do u agree with my girlfriend, this question is for everyone?

Question

the debate for today Is dose looks matter



what you see in your self affects your esteem, and what you think people of you affects what you think of yourself which then affects your self esteem which then affects your personlality. Its just coz they're jealous of all those other people who care about there looks.

And yeah looks do tell alot bot you. Coz if you were actualy like all gross and like wearing old clothes and everything and even if you came from a really rich family, people wil still assume you came of the streets.

If people can't do themselves up then why do they go blaming others for actualy caring about their looks, like honestly its not our fault that we have a life and that people actually like us coz we have such a great personality coz we have a really high selfesteem coz we feel good about how we dress and show ourselves.

Go you!!! Good on you for bringing that quesout, finally someone with sense in this "lets blame other people coz we're ugly" worl

Answer 1

First, there's a difference between keeping yourself clean and tidy (being presentable) and that of getting yourself all dolled up.

Second, the way a person looks tells you something about themselves, even if it is nothing more than that they care enough about themselves to take care of themselves. It can also tell you the opposite, that they care too much about their looks and how they appear to others. Or anything in between.

Third, the way a person looks is only part of the total person. Other things making up that person affect how people perceive them and how the person perceives themselves. There is (or should be) more to a person than just the way they look. If you only concentrate on one aspect of a person or yourself then you blow that aspect out of proportion. This is the root of low self-worth, not that you allow it to matter but that you allow it to matter so completely.

Answer 2

you can't help the way you look naturally. Not everyone can be born beautiful or afford plastic surgery. But credit should be given for people who at least make the effort to make the most of what they have. So, no you can't judge someone by their natural looks, but i do see where you're coming from about the esteem thing,though. If people who aren't beautiful can see themselves as more than just their looks, but a nice personality or a good sense of humor,etc., then maybe others will do the same. So, basically i guess people see you the way you see yourself, so to be loved for who you are, you must first learn to do the same yourself.

Answer 3

Looks does not matter it is who the person is inside. I have seen so many of these pretty people that think they look so good and the whole time i am around them they seem so conceited and full of themselves that it makes them look worse than a street bum. People who concentrate to much on there looks get on my nerves and i don't like being around them. I will take the average looking Joe any day over the so called pretty people. And lastly. I like my self just like i am. Big gut 'big *** and all. No body brings me down. If they don't like how i look then there the one with the problem not me.

Answer 4

Looks can open a lot of doors for you. However, they will only get you so far. If you are great looking, wear expensive clothes, and always have your hair and make-up done that reflects who you are. But if you are snotty people will see through your looks, clothes, and makeup. Is that how you want to be seen and judged - as a superficial person? Or would you rather follow in the footsteps of people like Bono and Angelina Jolie who are making a difference in the world. Yes, they usually look great when we see them in photos but they don't pride themselves on always looking perfect. Instead they focus on righting the injustices in the world.

And, looks fade over time. Then you have to fall back on your personality and what you have done in life.

I guess it's up to you to decide what kind of legacy you want to leave.

Answer 5

Your original thought is an example of Cooley Self Looking Glass Theory - we see ourselves as we think others see us. This determines our dress, actions and self esteem.
This can easily become a spiral affect insofar as one has low self confidence, thinks others think they are a loser; they do not try to keep up with the dress and lingo and fulfill their roles as they see they should fit it.
As far as looks actually telling a lot about someone, this is an unfortunate stereotype upheld by the uneducated and ignorant. There are many examples throughout history of people whom did not necessarily keep themselves kempt, but were in fact quite self confident and great contributors to society. ie. Albert Einstein for one.
Personality and mind have nothing to do with outward dress, and cultural styles are constantly changing. To attempt to follow or be the trend all the time is a shallow attempt of those lacking perspective and shallow in self confidence; those not strong enough to stand alone with confidence.

Answer 6

personally i do not worry about what other people think , of course i am 25 so go figure , even when i was in school i didn't care but i also have extremely high self esteem and i am pretty nice looking , but it's not every ones fault how people look , honey even in old clothes you can look extremely hot if you take the time to make it , the look work for you

Answer 7

ummm. i'm not really sure what your trying to say but i think that looks do matter to a certain extent. i mean people judge you by a first impression and the VERY first impression anybody gets of another person is what they look like right? as far as the 'pretty' people having higher self-esteem, that's not true. if you are totally gorgeous but all of your life people told you that you were butt-ugly and fat, then your always going to be worried that it's true, and naturally feel unsure of yourself, which brings down your self-esteem.

Answer 8

i agree because if you dont take the time to look good, people think your lazy and dont care. i've had people put me down for caring what i look like, and believe it or not, it was from someone who is jealous of me (just because i'm dating a guy she thought was intrested in her, i weigh less, i look better, i'm better athletically, i'm more liked, i get more attention, etc.) and she doesnt take the time to even brush her hair. and people are always talking about how trashy and gross she looks.

Answer 9

You shouldn't base someone on their looks, what you see can be completely different from their real personality. If more people tried to actually get to know someone before judging them, this world wouldn't be as corrupt.

Answer 10

I look representable but am not the greatest looking girl, yet my personality rocks. I have had people love me for my personality & not for my looks. So No, I don't think looks matter.