what is with women and sex these days?

Question

Like most guys in highschool and college I pretty much had sex with every girl I dated. I considered it a prerequisite. now that I am more mature and don't see it as such. now that I try to play it cool and get to know women, I have discovered that if I dont try to fugg them, that they end up trying to fugg me.

Just yesterday I recieved oral sex from a co-worker in the parking lot after work. That kinda of thing NEVER happened when i was young and wanted to happen. Now it seems to be happening with regularity. What the heck is going on with women these days? Is that I am dealing with older shick who aren't afraid. Are is it something else?

Answer 1

Now, now, now, $0.02..... Don't say "most guys". You know there are a lot of y'all who ain't hittin' it but lie about it to preserve the supa dupa playa image. LOL

Anyway....

There could be any number of reasons for what you're experiencing. Here are a few possibilities:

1) As others have pointed out, women reach their sexual peak later in life. It is said that men peak at/around 18 and that women peak at/around 30. This is, of course, not written in stone.

2) Are you getting approached by women who are relatively older? Some women enjoy having their engines cranked by younger men.

3) As you are probably well aware, many women tend to have self esteem issues as they age. Research shows that sexual activity raises testosterone levels in both men and women. And one result is a heightened belief in one's attractiveness. So women who have self esteem issues may generally be more likely to engage in sexual intercourse because they want to feel good about themselves. Another result of higher testosterone levels is an increased desire for intercourse. This is why men are generally more aggressive than women (higher testosterone levels). Well, increased testosterone levels also cause more aggression in women. Exercise raises testosterone levels as well. (I mention this since many women also exercise due to concerns about their appearance.)

4) Even nowadays, the result of women enjoying sexual behavior is often times that they are viewed negatively. I'm sure we all know how much worse this can be in high school. Once you leave high school, you don't have to deal with the same pressures to fit into any kind of mold. Sure, peer pressure still exists but not to the same degree, frequency, etc... A woman may have to tolerate one "bad apple" at work who calls her a whore, a few mean spirited people in her neighborhood who point and snicker, or an annoying twit in the grocery store who remembers what another annoying twit told him/her and decides to pester her about said rumor. These are, of course, just a few examples. And I do realize that things are not the same in every area with regards to this matter. My point is that there is a huge difference between adult life and having to endure being in the presence of hundreds of children for several hours each day, many of whom are cruel. So adult women who have left high school are generally not as likely to give a damn about the double standards involving men, women, and sex.

Answer 2

1) Maybe the women were "reserved" in high school and college; now they want to be active.
2) They find u really attractive
3) They don't care or
4) They're jump offs
Just some of the possibilities.
Find yourself a girlfriend not a jump off.

Answer 3

damn, what happen to your other profile? iv only been gone for a month.
the answer to your question is simple. in high school, female try to keep a good rep, sleeping around in high school can lead to a real bad reputation, and fu ck ed up roomers. hoes, sluts,hood-rat, etc. once you get it in your mind your grown and i can do what ever i want when i want, a lot of us act on it . why not? its almost like letting the cat out of the box. thats why it may be happening to you and other much more often than in high school.
ps sex is a part of life, people are going to have sex the old us woman get more and more we start to realize it.
pss one of my famous quotes: i try not to be seen as an object to men, after awhile, im not seen at all.

Answer 4

As women get older they mature sexually. Women are often taught to be insecure about their bodies and sexuality when they are younger. They see a lot of negative stigmas surrounding sex. As they get older, they know what they want and what they are comfortable with. And as someone mentioned earlier, women reach their peak later in life.

Why are you complaining about it? Was it not consensual, did you have a problem with receiving?

I doubt it.

Answer 5

Well, I for one prefer a guy that wants to get to know me and hang out before ever going there - and I've been divorced twice and I like sex . . . but I have self respect and don't just give it away to any guy. Some women do still have morals and know that sex should be something special - others have become players.

Answer 6

Your coolness draws attention, more so on a confident level, I'd say. Too, with being grown, it's ya own damn business and some people don't care what anyone else thinks, at least that is how I feel. ;)

Answer 7

wow, you're the type of guy who will take oral from a girl in the parking lot of your job?? You should stick with the girls that just want to *** they're more on your level.

Answer 8

who cares why??? Did you ask the chick who blew you in the parking lot why she was blowing you??? Of course you didn't!!! So stop asking why and go with it! You make it sound like a bad thing!

Answer 9

I suppose your co-worker put a knife to your chest before she forced you into oral sex?

Answer 10

Women reach there sexual peak much later than men. She's just going through her horny stage like you were.