playboy....?

Question

So I found a playboy under my boyfriend's bed and when I asked him about it he said his friend was looking at it and its been there a long time. I didnt believe him because it just doesnt add up and he told me hes never lied to me before and that kind of stuff really doesnt interest him. I also happen to know that the magazine belonged to his friend Josh and was being stored in his garage until Josh came to get it. Am I wrong for getting mad over something like this and dragging it on? I just feel like those women can give him something I cant or something like that. It hurt my feelings to find the magazine down there. Everyone says I'm blowing it out of proportion and every guy looks at stuff like that and it has nothing to do with him not wanting to be with me. I just want some opinions. nice ones please. I've been having kind of a bad day.

Answer 1

u ARE blowing it out of proportion. he's a guy. at least he's not cheating on u and at least u know he's not gay. don't stress it.

Answer 2

Very natural for a young male (or older one for that matter) to have a Playboy magazine stashed in his room. Hard as it is to believe some people (males and females alike) do purchase this magazine for the articles, although most people do actually by it the art/pics. Playboy is certainly not a pornographic magazine like many others available today. Please do not harbour these feelings of anger for your boyfriend having this magazine as these woman are not real and cannot give him anything at all so the reality is you have nothing to worry about. Best of luck with your boyfriend and hope that tomorrow is a better day for you.

Answer 3

First of all, not every guy looks at pornography. Of course there are men out there that claim not to but do but I can assure you not all men are like that and have some sort of self control.
It's understandable that you're hurt by the situation and if you do think that he's telling the truth and he always has in the past then you have no reason to doubt him. Don't worry, you'll get over this soon because it's not the end of the world that you found an adult magazine under your boyfriend's bed. Just be sure that you're not jealous of the photoshop-ed girls in the magazine.

Answer 4

Come on he most likely figured if you showed some ignorance with the belief that it was his, then he'd go the whole way and lie. When you asked "is this yours?" it showed him that wow, you obviously didn't get it.

I mean what guy brings a porno mag to another guys house to look at, none. They keep that stuff at home, so they can do their biz at home and not have anyone see them, if you know what I mean.

So go back to your bf, tell him you're not playing games, and don't appreciate being lied to. Give him a choice, either you have a truthful and honest relationship or you don't know if you can stay in it. Have a straight face on and tell him, its not the action that was the worst part of it, it was that he lied to you. That would do it. It does it everytime for my fiance and me if I catch him in a lie. When you give someone no other option but to tell the truth then that's all they can do.

So remember look at him straight and tell him, you're through with his bull, does he think you're stupid or something, because you are there to let him know you're not and he can't take advantage of you. And you wont stay with a guy that lies to you. If he says okay then leave, which he wont' he'll acutally be impressed with you, but if he does say that. then you go and actually do get yourself someone that you deserve.

Good luck girl :)

Answer 5

Think about it this way- he's seen some of the most beautiful women in the world- and he wants to be with you.

Next time he comes over, be reading a Playboy. Try looking at it with him. Tell him which women you appreciate and what you admire about them. Ask him the same thing. Jumping all over him just makes him close down. This is a great opportunity for communication.

Answer 6

Of course most guys look at those. But it means nothing. It's really nothing to worry about. He's dating you, isn't he? Not some model from the magazine. He could have just been looking at it out of curiousity. On the other hand, what were you doing under his bed?

Answer 7

I know what you're saying. Like he needs to look at them, cuz you don't satisfy him. But look at it this way, he is a normal typical guy. Ughh they all do that. lol I know you feel horrible right now, but trust me, one day this will seem like the dumbest thing you could eer get upset over, Trust me, Just tell him you would rather he didn't look at those magazines, and tell him you forgive hm. Dont ruin your relationship over hotches in a magazine. He will NEVER see them, lol. It will all be alright. Just work with him, and make your relationship work:)

Answer 8

first off, playboy is a harmless magazine. be glad he was looking at something so soft core like playboy instead of some real trashy mag. and secondly, sure it is normal for guys to look at those real sexy ladies. and third, dont worry that you feel like you are not as sexy as those ladies. to be honest, there are a lot of everyday girls out there who could be made to look real good in playboy. even if you feel you are not hot enough to make playboy......hey is he really gonna get with one of those women? lol nope. dont worry too much about it. its soooo normal.

Answer 9

i know its a harsh feeling when you think that another women can give your man something that you can't...but it's just a picture and looking is harmless, he wasn't cheating on you so i think you got the better end of that deal! just let him know that you don't appreciate those sort of magazines, give a reason like you think its degrading to women...but you need to let him know how you really feel about it, that's important for him to know!

good luck and feel better! he obviously loves you! a picture is nothing!
xoxo
now give us a smile!!! =)

Answer 10

playboy mag is nothing what ur worryed about a picture pls give me a break there are a lot worst magzs out there so take it eazy on him it's nothing.oh if u r truly worryed about what they can do for him u cant take a look ur self and learn something

Answer 11

ok a playboy is not that bad. . . it could be worse. . . like porno movies or something. . . or him cheating on you. just make sure he understands that if he would be looking at a playboy it would hurt your feelings. if it starts to get worse and you constantly feel bad. . . just break up. . . it is not worth feeling bad about yourself just to stay in a relationship. good luck in love!!