Who do I invite to the shower?

Question

The girls want me to give them an invite list for a shower. It's going to be a casual type thing, possibly a picnic at someone's house.

We just had a baby shower a year ago, and I invited all of his family, including aunts, cousin's great aunts and second cousins from out of town. Some came some didn't, and most of them don't even really know me.

I am not sure if I should just use the same list.... or if I should limit it to just those people from his family that I actually know personally to some extent and those that live in town.

He just says use the same list because it's easier, but I am not sure if that is the right thing to do.I am not concerned about gifts at all and I don't want to come across as inviting everyone just to get gifts...

... but I don't want to leave the wrong people out.

The answer to this can make the difference between having it at someone's house and having it somewhere else!

Ohhh.. I forgot to add... this is for a BRIDAL shower. Not a second baby.

Again... it's not for a baby... it's for a wedding.

Answer 1

Mom, sisters, sisters-in-law, best friends or bridesmaids not involved in the shower planning.

I would also invite any living grandmothers or great-grandmothers. They may not be able to come, but they will like getting the invitation. I have a close extended family, too, so I invited aunts and cousins, and one cousin-in-law. Be warned, it is not advisable to invite one cousin you're pretty close to, and not invite her sister who you don't like very much. The one finds out, gets mad, and purposely snubs you at other family functions.

I wouldn't have CHANGED that, but I do wish she hadn't found out.

I also think that at a wedding shower, it is important to include your future in-laws. At the very least, invite your fiance's mother, but also sisters and other close relatives like grandmothers.

I would invite people you are actually close to, not just the random list of all cousins or female acquaintances. As long as uninvited people wouldn't find out and/or be hurt by not being invited, keep the list relatively short. If you have invited someone you think will most likely not even be coming to the wedding, leave them off the shower invite list.

Most of the time, when it has been either my shower or a shower I've helped throw for someone, the hostess already figures on inviting the obvious people like mother, grandmother or sisters. Do you have any coworkers or women in your Sunday School class or anything like that your'e close to, who the hostesses are unlikely to know? That's usually who the list consists of, for shower's I've been involved with.

Have fun!

Answer 2

Hi there, was just browsing and i noticed that you were a little bit concerned with this shower thing? Well i got married just a year ago and me and the wife was sort of in the same situation. Problem was some i didn't get on with and vice verse. We really though about just inviting those we know and get on with it would be much simpler but is it. The answer is no because then there is all the explaining to why did he/she not get invited or do you not like me. People make there own choice so i would send them all invites, if they show well great i mean it is bridle and you can really only do it the once (or should). If they don't no worries you know you invited them and then you wont feel bad. And don't let anyone tell you its pressies your after i couldn't care less about them just wanted everyone to be there to show off my bride. I hope that was helpful if not sorry.
Oh and have a nice party and hope the weather is good for your big day.

Answer 3

hi. at all the bridal showers I extremely have attended, the bridal bathe is many times nicely beforehand the marriage (2-3 months). So....the bridal bathe invite is going out first....THEN the marriage invite. And, you particularly could deliver out your wedding ceremony invite 6-8 weeks forward....greater in the direction of the 8 weeks. There are situations the place the bridal bathe is in simple terms some days beforehand the marriage, per risk via fact the bridesmaids stay out of city, yet usually that's some months beforehand. If there is not any selection yet to have it very on the brink of the marriage...then, confident, the marriage invites could decide for to pass out first...then the bathe invites. Even for the bathe, you're able to provide your visitors a minimum of three-4 weeks be conscious.

Answer 4

Go ahead and invite his entire family. I would ordinarily say not to invite the ones from out of town, but you can't leave them out now since you invited them to the baby shower. As far as the local people, invite the bridal party and your other close friends and co-workers.

Best wishes on a wonderful wedding and marriage.

Answer 5

Go with your 2nd list, invite the people you know, like close family and friends on both sides. You should have it at your house why would you have a baby shower at someone elses house, if your place isn't big enough then have it at your moms house. If your mom doesn't have room at her place then yeah have it some place else, I know I would feel weird going to somone elses house I didn't know.

And as for you being worried about leaving people out, honestly you don't have to cos it's not a wedding it's just a baby shower, they should get over it, close family and friends are all the people you need to invite. Not to mention how much it's gonna cost you to feed that many people if yo ugo with your first list that is.

Answer 6

What I did for my baby shower in Sept. is, I thought of the people I would have a good time with. People I had really talked to and hung out with in the last year or so. I also threw in immediate family, aunts, grandmothers and such. I also split mine in 1/2. I had one early in the day for family and not so close friends. Then an evening one for close friends, people I hang out with often. It worked out great!

Answer 7

Family stuff is sometimes tricky and touchy. I agree with him, just to be safe you don't want to leave someone out and risk offending them and having there be this little offense for years to come within the family.
And those from out of town may send a gift or a gift card which is always nice. I don't think people will think you are inviting just to get gifts, I think they will be happy that you invited them.
Congrats and I hope it turns out great!!

Answer 8

Especially since it is your second shower, just invite close friends and family! Congrats!

Answer 9

If it's a bridal shower invite the people that YOU feel closest to! :)

Answer 10

The whole reason for baby shower is for gifts, otherwise a baby shower would not take place, unless the baby is already born. If the baby is not born the shower is sheer selfishness.