need help with confidence?

Question

is confidence more iportant then looks? i notice that sometimes i get checked out constantly, and othertimes i feel invisible. i have no self confidence, because growing up i really was ugly. however,im not anymore, and i'll hea girls that i dont even know whispering behind me "she's so pretty she makes me sick". so i know im attractive. i just cant figure out why guys dont hit on me much and sometimes i feel invisible even. what are ways to atleast fake being confident? i can be really shy and quiet and i HATE it. does smiling constantly make a difference?

Answer 1

Be your own best friend, honey. Like yourself for who you are inside, and it will show on the outside. If you like yourself, you will smile more, and you will be more relaxed when you interact with others. Make eye contact, and smile. You never know what it might mean to someone else. They might be having an awful day and your smile might just make their day a little brighter. And eye contact and a smile tell others that you are open and available if they want to talk!

Answer 2

I know exactly where you're coming from. Hold your head high, back straight, shoulders straight--not slumped, and walk like you own the world. And yes, SMILE! Just make sure it's a real smile. That gives the impression of confidence and approachability. And when a guy talks to you, just be yourself. Be normal. Trust me, it works. :) Guys can't resist pretty and friendly. And if you do that for long enough, it'll become natural and you won't have to even think about it. You'll own that confidence.

Answer 3

I have the exact same problem. I just try to make myself talk to people. I used to care what other people thought about me but now I've realized that I'll probably never see those people again so what does it matter what they think. Guys will look at me but never approach me to talk to me. So I just smile and look them straight in the eyes. Sometimes I'll even try to make small talk & hope it works. I don't know if this helps any because I;m sorta going through it a little still. good luck.