have no trouble fitting in since you're articulate and intelligent.
It'll be like a vacation from everything and you could basically reinvent yourself there.

Answer 5

I am glad your dad is unwilling to let you stay at your boyfriends, shows he has some smarts.
I don't see how he can be going to the Middle East for a job and just leaving you home, but that aside, I would take a look into a boarding school. Sounds like an interesting thing and you will meet allot of new people.

Answer 6

its a tough choice, either way your life will be changing...but i think the real person who can answer this question is you...you will always be nervous while trying something new and maybe because of what happened last time at a friends house your choice would be boarding school...there will be kids in your sittuation there, so you wouldn't have to worry about being the only one with parents working jobs all over the country or world....you will learn alot not only with your studies but also you will grow as a person....your friends back home will only be a phone call away....good luck!!!

Answer 7

Wow- you actually sound very mature for your age. I'd go to boarding school. Are you opposed to that for some reason? Like maybe because of your boyfriend? It sounds like you're very smart, you can actually type well, etc... why not choose a boarding school so that you can be sure you'll go to a great college? I also think that if you're intelligent enough to use the word 'crux', it's time to drop the word 'daddy'- just my opinion. Good luck~

Answer 8

Tell him you really don't know what to do. None of those choices are very good. Keep stalling and see if he comes up with any other ideas.
Maybe tell him you guess you'll go to boarding school but, don't do any research and don't try to find one. Maybe he won't either and it'll get to be so late that there won't be enough time and.. you'll wind up having to stay home alone.

Answer 9

I would go to boarding school...their is nothing wrong with that..it might be like college and you will develop strong relationships with other females and grow as a person and become more independant

Answer 10

I would choose boarding school, especially if your father is letting you pick where you are going. You get to go to a new place, and meet new people. hell, think of it like a taste of picking what college you will go to? Thats just my opinion. Good luck hun.

Answer 11

You should go to a boarding school. This way, you won't have to worry about your friends parents ever hating you, and you can make so many more friends at boarding school and you won't have to worry about peoples parents judging you.