Depression bc of unhealthy living environment.?

Question

Im a college student, but I have realised that for the past couple years I have been dealing with depression. I have a very unhealthy living environment, my father is emotionally and mentally abusive. This depression has cost a toll on my life because I have becom extremely unhappy, and my grades have severely dropped. My parents right now are going thru a divorce and the whole household is such a mess. Im so depressed to the point that I cant think or do anything anymore. Its like Im stuck in this rut. I want to move out of my house but my mom is scared for me, cuz she thinks i might not continue my education. I want to move out to become my own person again and figure who I am again. For so many years Ive been a product of my fathers strict ways, and it caused for my unhappiness. I know I want to go back to school bc I know im not dumb or a failure, its just that im stressed and mentally unhealthy. I dont know what to do anymore to help myself? Should i move out? Continue school?

Answer 1

If you were my client this is what I would advise you to do;

- Move out immediately! The more you live in an unhealthy enviroment the worst your depression will become, and the more out of control your life is likely to spiral

- Get in therapy or if you are in it make sure you stick with it and really work out your issues your father has given you. If you don't you'll have problems your entire life

- Stay in school! Even if it is on a very part time basis that is ok. Just stick with it and you can go back and take more classes as you feel up to it.

- Trust in the Lord. He will give you the grace to get you through this. Lean on him as you need to and realize that you don't need any other father than our heavenly father.

Answer 2

Although an environment can contribute to depression, clinical depression is biological and may not be relieved by uprooting yourself from what may actually be a support system. Adding the financial stressors may be the last thing you need right now. I would suggest distancing yourself from your parents relationship by immersing yourself in your studies. By focusing your attention on accomplishing the goal of stabilizing your academics, then you will be better prepared for complete independance. Sometimes, Mom really does know best. I would visit a counselor to discuss the stress, and consider the potential benefit of having someone to talk to about it...then if that does not work consider medications. Is family therapy a possibility? True clinical depression is not really something that can be relieved by running away. A complete upheaval rates as one of the most stressful things that you can do. Try a vacation instead, even a weekend camping or a day at the lake. I got a dog and she helped me immediately and tremendously. In the end, only you know what you are truly capable of, what you can make choices to control right now..and what will help. Good luck.

Answer 3

I think one absolutely you should continue school. Its going to matter for everything else you want to do in life. And moving out of the house sounds like the best idea. Its time to learn to be independent, and in the situation your in now you have no room to do that, and your also being abused mentally and emotionally. Get an apartment with a roomate, (its easier to have a roomate your first time living on your own) get a job, and get enrolled in school. But if the depression is so bad that you can't bring yourself to do these things. Then seek a pshyciatrist for an anti-depresent, it can help stabalize your mood so you can acomplish your goals, then hopefully you won't need it long term because once you've got a stable life you'll feel better without the medication. Some people need it life long, others don't.

Answer 4

Your mental health is more important than those other things. Especially if you're at the point where you don't want to do anything anymore. I mean, if you're at that point, you're not going to finish school anyway. So that's a moot point. Your mom is scared for you. That's HER fear. Why isn't she afraid she's making her daughter crazy? You must take care of yourself the way you see fit. Please believe me, nobody knows what's good for you better than you. People can have useful suggestions sometimes, but you must make the decisions conccerning your life. Because only you will always be interested in your best interest. Your parents don't own you and don't always know what's best for you.
You can move out and still finish school. Once you're not dependant on your parents you can get like tons of financial aid for college.

Answer 5

You need to move out. There are plenty of people who go to school or college and live on their own. They work their ---- off. However, they do it. If your father has made you that miserable. I'm sure he has done the same thing to your mom. Although there are 2 sides to every story. I suggest you go to a professional counselor. For the years of abuse you have endured. Also a bit of advice for overcoming depression--

Exercise, eat 6 small well balanced meals a day, get out, meet new people, talk to old friends, do different activities, and enjoy your life a little. These things do help. GL

Answer 6

You should first go to your doctor and talk w/them about anti-depressants. FInd a good counsellor. Then think about moving out of your parents' home. You should go back to school if you can afford it. OVercoming depression can take a while, but if you take positive steps, you can overcome it.

Answer 7

Notify the landlord that there is still a major problem with the infestation of cockroaches and that you have a mold problem. Tell him if these problems are not corrected within two weeks that you will vacated the premises due to the premises being "uninhabitable" , unsafe and unhealthily. Also tell him that you will be holding him responsible for all of your moving expenses due to his neglect and his failure to his legal obligation to keep the premises "inhabitable".

Answer 8

You should defiantly move out, but also continue your education. You recognizing you family is not normal is a step in the right direction. You are fully capable of distancing yourself and rising above it.
don't continue the cycle of abuse

Answer 9

if your environment is causing you to much unhappiness, get out. staying there will only make things worse. i'm sure you're concerned for your parents but they can take care of themselves. right now though, they can't take care of you. do what is best for you to improve your life. take care.

Answer 10

depression for more than few months no good.move to another college ,go away.communicate with your folks by phone for a while.get a good shrink .dont wait youll be sorry.