If you really liked a woman but were really in debt due to a series of various bad luck events, would you pursue her (or be too embarrassed about your situation and wait until you were financially stable?
2007-06-20 11:50:13 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And she's really nice and you really are interested in her? or would you be embarrassed?
2007-06-20 11:50:59 · update #1
You could be a loser who is always in debt. Is this a good reason to never have sex again?
2007-06-20 11:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
From a woman's standpoint....who really cares about your financial status?!?! You want her to like you for who YOU are, not what your financial status is, right? If she is too superficial to see you for who you are rather than your bankroll, well then, she's not worth your time. Besides, you pay off your debt while you are pursuing this girl. Think of all the precious time together you could be missing out on due to your own inhabitions. GET ONTHE BUS GUS!! ;)
good luck....you never know...this could be your one true love!!
2007-06-20 11:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by Rockin Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, i would pursue her right away. If she does not go out with you because of your financial situation then she isnt good enough FOR YOU! That shouldnt be something that you would want anyways. If i was in your situation, i would pursue until given notice not to. Financial situation (debt only) is no reason to not pursue a woman.
2007-06-20 11:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Josh C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in debt that is your business and it should have nothing to do with getting involved with someone. Just find the right time to be open about your situation if it comes up for any reason later on. Life is too short to worry about being embarrassed. Pursue away!!!
2007-06-20 11:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you plan to be celibate until you are out of debt perhaps you should just go join the priesthood now.
If you and the woman become serious about each other then you need to discuss your financial situation with her and she can either accept you with your debts or run the other way.
2007-06-20 11:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let my finances or lack of them to stop me from persuing a woman or any woman for that fact. You are not the only person in this world who is in debt. Most people in this country are to an extent. The can be applied to both male or female. The is an excellent chance that the woman you are trying to get with is in debt herself.
What you do until you can resolve your bad debt/credit situation is to downplay your problems until you two have been dating for awhile. If it comes up in conversation on a date, be honest and let her know that you are working to resolve them and that you have a plan to get out of debt, etc.
If you let your finances determine when and where you persue women, you will die a lonely old man.
2007-06-20 11:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WAIT until everything is paid off, or almost paid off and you are financially stable before pursuing anyone. You will then have peace of mind. If you start a relationship, your expenses may go up somewhat with dinners, travel, movies, etc. Don't worry, if she is not around at that time, you will meet and attract another woman.
2007-06-20 11:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by WE 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I would not. Why get someone else messed up in your bad fortune. I will tell you, 6 years ago I had a man do that to me, and I am to this day still paying that debt back. I have 10 more payments at $200.00 each to go, as like an idiot, I married him thinking it will get better, it doesn't. Clean yourself up, then look for love.
2007-06-20 11:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by tamlovinlife2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should definitely still pursue her. Whatever you do, just don't lie! She shouldn't be too interested in your financial state from the beginning, and if she is, she's money hungry! You shouldn't have to talk about that type of an issue until you really establish a good relationship. If she really cares for you, she will understand.
2007-06-20 11:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
...And she was interested in me- Sure! Alot of women have money of their OWN nowadays; my ego is not so supersized that I'd think she'd base the relationship on her end on how well someone can financially support her. It sure would be NICE if it didn't have to be that way, -but we don't always get to pick & choose among our circumstances... And I'd like to think that most women would understand that- & go for the MAN, & not his wallet.
2007-06-20 12:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah, I'd wait til I'm 40.
A 40 year old unable to handle his finances is slightly more pathetic so you might have a better chance with her.
2007-06-20 11:54:30 · answer #11 · answered by Seán_18 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋