I was recently hurt by this guy and I am really angry. I am a christian and I am battling heavily with the devil because I want this guy to pay for what he did. He slept with me under the pretense that we were together and then in the middle of the act hhe got really rough (sexually) and I told him to stop. When he did he was like I have to go. and then he said he and the mother of his child are really trying to work things out and he has no feelings for me and its not his fault I have feelings for him. He said he bet if he ask me to go at it again I would because I'm weak when it comes to him. Then he was like lets do it again and I was like hell no and he was like wow you stronger than I thought. After that night I sat down and plotted his murder. I was going to kill him. I walked with my weapon every day but I never saw him. Meanwhile I was praying for deliverance because I didn't want to go to jail (I am a single mother so my child would have suffered the most). Finally STAY TUNED!
2007-06-20 09:40:29 · 19 answers · asked by nessa913 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Finally God delivered me and I no longer feel as angry but guess what? He came knocking on my door yesterday (3 different times during the course of the day) and I know if I was still as angry I would have opened my door and killed him right there on the spot. But now I am wondering how to go about forgoting that the whole thing ever happened. I am still upset about the situation and what makes it worse is that he has the nerve to come knocking after what he did. Can I have some spiritual guidance please. No stupid comments please.
2007-06-20 09:46:00 · update #1
Jesus would've hunted him down.
2007-06-20 09:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lets talk about your problem not his, you are weak to not know what type of man he was before having sex with him, look how he has hurt others and imagine his child how messed up he will be without a father or this kind of example as a father. This is what you are getting involved with, a controling lying man, why do you like this type of man is more the question over should you kill him because the world is full of these types. You hurt yourself and be thankful the hurt was not deeper before you learned the truth. Imagine you are this girl with the kid, that's what you were headed for, your problem is with your own family not him, these are things you should be talking to with your own family not yahoo questions. your behavior does not sound Christian at all but I am not saying I do not understand I have wanted to kill others before also and planned it but lucky for me never happened.
My advice is consider what was wrong about this guy and learn from your mistakes and do not look for characteristics like this again, and make sure you at least think of lasting relationships before sex with a man.
2007-06-20 16:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by sirromo4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are a Christian the first thing you need to battle is the sex out of marriage thing. If you had not done that the other things would not have happened. By letting Satan in to allow that one act everything else snowballed. Put everything in Gods hands and he will take care of it. Vengeance is mine saith the Lord. Remember that If God wants redemption for what was done it is His to get and not yours. Put your Christian priorities in perspective and talk to someone from your church. Sometimes it is the first mistake that causes all the others and that is just Gods way of showing us his power and then it is up to us to choose whether will continue to follow that path or change.
2007-06-20 17:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by debbie f 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel really disgruntled by your question. The thing is, if you are a Christian, then you should have never allowed yourself to be in this position in the first place. The other thing is that you have not mentioned anywhere in you article that you have repented of this wrong to God.
I know we all do stupid things at somepoint, but you need to think about my questions.
I am sure you are hurting now and this is quite normal, but you do not have to do anything so drastic. The fact is that guy betrayed your trust, but isnt it kind of what you did to Jesus? Why arent you worried that you sinned against him. The same thing that the young man did to you is the same thing that you did to God. You are behaving like the unjust servant spoken of by Jesus in the Gospels.
Please think this through, what if God was to treat us the way that we deserved? Wouldnt we all be dead?
I am sure that you must be really angry and you have all right to be, but the thing is, all of us get hurt at one point in our lives. We dont go around killing people for it because this would make us just like them. The Bible says to be angry but sin not.
Think about your child. What would happen to him/her?
Wouldnt yopu be doing him/her an injustice? Would that be fair to him/her? What if he/she decided to pick up where you left off?
Where deliverance is concerned i think you need to visit a church with real spiritual gifts so that they can pray you through your situation. It is quite posible tat you have picked up an unclean spirit from this guy which is causing you to have all these negative thoughts.
You need a spiritual breakthrough. Pray and ask God to send help. I am certain that he will. But first you must tell Him that you are sorry for what you did. Do not let that evil get the best of you anymore.
God bless and keep you.
AFTERr reading the rest.
I am really proud of you for sticking it out. Look, the Bible says to shun the very presense of evil. Get real radical and plead the Blood of Jesus in his face if you have to. Jesus rebuked Peter many times. Get some scripture in your head and use them. God has not given you a Spirit of fear but rather one of power. Use your God given talent to rid yourself of this demon. Trust the Spirit of God to lead you. The Bible says the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through Christ Jesus. Go in the name of Jesus!
2007-06-20 17:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am dealing kind of the same thing. I was engaged he was cheating and he walked out and left the month before our wedding. God was looking out for me when he left. I would have had a bad marriage to him. the ex blamed me for his cheating and I started to believe it. I got right with God and I have come to understand that the devil knows our weaknesses and when we do live right and get right with God that is when the devil reeks havoc in our life. It is the devil messing with you. I get text messages from the ex telling me how much he loves me and blah blah blah. You just have to rely very heavily on your faith and believe that God has a greater plan for us. He molds us to be what he wants us to be. God bless I hope this helps.
2007-06-20 16:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not wise or necessary to forget what happened. If you were to forget what happened, it would be likely that you would let him use you again.
Forgive him for what he has done to you. Forgiving means not holding any anger or grudge against the people who have hurt you.
If he comes back again, politely tell him that you have forgiven him, but you have no place for him in your life. Also tell him that any further contact will be taken as a threat against you and you will call the police to protect you.
2007-06-20 16:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLY COW! I just read some of these comments and a couple of them are extremely judgmental. Yes, it goes against the Christian belief to partake in sex before marriage, but that does NOT give them the right to belittle you for your actions. Everyone makes mistakes, even Christians, so please don't let comments like these discourage you. You're right in thinking that the Enemy is attacking you because he'll do anything in his power to get you to sin when he sees you trying to better your life for God. Continue to pray for the Lord to give you strength and surround yourself with the people who will encourage and support you through this. Remember that everything in life happens for a reason...even the crappy stuff. Yet God intends for good to come out of it. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
~Jeremiah 29:11 (New International Version)~
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=30&chapter=29&verse=11&version=31&context=verse
Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.
~James 1:2-3 (New International Version)~
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=James%201:2-3;&version=31;
2007-06-20 16:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kori spelled backwards is Irok 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to forgive him for yourself as well as for the boy who did this to you. However, learn from this experience and DO NOT allow him to slither his way back into your life. Just because you forgive does not mean you have to be played again. As a wise person once said, "why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?" This is why the Lord set boundaries for us in His Word, not to be mean or prevent us from having fun...but to keep us from getting hurt! God bless.
2007-06-20 16:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by HeVn Bd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Crow!
It's normal, natural, and even healthy to have rage after being mistreated, but you mustn't loose your perspective and do something you know is wrong. I second the idea of going to counseling to find healthy ways to channel this anger. Your pastor may be able to help you.
Revenge on this scumbag isn't worth what it would cost you and your child. He isn't worth it. Put the weapon away and separate yourself from him.
2007-06-20 16:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok honey, you say you are a Christian...yet you in one paragraph have committed adulty, murder, hate, and self sabatogh not to mention what this is all going to do to your baby......it's time to get real here honey, step back take a deep breath and really look at this situation before you make it any worse....please listen....
As a single mom, I understand how lonley it can get...I have made my share of mistakes like this..yes I too did these very things...BUT...I realized If I hadnt put myself in the position in the first place, it would have never happened..and you got off easy, mine molested my baby, stalked me and tried to kill us several times, I put him in prison 13 years ago and he just got out...(I never dated any criminals and he didnt seem like one until his mask came off) anyway...you walked into this situation, and I am proud of you for saying no to it again..I can understand the feelings of wanting to kill him, I know them well...but God showed me something...I deserve to have a good man in my life and so do you..you followed your own heart which led to a worldly situation and disaster..but it is over and you were given the chance to start again..it was hard for me not to choose the hate, anger, and killing him to which being a butchers daughter I am well capable of..and had the chance to do so...I wanted to so bad...But God told me one night, I would stand in front of him for what I do not him...he will take care of his own sins..I had to forgive him and know that I was the one who put myself in that postion...I had to also forgive myself...I quit seeing anyone for 5 years and started to follow my road to knowing myself instead, I left it up to God about a man and really got to know my children who needed me more than I needed another looser in my life. Honey give yourself a chance here to heal..love yourself and forgive yourself for just wanting love and picking a real looser. Dont hate him, he is doing enough of that for all of us. He will pay for his sins but not by your hand..by his own. I now have a awesome man who is faithful and above and beyond all I could ask or think....cause God sent him to me...be honest....either you will be a Christian..and Jesus would not act in this manner...or you wont. it's your choice. God loves you and has the perfect man for you too. Don't make it worse by letting hate govern you. If you want love, give it. I hope you choose the good, I have never been so peaceful and happy.....dont be a victim, be a survivor!
2007-06-20 17:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by rowdysunsetart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe its a sign God doesn't want you to murder?
cause then he might go to heaven which if you draw bodies for the h and n in heaven is two men carrying a casket, the n is missing part-of a arm. So if you want to say your departed went to heaven invite a one-armed man to the funeral and a god(h).
2007-06-20 16:46:00 · answer #11 · answered by Lord of all Earth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋