Ok this friend of mine is divorced and has 2 sons. They are much younger than both of my children. I know that she needs help with them for a few days and has asked me to keep them. The problem is #1, her children have destroyed several of my older sons expensive toys. She does not know it and if she did, she could not replace them. #2, she thinks her sons would just have a blast with my son even through he is a teenager and they are 4th and 1st grade. She does not want to spend time with them because they are so destructive. #3, I now have a pool and I don't want that liablility without her being here to watch her own children. Frankly I do not work full time so that I can stay with my own children and watch them without that worry of who will keep them. It is only by grace and God's blessing I am able to do that and I feel badly that is not her situation but still I don't want to keep them. Also there is no pay involved. What would you do?
2007-06-20 10:11:12 · 7 answers · asked by I love the flipflops 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Use the pool excuse. I have done it many times. It works well. Tell her that you let your children play in the back yard when you're inside. Obviously her boys would want to follow suit, but you wouldn't be able to allow that b/c of the pool.
Or just simply say you do not feel comfortable watching someone else's children near a pool.
That should be good enough.
Alisha
2007-06-20 10:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by God: The Failed Hypothesis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just be honest with her and tell her how you feel. I know you will feel bad, but if she is a true friend she should understand. Honesty is the best policy!! Good Luck Sweetie!
2007-06-20 10:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you are unable to help her at this time. suggest the boys and girls club of America they only charge about $30.00 per child per year.
2007-06-20 10:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you at all...I would tell her that you have some sort of flu and aren't up to watching them.
2007-06-20 10:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that you can't. Tell her you have your hands full with your own family and you just can't handle it.
2007-06-20 10:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say no-
I don't blame you either.
2007-06-20 10:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by Alison 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all u have to do is say no and walk away
2007-06-20 10:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Riley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋