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I am getting married in about a year and I have a little problem. My family is straight up mexican, into the cowboy hats, dancing, mexican music and everything else mexican. My boyfriend on th eother hand is straight up white and his family is too. They arent into the dancing, loud music or anything else. I dont want him and his familiy or mine to feel out of place or anything like that . Give me some good ideas on how i should go about planning my wedding having two totally different cultures.

2007-06-20 11:09:35 · 10 answers · asked by mericanmango 1 in Family & Relationships Weddings

Thank you guys.. I think so far my solution is to have open bar! lol your answers are all helpful

2007-06-20 15:42:12 · update #1

10 answers

Well, you two got together and seem to like each other right? Try to design your wedding around what the two of you would like to do. Chances are, the two of you are somewhere in the middle.

If you are in a Mexican/American community, you may want to contact your local DJ early -- they can probably tell you what works and what doesn't in a mixed community.

For example, you may want to have a dinner and dance separate -- the Dinner might be more formal without dancing, but with cake cutting, and other things. Then a dance later might get a little wilder. The Mexican Music fans will be better able to enjoy the "boring" reception if they know their fun will be coming.

2007-06-20 11:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0 0

Serve lots of alcoholic drinks to all the guests and maybe the ones that are more up tight won't mind the loud music and maybe the dancing family won't mind the snub looks. LOL, I am seriously just kidding!!
You have a big problem on your hands! Is there a way you incorporate all the likes of your family, and maybe tone them down a bit, as not to upset your future in-laws?

You will probably get a lot of responses that say do what you want it's your day. But it's obvious you aren't that selfish because you are asking how to please your guests. KUDOS!! But at the same time, you do need to consider what is important to you, and what part of your culture and his, you MUST include...for the both of you.

Okay, here's an idea...do you plan to serve a large meal? Have the music stay low and mellow throughout the meal, and the "first" dances and the cake cutting, until most of your reception "must haves" are done. After the cake cutting is usually when guests start to pack up. Give it 20minutes for everyone to eat the cake and let the party begin. The ones who don't care for the loud music will probably be ready to leave anyhow, and your family can enjoy the rest of the evening with fully belly's.
Good luck to you...oh and of course try www.theknot.com, I'm not aware of any advice they have on this subject, but your bound to find something that will help.

CONGRATS!!

2007-06-20 11:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by countrygyrl 2 · 1 0

First of all remember this is YOUR day. If you want loud music and cowboy hats so be it. You wont be able to make everyone happy. Now that's out of the way the best thing you can do is find a really go DJ. Tell them know what you want and they should be able to play music that your family cam get down to and also play music that will give the grooms family a break. If that doesn't work have open bar, that way people will be too drunk to care either way. GOOD LUCK!!!

2007-06-20 15:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by punkin1427 1 · 0 0

Lemme tell ya...I'm a white girl, who grew up in an area where Mexicans were the majority. There is no better party than the one held by Mexicans!!! The white kids in my neighborhood had stupid boring parties with stupid boring cakes. The Mexican kids in my neighborhood had pinatas, and dancing...The Tias were in the kitchen making cookies and fresh tortillas long before the real party ever started, and the Tios were in the backyard drinking cerveza, making sure everyone was ready for fun!

And all of us white folks knew it. I'm sure your fiance's family knows it too!

If I were in your shoes, I would most definitely lean toward the Mexican side, and party it up!

That said, any wedding is a mixture of cultures. You should sit down with your fiance, and ask him what are the important wedding traditions in his family. Compare these with the important wedding traditions in your family, and put all of the above into the wedding. For example...my daughter is getting married in October. One of the things that is a tradition for her fiance's family is something called the Tamborine Dance. Neither my daughter nor I had ever heard of it, but it will be an important (and I think fun) part of their wedding.

If you have pieces from both sides, no one will feel completely left out.

2007-06-20 11:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1 0

For music, i would make mixed cd's of both american and mexican music. Dance to soft slow music and then fast mexican music.

I would also mix the food, traditions, and so on.

Talk to each side of the family and tell them what the wedding will consist of so they can be ready for it.

Blend everything together, you are a blended family now.

2007-06-20 11:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This sounds exactly like something that happened to one of my friends.

To compromise, they had a reception immediately after the wedding, at the church, for his family, really anyone who wanted to attend. Not much food, just cake and fruit. After that reception was over everyone had a chance to go home and change and they then had a dinner and dance at a seperate location. Loud music, drinks, and lots and lots of food! Both sides were happy and EVERYONE was comfortable. It seems like an expense, but they felt like it was well worth it.

2007-06-20 11:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by britno_00 2 · 1 0

Have a traditional wedding and then have a special part of your wedding devoted to your heritage. Whatever you do, don't make that whole part in Spanish with no translating. You can't imagine how frustrating this is to the non-Spanish speaking guests. ( I went to a wedding where half of it was in Japanese. It was torture.)

2007-06-20 13:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by Alison M 1 · 0 0

Well this is your wedding, so what do you and your fiance like? I appreciate you wanting to please both families, but you need to please yourselves first. If you like "Mexican" and your fiance does as well, then go for it. If the two of you prefer something in the middle, then do something in the middle.

2007-06-20 11:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by longhornfan1722 4 · 2 0

tequila and white people ususally end up crazy. so serve the grooms family booze and watch what happens

2007-06-20 12:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Just do want you want... screw everyone else.

2007-06-20 13:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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