My girlfriend and I got in a fight?

Question

Iam visting my mom in seatlle and me and my girlfriend got in a fight she got mad at me because I want to help my mother who has been an Alcoholic for 10 years I went to go get my mom a car and she got mad at me when I went to auction for the day trying to get my mom a car resonabablly priced when she found out that she whould probablly have to take me tomorrow she got really pissed at me. I started to scream at her then she wanted to use my cell phone because she gave her mom her's for the time being anyways I was like 3 feet away from her and she said she wanted her space. I didn't give her her space later we went back to my grandma's house and I said I want to talk to you. She said five minutes after 2 minutes of talking she got in her car I got on top of her car and she drove off I got second degree burns because my elbows layed on her car. Who is in the wrong I see my mom on average once a year. Who is in the wrong their more details Ill put up later

The thing is she has been driving everywhere even the auction. I came from auction at 1:30 she complaining how she didn't do anything all day. She wanted to go Downtown. We whould have had the rest of the day from 1:30 till closing most shops 8 some 9. I Understand that driving is very stressful but she is making very hard for my mom to get her life back. I could take the bus 3 hour ride but our day whould have been shot.

Answer 1

i would say that you both are way out of line. first of all she cannot be mad at you for wanting to do nice things for your mom. how is her relationship with your mom? she may be jealous. you might want to start doing more nice things like that for her, because she probably feels that you care more about your mom.

but you cannot be so aggresive. if she wants her space-give it to her. things will only get worse if you don't. and laying on top of her car.. that just sounds desperate. dont do that! but she is being a little unreasonable because she won't let you talk to her when all your trying to do is resolve things. you just need to set her down and let all your feelings out, then listen to hers, and when she starts to cry (which she will) hug her and hold her. your just going through a rough patch, it will be over soon.

Answer 2

It doesn't really Matter WHO is right and who is wrong..You and your girlfriend are on the 'outs' because you handled things wrong, as did she.
There is NO NEED to Scream at someone no matter how angry/upset you are....if you';re at that point , you need to step back , take a walk and cool off then approach the situation again with a clear head.
Perhaps your g/friend isn't quite understanding of WHY you're doing all this for your mother. YOu should sit her down and talk this through. Let her know how you're feeling, why you're doing this..and then LISTEN to what She has to say. A relationship is built on Communication Trust and Honesty..without those, you have nothing.
Take the time to talk this out with your g/friend and if she's needing SPACE then you best be giving that to her until SHE feels ready to talk again*
Goodluck with ur mom*

Answer 3

wow, i'm totally backing you up here. I don't know what to make out of this. Hey maybe there's something in her past that makes her act the way she does. Do you know her realtionship between her mother and her, maybe there's something there. I do understand that you did try to reason to her by trying to talk to her and by running after her. But whatever happens i admire you for trying to help out you mum, i know what its like to have one parent but you should never give up on your mum. Your not in the wrong here. I've always thought that arguments were supposed to make a realtionship stronger but you guys had a fight. This is worse. I don't know what you should to to your girlfriend apart from trying to talk to her, lock you and her in the same room and talk, or something. If this doesn't work then I'm sorry honey but maybe you two should have a cool off and have a break. So you both have some space and time to think. Well Good Luck.

Answer 4

Well, I think that the fact that ur gf didn't even stop after u got on the car shows that she doesn't know how to control her anger. I also think that she is being very very selfish because we're talking about your mother who is supposed to be the most important person in your life. I have to admit that I have gotten a little mad with things related to my bf's mother, but I keep it to myself because it is extremely selfish and disrespectful to pretend my bf to have way before his mother. I think you should wait for a little while until she calms down and then try talking to her without yelling and explain how important it is for you to help your mother. If she starts yelling at you, dont panic, you try to stay calm and don't blame her for the bad moment because it will only get her madder. When she starts yelling try to let her talk too and tell her that u understand her point but u also want her to understand yours because your mother brought you to this world and she deserves your help.

Answer 5

she is wrong. the lady is ur mother n u c her 1 a year, she should no n respect that. if she cant do that, let her go, u DESERVE better than that.
my only concern is, ur trying 2 buy ur alcoholic mom a car. is ur mom ok now or is she stil an alcoholic? if she is then its not a good idea 4 her 2 b driving. she could b put in jail if she gets caut driving drunk or she could get rele hurt in an accident or worse.
but if shes ok then thats rele good 4 u that u want 2 help ur mom.

Good Luck n Hope I Helped

``-Anna-``

Answer 6

I completely think that your grilfriend is wrong---I don't understand why she is getting so upset. That's your mother and you love her---she has no idea what it means to be a supportive mate, and I'm sorry but that is the truth. Not only that but you tried to patch things up with her, and talk to her and she won't listen. Your girlfriend is acting very immature, but hopefully she'll come around. Just know you aren't wrong---continue to help your mom---

P.S.---Good luck for your mom, and I greatly respect you helping her...

Answer 7

first off your girl should of been understanding that important in a relationship she should of been okay with the situation so i believe she is the wrong one you didnt do anything wrong and you should talk talk to her about it and if she dosent want to change then its better to end it now and then

Answer 8

I think you are both in the wrong. You need to help your mother, and you need to treat your gf with respect. You both need to sit down and settle these issues before you end up hurting yourselves. She needs to understand and accept family issues on your end, and you need to understand and accept her needs, whatever they are.

Answer 9

Um hello....someone has jealously issues and its not u. Thats your MOM and u never get to see her, sounds like a selfish ***** to me (no offense)

Answer 10

If I was you I would run and don't look back.