We let this cousin of ours set up his FEMA camper in our yard after Hurricane Katrina. It has been coming up on 2 years and he makes no move to go find an apartment. He just sits out there on his wide as-s and now has a sullen attitude toward us. What would you do to get him out of your yard? What a damned freeloader!
2007-06-20 09:41:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well, I believe in family, but I also hate freeloaders - I have had my share of freeloaders over the years already.
The best way to get family to move along is to help family directly. If it wasnt family, I would just say time for an eviction notice!
You need to talk to your cousin. Find out if he intends to stay in the area or move somewhere else. If he wants to move, find out where he wants to move to.
Next step - get him cleaned up, shaven, hair cut, groomed, new clothes. A day out for shopping just for him.
Next - new job. Find him a job wherever he wants to live. If in another location, get the newspapers and find a place that will hire. People are always looking to hire.
Finally, find him a place to live. Help him with packing and moving.
It might cost some money to do all this, but in the end if you be positive about everything all the time and try to lift his spirits, maybe he will respond in kind and get off his lazy behind and do something. You will also be in his debt in the end. Dont go hounding him to repay you for what you did - just do it to get him out of your yard!
2007-06-20 09:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by MrKnowItAll 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I feel sorry for him; FEMA camper, Hurricane Katrina.
It was good of you to let him set up outside.
Tell him you're going to help him find a place to live; take him to look at places that would be appealing to him and affordable. He's probably in deep depression and needs to literally be pushed into doing anything.
It sounds like he's alone and that would make things more difficult so he needs motivation and help. I guess you're the only family he has to be with so it's hard on the both of you, but if you can start the process of getting him out to re-locate, it may help.
Good Luck to the both of you.
2007-06-20 17:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by cut-it-out 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Make em start paying rent. This will motivate him to find someone else to mooch off of.
I have a feeling of what you are going through. Twice I have reached out to friends in an effort to help (live rent free in my house while they were in school, they just quit school and partied all the time). Both ended up believing I was the creep for throwing them out. I have to work, wake up early, there were people in my house I did not know. And when stuff ended up missing, they were gone.
so I feel ya, If charging rent doesn't work, you may have to bite the bullet and just throw him out. Ask yourself some questions: Has the relationship already soured? Is it really a relationship you wish to continue? Are you better off just not associating with person altogther?
The party guys I through out later grew up and now we are friends again. But we are not as close as we were. I still believe it was the right thing to do. Sometimes good deeds came back to bite you in the a**. Good luck!
2007-06-20 16:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i can relate a little with this question. you need to stop letting him freeload off you, first and foremost is the attitude to get about this..... another thing is, tell him you need that space his camper is taking up to plant a garden, make up some excuse like that you know? or say its killing your grass i dont know, think of something. OR you could say you're having trouble with your bills, and would he help out? which you wouldn't be lying, he does owe you some rent money if he's staying on your property. the worst thing to do is just let him leech off you all for another day, do something now!
2007-06-20 16:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't make me sound like i'm cheap. If you were paying attention you would have read that I was under that pretense that I was in a reletionship that I thought was going somewhere. Secondly if you did not have anything positive to say (in case you hadn't notice I was asking for advice) don't say anything at all! you are lucky that we can't get wordly on this site cause i would surely bless you with some unclean words. Nobody is perfect and I alllowed something stupid to happen but you talk as though you are so righteous and have never done anything ungodly. Please whoever the hell you are by pass my qeustions you hear!!!!!!!!
2007-06-20 18:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by nessa913 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a local policeman and ask him to come by and tell him he has to move because of a zoning ordinance. I am not sure if there is one or not, but most communities have them and he probably will not know the difference.
Then you and your husband can push the issue telling him you don't want to get fined or in trouble.
2007-06-20 16:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by don n 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Invite the guy above who likes the smell of his own farts! That'll get rid of him quick!!
Seriously, what have you SAID to him? If you haven't already, you might have to just tell him it's time to go. Of course, nicer than that, and of course, you do risk the relationship, but it sounds like he's done a good job at that all ready...
J.
2007-06-20 17:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by Bookworm4224 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's an expression that goes, "No one can take advantage of you without your permission." Tell your cousin he needs to find another place and help him find one if necessary. You don't have to accept what he's doing. It's YOUR yard.
2007-06-20 16:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by clarity 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You give him a reasonable date to be out of your yard, and tell him if he isn't out by that time, you will have the Sheriff evict him. And follow through.
2007-06-20 16:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Karin C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
During conversation thell them what Ann Landers said:
A visitor and fish are very much alike.......after three days they both start stinking. Pops
2007-06-20 16:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by Pops 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋