I don't believe in one night stand or give it up on the first date. I don't believe there is a magic number of how many dates with a guy before you sleep with him. To me, there has to be a connection trust for me to give it up. What is your take on women who give up easily? or those you wait longer? What is the medium takes on this acient question of sleep with or not to sleep with right away? Honesty is the best answer don't spare any feeling. Thank you guys.
2007-06-20 13:44:54 · 9 answers · asked by B12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol, well when i was young and dating, I'd have sex with pretty much any girl willing. as i grew older, i realized that meaningless sex was just that, meaningless. it's fun no matter what, but it's best when you actually love the person your with. and i still think girls who sleep with a guy on their first date to be sluts, and not to be considered for a long term relationship. fun to go out with though
2007-06-20 13:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by David S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah man, right on. I think it's personal. I wouldn't look at it as giving it up. It's like at some point in the relationship you're going to break down and do something you don't want to do. If you're doing something you don't want to do that'll just cause resentment/expectations toward your partner. Well I gave you something now you owe me. It's like prostitution in a different package.
I don't believe sex can be compartmentalized(just enjoy sex with no other complications) for girls AND guys. There is a feeling of attatchment toward the other person after the act. I think guys who sleep around either don't ever see the partner for a long time or never because they KNOW the attatchment is there and it gets stronger every time they make love.
Sleeping around is very difficult, because you trash your affectionate feelings every time you do it, because you feel something for the person and then you have to run away and miss them. I don't do it anymore because I'm aware of this consequence.
2007-06-20 13:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think women that give it up on the first date are not exactly whores, but they know what it is they want in life. If you enjoy having sex then do it. Don't let people put titles on you, just be smart with it, wear protection, get regular checkups.
If you think you have a connection with the person, then test them by not having sex, then you can find out if they are with you for love or just sex. My wife made me wait a long time until our passion and love led to us making love, before we got married. I know this is considered wrong, but if you cant enjoy the person sexually you really shouldn't stay with them. It only gets worse unless you tell him and he doesn't take offense to it.
I am a guy and this is what I would recomend as a guy.
2007-06-20 13:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a guy
I thought this was a question about dating. It turned out to be a question about how many dates it would take for a woman to "give it up".
I feel men look at dating as a means to an end. X amount of dates will lead to .... said sexual act. Why else would a creature that believes women only want men with money willingly spend his money on dating? Of course I'm speaking of dating in the traditional sense where the man asks the woman. Nowadays men expect women to ask them out thereby relieving them of the obligation to pay but the expectation of sex is still present in their minds.
Modern men also use the term"hanging out" in order to give the impression to the female in question, other females and especially their male "buddies"expectation that they are not exclusive or official in their "dating" status.
It's quite sickening and reeks of manipulation. In short
It's all bull ****. "Dating" seeks to reduce women to commondities to be bid upon and men as the highest bidder
2007-06-20 14:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its because i'm a genuine guy but there is no short or long. If she feels ready and so do I, then we have sex. It doesn't matter how long she waits but if it were on my first date i would personally tell her im not ready. Get to know her, and then when you guys know enough and trust each other then you're ready to have sex whenever.
2007-06-20 13:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus IS REAL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the type of guy who respects you more if you hold back . If I had seen a girl who was loose she most likely wouldn't be seen with me.
2007-06-20 13:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by norman d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not judge either too harshly!
Of course it would be natural to wonder if she gave it up to me quickly, how many others did she sleep with quickly!
However, her past is her past! It has made her who she is and if I like her, it doesn't matter.
2007-06-20 13:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't judge too much, although if was given to early, I'd think does she give it this easy to all men ??
2007-06-20 13:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would think this chick likes sex. Its a pleasurable act and i dont think any less of any woman who enjoys it.
2007-06-20 13:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Prettiest Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋