I was just invited as a guest to wedding froma close friend and was curious if she was inviting me WITH A GUEST or not? Is it tacky to ask her if I can bring a guest? whats proper etiquette. does anyone know for sure or been ina similar situation? Please reply ASAP
2007-06-20 14:11:50 · 21 answers · asked by simplemiss71 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As a general rule, if your invitation doesn't list "and guest" or the name of your significant other, then no. However, if you are very close to her then ask if you could get some clarification since you haven't been to a lot of weddings. If the invitation was oral, then definitely ask!
2007-06-20 14:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what the invitation says. If it is just addressed to you, then a guest is not invited. Not sure why a close friend would invite you sans date though. I was very insistant on inviting people who were not married to have a guest. There were 2 people though, (on my Mom's side of the family)... whom I invited on their own. One is a single man, in his late 40's, who doesn't have a girlfriend and doesn't seem interested. The other is my Mom's sister whose husband is an abusive a**, so I refused to be cordial on that one, and I invited her on her own.
In any event, I got a reply back from the 40something year old man today with a GUEST. I felt it rude to have him just assume he could bring someone. He is bringing a guy, a cousin of his, cousin of my Mom's as well. But STILL, I didn't allow it in the numbers.
In any event, if you ask, you may put your friend on the spot. But if you do ask, maybe you were intended to bring a guest. I always thought though that it would say and GUEST or just your name, those were the directives.
Good luck! :)
Edit: I totally agree with something sarecrazy7 said, bringing an additional un-invited guest is expensive, I'm paying $55 a plate! and WOW, sarecrazy7's friend with the boyfriend of ONE day coming to her wedding, I don't think so! Hope you put a stop to that!!!! lol.
2007-06-20 22:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this has been said over and over, but I'll repeat it anyhow, if the invite says you and guest, then a guest is welcome to come with you. If it just has your name on it, then no. The only way you can get away with asking is if you have recently moved in with the "guest" you want to bring, or they have recently moved in with you. In that case, if the couple is following proper etiquette, they are forced to invite your live-in.
BUT...I found something you might like, here a link on guests do's and don't's at weddings...you might find it helpful, and it does address this question as well.
http://www.weddingchannel.com/ui/buildArticle.action?assetUID=91459&p=1493&t=92&s=610257031&c=6353&l=148233
Good luck to you and I hope you enjoy the wedding!
P.S. With it costing upwards of $55/plate for guests, in most larger cities, it may break the couples budget if you ask to bring a guest...and of course it will put them in a position to have to tell you yes.
2007-06-20 21:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by countrygyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can bring a guest the outside envelope will say "and guest" on it. If it doesn't say "and guest" then you shouldn't bring a guest and you shouldn't ask the bride if you can. They probably don't have the money to invite all their single friends with guests too.
2007-06-20 23:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only bring a guest if it says "Suzie and guest". Otherwise, you were invited without a guest. Couples have to put a lot of thought into the guest list and sometimes have to limit the number of guests.
2007-06-20 21:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it can be uncomfortable going by yourself. But if the invitation had only your on it, that means just you are invited. Weddings are extremely expensive. Your friend most likely has a budget that she already has gone over. You really do not want to put her on the spot, by asking if you can bring someone. Be adventuresome and mingle! Have Fun!
2007-06-20 23:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by Janet C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they meant for you to bring a guest, it would have said and guest on the invite. If your good friends though , ask, it won't end the friendship or anything! LOL
2007-06-20 21:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by spliff 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually when they send the invitation it says, you and guest, or it will say on the rsvp # attending. Don't think you'll be rude if you ask, it's better to ask then just assume! If you want to know just call her and say listen I was wondering if you wouldn't mind if I brought a guest. I'm sure she won't be mad.
2007-06-20 21:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by TAMMI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT tacky to ask, it's BETTER to ask. We recently were invited to a wedding. The envelope just said my husband's name and my name, nothing else. This was from a guy that my husband works with from time to time. He asked the next day if our kids could come and he was told - Of course! We wouldn't have it any other way!! So I replied with 5 to attend. On the other side, my aunt called and asked me if she could bring my EX to my wedding! I told her no of course, but was really glad she called first!! How awful would that have been?!
2007-06-20 21:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by ♪♪BandMom♪♪ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your friend wanted you to bring a guest, she would indicate it on the inner envelope of the invitation you received. If it was not on the inner envelope, then your friend expects you to attend the wedding solo. Yes, it is tacky to ask if you can bring someone. Please accept your friend's decision if she expects you to attend solo. She may have space or budget limitations, and you need to respect that.
2007-06-20 21:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋