and when dessert is served, do you partake of the dessert you brought or is it rude because you brought it for them (the friends)?
2007-06-20 15:13:06 · 12 answers · asked by The Starr Company 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, it's not rude. It's part of the meal. I'm guessing you brought enough for more than two.
2007-06-20 15:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always good manners to bring something to the host of a party. However, although I wouldnt mind if you partake of the dessert you brought, I could see where the host might feel that it is rude. If the host has a dinner planned along with dessert and she doesnt serve yours, take it as a hint. I guess when theirs runs out, then they will serve yours. Remember, you did buy it for them, so they might use it another day.
2007-06-20 15:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by vixxen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's a dinner party and they serve the dessert you brought, then you partake. It has become part of the meal.
2007-06-20 18:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by CantTellYouMyName 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a great idea to bring a desert or a bottle of wine etc, but you can leave it up to the person whose house it is. Just give it to them as you're entering the house. If they want to keep it for themseleves, let them. If they bring it to the table after dinner and serve it, then go ahead and partake.
2007-06-20 18:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they serve your dessert, it isn't rude of you to partake.
They can choose not to serve it at that time, which is not considered rude at all.
If you got it and served it to the guests yourself, that would be rude.
I hope it was good dessert.
2007-06-20 15:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by nicolemcg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to partake in the dessert. You brought it for everyone to enjoy; including yourself.
2007-06-20 15:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you eat the dessert you brought? Did the host's eat the food they prepared? Of course they did.
2007-06-24 07:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't rude. If they choose to keep it as a gift, then yes. But, if they serve it as dessert, it is meant to be shared by all.
2007-06-20 15:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dessert is a good idea. You could also bring wine or a plant. It is expected when you bring a hostess gift, and she serves it (she doesn't have to) that you will join in.
2007-06-20 15:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by IcanoutfishU 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
never bring dessert without asking. It may not go with the menu planned. It is better to bring flowers in a vase, so the person doesn't have to look for one . She doesn't have to use it on the table. She can put it in another room. Or you can ask if you may bring the wine (if they are wine drinkers). Ask, first.And it is nice to send a handwritten note after the dinner.
2007-06-20 15:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by BELINDA B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋