I have a problem and I don't want to seem like a horrible person?

Question

Okay. I dated this guy (Person A) at my job for about 5 or six months. There wasn't really anything there for me, but I was trying to make it work because he really liked me. However, before we started dating, I began to have a slight interest in someone else I work with. (Person B) I thought he was a really nice guy, and could be a good friend and maybe more.
Now, I'm not with Person A anymore. And, I don't really want to date or get in a relationship, but I would like to know Person B better.
The problem is, I don't want to come off as anything negative at my job because of this. I don't want people to think I'm just moving from co-worker to co-worker, because that is not the case at all.

Okay. I know co-workers are trouble. I already dated one. My problem is the other guy, who I know from outside of work, if that matters.

And I'm not at this job as often, I have another job as well.

Answer 1

Rule #1: Don't date co-workers.

Answer 2

The First Mistake You Did Was Date One Of Your Co-Workers! I Know That You Don't Want To Look Like A Slut But Buy You Dating "TWO" Of Your Co-Workers You Are Already Making People Talk About You.

Any Way If You Want To Start Dating Guy Number Two Go For It But Tell Him Straight Out That You Want To Keep It Professional At Your Job. Basically "Keeping It Un The Unders", Because Nobody Needs To Know Your Personal Life. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

Office romances are usually a bad idea.

Invariably something happens. They break up and one tries to punish the other on the job or they stay together and one tries to help the other on the job. I've watched it happen dozens of times. It just seems like the romance and the office will, sooner or later, get in each others way.

I have allowed myself a couple of friends at work but that only works out about half the time and that's with no contact outside the office.

I would seek out dating material somewhere else if I were you.

Answer 4

Girlfriend,
Number one rule to keeping your career and your reputation behind closed doors is NEVER date a co-worker. It does not work! Period.
Do you go to work to stock your date book, or do you go to work for personal growth and improvement and to pay your way in life?
I've worked at Corporations for a lifetime and here's what I've learned:
1) Guys talk
2) Women talk
3) Unhealthy relationships with co-workers get one of the two fired or released so that management can secure a functionally operating and financially successful company. period. Nine times out of ten, the woman gets the release or walking papers when a relationship has gone sour.
4) Your there to contribute to the financial bottom line not the personal.
5) Reputations at work get tarnished quicker than does the "call book" of the neighborhood hooker.
Forget about this other co-worker. Do your deep sea diving out in the world and keep the corridors of Company D to business.

Answer 5

First off that's your mistake not thinking for yourself just about what people will say, get to know Person B you tried with Person A it didn't work and you moved on. No matter what they say if you are trying to get to know Person B then that's what you do. People are going to think that no matter what about you even if you never would have dated Person A they would still think the same thing.

Answer 6

Do not worry about what other people say because they do not know your situation. People will talk regardless. It's unpreventable. I do not see anything wrong with it. You're not planning on dating him because you don't want a bf. You just want to get to know him more because he seems like a nice guy. I say go for it. A friend is a friend regardless of where they work. There's nothing wrong with being friends with him. Just don't move too fast in a relationship with him if you do decide to date him.

Answer 7

It's hardly ever a good idea to date someone you work with. If things don't work out there is usually some hard feelings between both.
However, to each their own - if you want to find out more about Person B, ask him out for coffee or a casual lunch - ppl that work together go for coffee and lunches all the time so no one should think anything of it.

Answer 8

Try not to get involved with co-workers. Alot of places might let you go because of that. You can try to get to know and be friends with anyone. If you have a relationship outside of work you can keep it outside of work. Meaning, if Person b and you exchange numbers secretly, and chat, get together to hang out or whatever, you can keep it to your self. w/o people knowing... It's best to keep that kind of thing under wraps anyway. Saves ur rep and his.
Take care

Answer 9

As a quote attributed to Voltaire would state, "To care what people think is to be controlled by them."

Since you are no longer with person A, you have every right to be with person B. Your co-worker's opinions are important only if you consider them to be important. Consider other people's opinions carefully, evaluating if they are being made in good faith, and then make the decision that is best for your situation.

Answer 10

It depends on how many people work for your company. If it is a pretty close knit crew, that may not be a good idea. Does person A know person B? That may not be good either. I think that "getting to know" person B better may not be a bad idea especially if you don't want to be in a relationship. But if dating person be is your intention, you should at least try to put some time between them.