Mu mom said that
i am not going to do anything in life or be something or some one
that I was going to die alone
and that I was probably going to get some sickness.
We had a fight where she mostly yelled saying how I have ADOPTED to much to USA... not in clothes or religion or that matter just thinking because I think that Muslim women are being oppressed by there CULTURE (NOT ISLAM just CULTURE )...........
since Islam puts mother first 3 times before father and if your mom says some thing bad about then it comes true so do you think that I am doomed? for LIFE?
2007-06-20 15:11:03 · 22 answers · asked by Love Exists? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
and she said that I was going to end up in hell anyway.. So if I am doomed then whats the point of living a good life? well not so good because I'll be alone, sick, and not have a job so live in a dumpster?
2007-06-20 15:12:40 · update #1
No you are NOT DOOMED. People during a fight will say things to silence the other, in hopes they will listen, when all this does is hurt them more, and prevent listening. Your mother loves you, and wants the best for you. You love your mother.
The trouble is how you both express your thoughts and ideas about how her life, your life and your combined life will be led.
As I am old I know listening to the young is hard, as they are less experienced in life - and could easily get hurt by taking a path that is dangerous - but unknown to them, but known by the older generation, just never talked about. Surely your mother had these same fights with her mother, as all daughters do. I am looking forward to mine with my son (he's 13 - and his life is about to get very weird for him.)
Being Roman Catholic I can not really help, except to say that in my belief - ONLY GOD decides who enters hell - no any of his creations. So you are not going to hell - unless GOD says so.
You have a long life ahead - unless you really upset your mother - so please talk to her, explain your life - in the smallest detail - so she feels your successes and pains. It's messy, but she worries.
2007-06-20 16:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
doomed? depends on what you talked about. Culture? yeah, i have known articles about them, such as a woman can't drive a car in urban saudi arabia, but in the country sides, without mutawahs, the female badu or bedouin do.But in nearby islamic states,women can drive.It's a case to case basis in matters of culture, islam did gave emancipation to women but the culture sometimes differ. You can get along with that easily, just go with the flow like the water in a pitcher, as long as it.s not against islam.
You raised voices with each other, well, not fun really, both are hurt, and specially at your age, when one thought that they can do anything without knowing the wisdom. Was your conversation went to the extent of standing up? The hadith said when one gets mad and is standing, one should sit, if still, one should lie down, if still persits, pause for a while, have ablution and do du'a. Of course the one with understanding should lower their voices, or notify the other if the voice is rising. Why build walls when we can built bridges.
As Allah said, Allah changes not the condition of a person not until that person changes the condition of their heart.
Masha Allah, you'll be fine!
2007-06-21 04:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by 36 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's just having trouble understanding you right now. Give it a few years...being opinionated kind of rubs off in the western cultures. She just needs more exposure. I don't think your doomed just because she said you are. The power of suggestion is only as powerful as you allow it to be.
2007-06-20 15:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your mom must want you to stay with her forever. She is making you feel bad about yourself so you wont want to do anything for yourself and she can control your life. You are not Doomed for life! Dont let the words of any human take away your mind or soul. Those were horrible words. I think you are correct about that culture. Humans make mistakes, even moms. Forgive, forget and take care of yourself.
2007-06-20 15:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by T I 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Doomed too life. Considering the mess most societies are in the chances of you having a horrible life no matter what you do are excellent. Do not panic that's just the way it is.
2007-06-20 15:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are a Very Precious Person.
Your Life is Worth More than you will Ever Know.
YOU are the Head of YOUR Life.
You get to Decide.
You make the Decisions that will Change Your Future.
Jesus Loves You!
2007-06-20 15:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by maguyver727 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
what you should do is cal her down and then prove her wrong dont die alone dont get sick or what ever she said and just tell her to accept the fact you are your own person and you are adapting to the local customs if i lived in china i would try to intergrate my self in their culture just give her time im sure she will calm down
2007-06-20 17:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doomed; you will do exactly what you set your mind and efforts to.
Keep a positive attitude, and don't let yourself be programmed by the negative attitudes of those around you.
2007-06-20 15:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well if she says your doomed, you might as well live it up now!. Have fun and say fu** it to everything. Spend money like crazy and don't have any cares in the world.
2007-06-21 13:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one has the right to tell you that you are in control of your own desteny and noe one can change that you can tell your mu mom that and for the record you are not doomed, no i will not allow any one to belive such bull ****
2007-06-20 15:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by hell on blades 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋