My boyfriend and I haven't seen eachother for such a long time because of summer break. My friends keep on sending me pranks from bored.com, and the pranks saying he dosent like me, and stuff like that. I am VERY gullible, so I keep falling for them, and i keep yelling at my boyfriend since i dont know what my friends are sending me are pranks. And recently, this happened again, and I said i hated him. Do you know anyway for me to make it up to him? ( i already told him the whole story, but when he reads the message that says i hate him, i'm scared he might be really mad at me for ever saying that. please help me!
2007-06-20 11:45:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, I must question "your friend(s)" (i.e., more than a few doing this? sick.) I wouldn't have thought this amusing at 17, nor do I now...That aside.
You need to go this guy and do something extra special (an added effort of showing your concern and care...perhaps a special card with a personal note?) -combined with another apology for him...tell him you fell victim to your "friends" pranks and used poor judgment - that is no reflection on your feelings for him, rather your own immaturity in allowing them to diss him to you thinking it was "humor" (humorless is more like it...one can only wonder if there isn't some underlying jealousy on their part of you and/or, your relationship with him? Think about that honey...real friends aren't mean, remember that...)
Grace
2007-06-20 11:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is wait. He will either see it as the result of the pranks and your volatile emotional state, or he won't.
Worst case scenario: you break up. He may come back, even after that.
I ask you to understand a couple basics. One is that if you start seeing someone, there are only 3 possible outcomes. You can get married, you can break up, one of you can die.
So, in this case, breaking up is the good outcome.
Another thing is that love is passion, intimacy and commitment. Do not leave home without all three. You've had a little passion, but he has no commitment to this friendship, and neither of you have a scintilla of intimacy yet.
Any friendship that can be broken apart by pranking friends would have fallen apart in the first windstorm, anyway.
One last point, and I'm not clear why I'm bothering, maybe somebody else will read it: A relationship is like a brick wall. The bricks are the unchangeable things that each partner brings to it, and the mortar represents the adjustments that you make to hold the bricks in place. You can have too much mortar, or too little. And there are an awful lot of ways to put bricks together. But you don't have any mortar at all if he goes away the first time that you get angry at him.
2007-06-20 18:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No disrespect but if these people were your friends they wouldn't be doing things like that to you. If you feel you've done a lot of damage to your relationship then call up your guy and let him know that you didn't mean the things you said to him and explain what happened. He should understand if he loves you. Then tell these "friends" to take a hike if they're going to keep that type of stuff up. If you guy still is a little upset I'm pretty sure you know a few ways to make him forgive you. ~wink, wink~ =)
2007-06-20 19:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Asia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are sorry and say that you did not mean you what you said about hating him you were just mad at them time even though that is not an excuss just i am truely sorry. the next time you get letters like that you will make sure they are not from him and you will talk to him first about it without getting mad.
AND TELL YOUR FRIENDS TO KNOCK IT THE HELL OFF. but in a nice way of course if u want too.
if they wont they are not your true friends.
2007-06-20 18:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friends that they are messing with your relationship and you dont like it. They should respect your wishes. Then tell you boyfriend about bored.com and how you always fall for you friends dumb tricks. If it happens again, ask you boyfriend about it before you start to get angry with him.
2007-06-20 18:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by imjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay off the computer. Get yourself some friends who won't do such childish and mean things to you. Explain to your boyfriend that it'll never happen again.
2007-06-20 18:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep reminding him how much you care about him. Also try explaining it differently, ask him how he would react if that was happening to him. Most people that date someone, if that was happening to them they would get very defensive an would want to express their anger about the situation. You make a rash decision and every one makes mistakes. If he really cares about you than he will learn how to forgive you. Best of luck!!
2007-06-20 18:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly_2blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with your boyfriend more. Instead of friends from bored.com
2007-06-20 18:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Tyson boy's dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont believe anything anyone else tells you if you dont hear it from him have faith. As far as making up, just pick up the phone if he loves you he will listen and understand.
2007-06-20 18:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out with him! :)
And go yell at your friends for sending you those things!!! They're the ones trying to ruin your relationship, not you!
2007-06-20 18:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by KittyKat101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋