My father for my whole life takes any money that i had even if it is a dollar. its to the point that i have to hide my money. He takes my hard earned money that i worked for an says that he is holding it for me an sometimes i never get it back. me an mom tell him its wrong to do that because this is the age (15) that i need to make my mistakes an learn how to spend. dont get me wrong my dad is a good father an spends alot of money on me. its just that it angers my everyday i wake up to see that 5 dollars in my dresser gone. why do parents do this. i dont buy drugs/achohol or any of that. why can he just let me in my money be?
2007-06-20 11:59:17 · 9 answers · asked by jordan l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Would he consider it stealing if you took 5$ out of his wallet? I'm willing to bet that he would. I'd start keeping a list, in public view (maybe on your wall?) of exactly how much he takes and when. Or leave a note in your wallet addressed to him, telling him to ask you if he needs to borrow money. If he considers it okay because you live in his house, sit down with him and work out how much he feels that you 'owe' him per month. Pay that, and don't allow him to take more. If you want to be petty about it, every time he takes 5$ out of your wallet, take 5$ from his. He'll learn his lesson pretty quickly.
2007-06-20 12:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you have a good place to hide it? Even if you get a bank account becuase you are a minor he could take the money out. I would really think about finding another trusted adult and having them hold my money, like another relative or a youth group leader at church. Just do not tell your dad. but, yeah I think it is wrong if he is spending it and not saviing it for you in an account. Maybe you should go with him and open an account and tell him that you want all your money in the bank and you want to review the bank statements every month so you both can see that there is savings for you, and then hide your spending money so he can not find it. This is a tough one.
2007-06-20 12:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to personally know you and your father to know why he would do this. My parents took my earnings (I made a steady paycheck at your age - not the random $5 here and there) because I was contributing to the household. They gave me a washer and dryer and the deposit for my first apartment from the money they took. I think that's about the best thing they could have done for me. If you're dad's a drunk or crazy in some way or if you're really bad about what you spend money on that changes the situation. Just remember that raising you is very expensive. Your folks have a right to expect you to contribute (again, if that's the situation)
2007-06-20 12:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is considered stealing if he doesn't ask you if he can borrow some money. Confront your dad and ask him why he has been taking money from you. Tell him to stop taking your money that you worked hard for. if he wants money, tell him to work for it. It's weird to see that your father is stealing from you. Usually you hear stories about kids stealing money from their parents, not the other way around. Hiding your money is probably the best thing to do now. Hide it in the weirdest place so your dad won't be able to find it, but make sure you are able to find it. Once you are able to open you own savings account, put all your money in there. Your dad won't be able to access your account since it is your own account, not his.
2007-06-20 18:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by contender569 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his intentions are good and supposing he is not taking for emergency reasons then there can be a better way to manage your finances with his supervision and not the way that he is currently doing it. He probably just wants you to save money and an assurance that you are not spending it foolishly.
Why don't you take the initiative of disclosing your finances to him that way he knows what you are doing with your money and there is goodness in this because if you goof up majorly (at your age you can ) you have someone to advise you about it. Maybe this will break his habit of taking money from you and you have peace of mind.
2007-06-20 12:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by orange_slice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont't know what the legal issue is here but if he takes money from you that is yours and you earned it, yes i would cosidder it stealing. Go to a bank, open up a savings account with your mom and put it there.
2007-06-20 12:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by twinsisterwendy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is just wrong...if it is your money then it is your money not his so i would let him know exactlly how i felt nice or not and i would hide it so he couldnt find it
2007-06-20 12:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by thatgurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my peeps take my money becuase they know i can't spend any better...so they are saving it up for college. maybe yours too?
2007-06-20 12:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's not stealing really. but you should be able to make you own money. but you gotta do you gotta do
2007-06-20 12:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by ♥link♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋