My Fiance's sisters feel their mother should be best friends with my parents. My mother and father are not nuts but their mother is. I keep trying to tell them that there isn't any room for new friends in my families lives but that isn't taken very well. Their mother is divorced and an ex alcoholic, she has many views that my family does not follow and she is a complete biatch. My Fiance realizes that, but the rest of her family feels that I am trying to take my girl away from them. Which isn't very incorrect, they are crazy and I just want a normal life for her.
I am sure I will get people who feel I am wrong and thats fine, I just want to vent a bit.
Go ahead people, free for all.
Give it to me.
Keep in mind I dont really care what you say!!!!!
2007-06-20 15:00:50 · 7 answers · asked by Brian D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that as long as your fiance and you are in agreement about how you feel then you will be able to weather the storms in your relationship when it comes to her family.
When push comes to shove, your fiance should be willing to be the heavy when it comes to dealing with her family, you should not be the one to have to tell people off.
I have been married for 16 years and my mother is the crazy one, my mother-in-law is a sweet woman. I try to keep my mom away from her to spare her from having to deal with my mom's rantings. I also respect when my husband doesn't want to spend long periods of time around her. Hell, I can barely take more than an hour around her. Sometimes I make excuses for my husband why he does not attend whatever, just to save him.
2007-06-20 15:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance's family is toxic then I don't blame you for not wanting them around. You certainly wouldn't want to see someone you love made miserable by others actions and decisions. Trust me, I can certainly relate to being with someone who has a crazy family.
I don't think there is anything wrong with two sides of the family uniting and having a chance to get to know one another. Of course you don't want to dump a pile of crazies onto your parents. Instead maybe your parents can be cordial when around your fiance's family so it doesn't seem like they are snobs without actually having to hang out with them.
2007-06-20 16:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do, that's why you posted this question.
Well you are going to have to deal with those people for the rest of your life, they aren't going away. Its not up to you to create an opportunity for a relationship between your parents and her mother, however. I would just look stupid when someone brings that up, and say something like "well ok, she should call them then." Your parents are grown ups, they can take care of themselves.
You may want to pay attention to how your soon to be wife is reacting to this. If she isn't able to cut the apron strings, you are going to be dealing with this forever. Who do you think is going to take care of dear old mom in law when her liver gives out? Yeah, that's right.
2007-06-20 16:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if it were me, I'd just stay away from them. If they are as crazy as you say don't go around them. You can't help if you don't like them, you don't have to. I love my in-laws because they brought my husband into the world, but they drive me nuts. Don't even get me started on the stupid crap they pull. We moved away from them and visit on holidays. I bite my tongue on those wonderous occasions for my husbands sake. I don't need to remind him how crappy they are, he knows, but he still loves them. Like your fiance probably loves her mom, just deal when you have to and the rest of the time stay away.
2007-06-20 15:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your fiance's sisters that your parents were taught to stay away from strangers and they are strange ones.
2007-06-20 16:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find out what it is about your in-laws family that reminds you so much of yourself... that is what is REALLY driving you nuts.
You want to separate yourself from them because they show you things you don't want to see about yourself.
You don't win any points by pointing out that she is an ex-alcoholic... it takes more strength of character to admit you had a problem than it takes to pretend you have none.
2007-06-20 16:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i don't really know what you are asking, but i hope you figure it all out.
2007-06-20 15:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋