DO YOU THiNK THiS iS FAiR??

Question

I have 2 older brothers. I'm the youngest and my the only girl I'm 13. My brothers are 25 and 15. Okay the 25 eyar old one my dad gives money to . My dad pays for everything for him and has paid for lawyers for him over $1,000s of dollars waisted on him. My other brother the 15 year old one is dumb !! He always needs summer school and my dad's gonna waist $500 on him this year and he has waisted $500 on him every year . Me on the other hand is smart i never needed summer school and my dad never gives me a any money and its not fair. I mean my birthday's coming up and i said dad cna i have 500 $ and he said no because my brother needs it more than me im always left out . i even wanted to have it at a nice cheap but he said no . do you think this is fair ?? Also i spend all day babysitting my 25 year old brother's kid and they dont even pay me its not fair !!

Sorry about the grammar errors its because I get nervous when I type stuff. Also because I type fast.

Answer 1

I'm not gonna watch the grammer because you made a point that you are smarter than you brothers. It doesn't matter how good YOU are at school. So my point was... you are only 13 and what do you expect to get? When I was at yours age I had money only to buy myself something to eat and in the occasions when I had safed money - i bought candy. 500 $ ?!?!?! Sorry but are you crazy?! For what the hell are you going to use those money? Your dad spends money on education or on your brother needs. If you had to go to summer school he would give those money for you. But don't act like you know everything! Your dad was the one who was working to earn those money. I am not very old - only 17, but I know that money is not something important and even if it was get a job and then start being childish and saying what is fair and what is not.
And another thing is that ... In my country you don't get money for babysitting. It's something that relativs do for free. If they were going to pay someone they would probably hire someone. Maybe your parents want to safe some money or you haven't thought about that?! You need to understand that it's not about giving money away, it's the purpose people do it.
I have a brother and I have always felt like we are being compared. When I took my exams with better grades I realized that it's quiet wrong to ask to get or the be what the other one is... Think about this.

p.s.: it's quiet late so it's normal to make mistakes while writing....

Answer 2

AH! Sounds just like me! I was the smart young one. My brother still lives with my parents, I moved out when I had the chance to come back to the USA. Unfortunately, I got my parents to lend me some money so I could start off and get whatever job I could (2 years later I am still paying them back). No it is not fair at all, but in a way, in the end it will help you be a much more independent person because once you can, and you are old enough, you will get a stable job and get your own income and buy everything you wanted without ever asking again and getting NO for an answer.
Don't envy your brothers, I would pity them, specially the 25 year old. Being that age and cannot even pay for his own things??? I tell my mom she is not helping my 32 year olf brother by still supporting some of his things, life is hard as an adult, he is not learning to take care of himself!
Is there a way that maybe you and your friends can get some money together and get you an inexpensive celebration? Each can bring something made, pitch in and enjoy! I would negotiate the babysitting part too...

Answer 3

It's not fair. But when you get older you will be the more independent person and be able to do the things that you want to do because you know what responsibility is. Your brother's will not always have your dad to bail them out. It really sad that your twenty five year old brother needs money from you dad. I am twenty five year old women and i would never be with a man that has to go to his parents for money. Your 15 year brother need to be educated and if that means to take him to summer school then mean he needs it. Some people are not has smart has the next person and they need that extra boost. You should be proud that your brother is trying to help him self. That the problem with been smart and responsible that you get punish. Trust me you will be rewarded later in life. You will be on top of your game. Your dad is not teaching you 25 year brother nothing. It like giving a nine year a cookie and telling him to go clean his room. He will never do it because he has his reward. It sad my brother is the same. My foster parent keep on giving him a new car ever time he crash his car. Every time he was either drunk or high. He learn nothing and now they do nothing for him and he is struggling. Because he does not know how to do it him self.

Answer 4

"Me on the other hand is smart."

Might want to work on your grammar if you want to convince the rest of us that this is true.

In either case, it is hard to say that it is unfair or not unfair. For one thing, paying for summer school is completely different than just giving someone some money. Besides, how much money did they get when they were 13? If you can show that they were getting tons of money when they were your age, then you have a legitimate argument. Otherwise, your circumstances are different, and thus what money you get is different. Wait a few years, and if you are still getting slighted, then you've got a right to complain.

That said, I do totally agree with you that it is unfair to make you babysit and not give you anything for it. You should talk to your dad about this, but do it in a calm and professional manner. If you act with respect and maturity, you are more likely to be treated with respect and maturity. Good luck!

Answer 5

I went through the same thing all my life and I still do. My brother is only one year older. I always made better grades, but he was the one who would get rewarded for them. For Christmas I had to watch him open big elaborate gifts while I just got pajamas. My parents have always felt that he needed more help because I was the more responsible one and that they knew I would be successful. Well the reason I was being so responsible was to try to get their attention. So now we are grown (almost 30) and it's still the same. I went through periods in my life where I would beg for money because I couldn't afford groceries "We just gave the last of our money to your brother". I always wanted to go to school, they paid for him to go and drop out all 3 times! We'll I made it on my own. And I'm proud of myself. I did it with out any help. My brother has done nothing but rack up debt (which my parents pay for). So even though it doesn't seem fair (I still get upset) it made me a better person. I strived to make it on my own for my parents acceptance. Even though I don't feel like I ever got it, I got something more important, my own acceptance. I'm proud of who I am and what I've become and what I've earned all on my own.

Answer 6

Okay, it's fair.

"Me on the other hand is smart i never needed summer school and my dad never gives me a any money and its not fair."

Sure, you're smart. Keep telling yourself that. You're also 13 years old, you don't need 500 bucks. You SHOULD get paid for babysitting, that is the truth. I'd hold out and demand some form of compensation for your time.

Otherwise, quit your complaining, you're 13.

Answer 7

Well I would tell your Brother that you are not going to Babysit for him any more in less he pays you.You are old enough now that if you do chores around the house you should get an allowance every week,talk to your Dad about that and Mom if she is around,you don't mention her.Stick to your Guns when you tell your Brother that you will not watch his kid for free anymore! Good Luck My Dear.

Answer 8

in a way i have to agree that this is totally unfair. I'm 13 too and my best friend has a little brother; he gets absolutely everything!!! it annoys me to no end! but i also have to say that life isn't fair. and maybe hes not paying you as much money because he might not think you are old enough to handle it; trust me i get that talk all the time!

Answer 9

Not fair at all. But is life at 13. Maybe set up some paying babysitting gigs around your neighborhood. Then you will have some of your own money, and won't be available for free sitting.

Answer 10

maybe you should voice your oppinion to your dad. dont yell or agrue just sit him down and tell him you work hard to keep your grades up, you try in school, you behave and baby sit. its not like you flunk grades and sit around watching tv all day. and you would just like to have a birthday party or something, you want to be treated like the rest. tell him that you dont expect alot but something is better then nothing. maybe you dads not ruch and hes trying hard to pay for your brothers lawers and you other brohters summer school. maybe he has some resions of his own that you might not know about so sit down with him and talk to him about it. you will never know why he cant give you money untill you ask him. good luck!