I said I am attracted to guys with light eyes only and that are physically attractive. Everyone said I am shallow and vain. Is that because they have brown eyes or maybe because they are mad no one is attracted to them?
2007-06-20 15:51:22 · 17 answers · asked by Beauty&Brains 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was never a hot guy.I was always told I was "nice looking".Yeah. Anyhoo, I grew up and learned we ALL have preferences.Just because girls a and b didn't want me, it didn't mean girls c-z didn't.I have preferences and I'm sure it hurt a few gals feelings when I had to tell them I wasn't romantically interested in them.Don't feel bad, but when you meet a guy you are attracted to, do NOT assume he is prince charming and everything you want in a guy and fantasize what he is instead of seeing what he is a human being underneath.You cannot change another human being into what you want them to be.
2007-06-20 15:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is shallow- beauty is after all only skin deep. It can make you initially attracted- but when you spend more time with each other- you don't really focus on the eyes or how good looking they are- you spend time with who the person is. In the long run would you enjoy the company of someone attractive or someone with a great personality. Not to say they have to mutually exclusive- but they can be at times.
Thinking that people with brown eyes are ugly is also quite shallow. However- if at the end of the day physical attractiveness is very important to you- then that's your opinion and people shouldn't judge you for your opinions. But you can't judge them for being "ugly" or saying you're shallow either.
2007-06-20 22:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by Maaya 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only being attracted to attractive people is normal. If you are attracted to someone, they must be attractive right??? For the record I am ugly and, although I don't like it, I understand why no one is attracted to me and I accept that as the way of the world.
Now, only liking guys with light eyes, that's pretty ridiculous. If you prefer light eyes fine, but to write off a large majority of the population for having darker eyes, well that is pretty shallow. For the record, I have bright blue eyes.
I'm pretty sure that attractive people would find you shallow as well.
2007-06-20 22:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bob 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, attraction is a state of mind. what may be ugly to you may not be ugly to someone else.
secondly, while we all have preferences, looks fade for everyone. even your looks will fade and none of these equally shallow people that you like will find you attractive anymore. this may surprise you but some people want someone with substance. pretty faces can be bought. class, intelligence, manners, and a good character cannot.
if you plan on having superficial relationships til the end of time, by all means date "pretty". but beauty goes farther than one's face and if you live by vanity you will surely be scorned by it in time.
2007-06-20 22:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by t g 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Frankly, your attitude is kind of childish. What does the color of someones eyes have to do with the kind of person they are...or how great a friend they would make? How would you feel if someone told you that you are not his type? Wouldn't you think he was being shallow and vain?
2007-06-20 22:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
yeah....they think its shallow..but in life people have standards...i like my steak medium rare.... i could eat it well done...but why when i have a choice....u have to look @ these doods so if u want light eyes..then thats whats-up. And the only people that wont feel what u sayn are people who dont have standards and dont meet your standards. that eliminates half of the haters
2007-06-21 00:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Imrickjamesbeotch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have brown eyes,but thats not the reason you seem alittle shallow.I think its sad to be fixed on ugly versus attractive.
I know some pretty hot guys who think they are all that.They treat their woman like crap.They cheat ,because they can.
Than theres the not so hot who treat their woman like they are the most important person in the world.They are truly faithful to their relationships.
What is on the outside,doesnt hold a candle to what is in their heart!!! Good Luck on your mission!
2007-06-21 00:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by reikigirl8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with dating those you're physically attracted to... it would be better if you looked for personality as well. If you were to meet an unattractive but extremely sweet/nice/smart/and stable (with brown eyes!), would you go out with him?
Or just brown eyes and still attractive?
2007-06-20 22:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Nextbestthing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL
I warned you that would happen
LOL
No it isnt because of that...its a lack of knowledge and recognition.
Every single on eof them are guilty of the same thing, they just dont recognize that they are....you see...what you were referring to is "personal preference". I challenge any of those who said you were shallow to prove to me that they dont have ANY personal preferences.
Any one who says it is a liar...they all have preferences whether its for food, eye color or even sexual preferences. I refuse to believe that they dont. Thye just simply havent made the connection.
Thats really a matter of ignorance or lack of education to not see it. Dont be mad or offended by it, for they know no better.
2007-06-20 23:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by jimkearney746 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must be vain and shallow since you are assuming everyone that is ugly that does not agree with you.
2007-06-20 22:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by Skeptically cautious 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋